Hi. Got a local place I have been eating at for years. Very nice place. I've worked in hospitality years back and I know it's a rough job and so I always try and be polite to the staff whether I'm making an order or receiving food. The staff have always been polite back to me. There's a waitress there who I have found has a indifferent bordering on rude attitude to me. I'll order something and then say Thank You and they won't respond and just serve the next person. They'll bring food out and put it on the table and walk off. You say Thank You and they'll hardly acknowledge you let alone saying anything back. Recently they brought out a coffee and pretty much just dropped it on the table before walking off. On the flipside, other waitstaff bring something out, I say Thank You and the will always reply positively. It's annoying as there's customers who will come in and be rude or act like they have main character syndrome. But you try and make an effort to be cool to people, and they act like indifferent snobs. So, am I the asshole?

Picture this - you get an amazing job with even better benefits. It sounds like a dream, but that is far from the truth. Originally posted to Confessions, but they said it would be better here! So, Reddit, AITA? Last year, I was offered a job for an electric company. It is known for paying well and having good employee benefits. It was nothing major - according to the job posting. Just answer phones, talk to people, seemed easy. It turned out to be way more than that. While being in training, I realized this job was nothing like the posting. I had to cut off customers' power, deal with collections, get rid of sympathy entirely, deal with unnecessary stress from other employees, change my entire wardrobe, and much more. I had to conform to things I was very much against. Have you ever heard someone begging for their power on to save a family member? I did. I will share some of my stories below. I get the command to turn off power at a specific location. I do so, and the resident calls in. In the background, I hear someone struggling to breathe. Her mother was on an oxygen machine and, due to me turning off the electricity, was struggling to breathe (aka, survive). I attempted to speak with other employees, reason to turn the power on, and I was told to keep it off until she could pay her bill, PLUS a deposit on top of that. An older man called. I noticed his power had been off for maybe three days. He asked if we had any assistance or programs through the company. We did not, so I asked if he had called 211. He did, but their assistance would not come in immediately. So, I had to keep his power off. Another man had called in. He was due for disconnect that morning and could not pay. Again, I was told there was nothing I could do. No extensions. Nothing. Later that day, he came into the office and collapsed on our floor. When paramedics arrived, he was talking and breathing normally, but he still collapsed and was having a medical episode. All because he could not pay yet, and we did nothing for him. I would often get called out because of my clothing and how I made supposed mistakes. I am bigger in certain areas, any clothing is going to show that. I was told it was distracting and people were complaining. I could not help this, it was going to show either way. Coworkers would make mistakes and then blame them on me. Then, after revision, it was determined to not be me at fault. Anyways, just needed to confess some things. Those are only a few stories I recall. This was a while ago, no locations will be revealed. If anyone is interested, I have much more to confess! I feel extremely guilty about what I did, but I was following what I was told to do. It was that or get fired, which I did end up getting fired. TLDR: I worked for a power company, turned off power for those in need. AITA?

A guy from my basket ball team asked me to pick him up from his house and he lived close to me and I got along with him well so I told him I would. When I was driving he asked if he could have the aux which I was fine with so I let him have the aux. Now the porblem is that he would turn the music waaaay the fuck up and everytime I'd turn it down 10-15 seconds later he would turn it back up until after about 4 times I told him hey bro its a little loud for me do you mind not touching the volume ( I actually liked the dj set he put on it was just too loud) and he said nah bro I'm on aux so I pick the volume to which I replied nah man not in my car and if you keep messing with the volume after I turn it down I'm kicking you out. Then I shit you not this 22 year old man just turns off the radio sits in his seat and mutters "most retarded shit i've ever heard" and then proceeds to ignore me for the rest of the car ride which was only about 10 mins just stared out the window. Like trust me I get it music is better when its loud but max volume radio is a bit too much

Okay so I am very meticulous about cleaning especially when it comes to the bathroom. Since there are so many small areas that can’t be cleaned with large brushes I decided to use a toothbrush. There have been 4-5 toothbrushes in a cup for the longest time that I swear nobody touches. I have a bunch of siblings and me and my sister keep our toothbrushes in our rooms. I’m not sure about my brothers but I’ve never seen anyone use the toothbrushes in the cup in the bathroom. I swear they’ve been collecting dust. Anyways I just grabbed one of the oldest looking toothbrushes and cleaned the toilet, corners of the shower, the sink, you know all the small spots. After I was done I scrubbed the toothbrush clean and put it in the drawer I leave all the cleaning supplies in. This drawer includes the sprays, sponge, cloths, brushes, squeegee, cleaning pastes, etc. Next day I go to clean the bathroom again (as I do everyday) and the toothbrush was gone from the drawer and back inside the cup above the sink. Obviously I freaked and went to ask my siblings who used the toothbrush that was in the drawer and my eldest brother, 19 years old, said it was him and asked why I moved his brush. Now I just wanna ask yall, if yall see your toothbrush gone and find it inside the drawer with the cleaning supplies, would yall grab a new toothbrush from the cabinet or proceed to use the old toothbrush from the cleaning supplies drawer? I mean I feel like it’s common sense to not use that toothbrush but my brother disagrees. He ended up using the old toothbrush and putting it back inside the cup therefore contaminating the toothbrushes inside the cup and his mouth (yes gross i know)I told him that he just used the toothbrush that I used to clean the toilet and he’s pissed and convinced I did it on purpose to mess with him. Now he’s threatening to take my toothbrush and wipe the toilet with it to get back at me. But I don’t think I’m at fault here. Yeah I probably should’ve just grabbed a new toothbrush for the cabinet and used that one but I thought it was a waste to use a new toothbrush for scrubbing the toilet. Plus yall I really dont think they ever use those toothbrushes. So yeah, AITA? 😬

(Throwaway acct) My girlfriend always offers to share her food with everyone when we go out to eat. I’ve asked her why she does this, and she says it’s just how she was raised, to always make sure everyone else at the table is taken care of before she eats anything. I’ve told her multiple times that, while it is an admirable gesture, she doesn’t have to do that, and that no one will judge her for not offering her food because they have their own meals. This isn’t just with shareable items, either. She will offer bites of her burger, or pasta, or soup, and other things that are simply not easily split, usually ending up with another person taking direct bites or stabbing their used forks and depositing their saliva into her food. Aside from the ick factor, I have also told her that she really needs to avoid offering her meal when we dine out with my friend Brian (fake name) because he’s the type the person who has no self-control with food, and zero social awareness to understand that “help yourself” does not mean “you can eat all of it and I won’t mind”. This has happened a lot in the past, where he’ll house 90% of a shared appetizer plate because the rest of us were talking and being polite, and he just assumed that meant we weren’t hungry. I wouldn’t care as much if he paid for it, but he’s almost always broke, and doesn’t seem to understand what tax and tip are. If the item was listed as $11.99 in the menu, when the check comes, he’ll toss in exactly $12 and think he’s square. I know most of you are going to ask why I’m even still friends with Brian if I hate eating with him, but please understand that he’s a really great guy and a reliable friend, he just has a troublesome relationship with food. That’s not the only facet of his personality, just the only one relevant to this post. Last night, we were out again with friends, and my girlfriend once again offered her meal to everyone, Brian included. I didn’t want to make a scene, but I gave her a little nudge and she just gave me a shrug in return. Unsurprisingly, Brian ended up eating most of her food (as well as his own plate), and my girlfriend didn’t say anything. On the way home, she asked if we could stop by a fast food place because she didn’t get much to eat, and I told her she should’ve just eaten the food she ordered instead of offering it to the table. I said this was exactly why I warned her, and that she’s seen the way Brian is with food, and that she shouldn’t have been surprised when he ate more than she was actually intending to let him. I still stopped to get her something, but I also complained that I don’t enjoy paying for Brian’s meal, since he basically ate all of hers. I might have been harsh, but this has come up multiple times, and she knows I’m not a fan of it. I could tell she was upset when I said it, and she still is now. She hasn’t called me an asshole, but she’s making me feel like one, and I think we’re both expecting the other to apologize first. So, AITA?

try to hook up with me i asked for more time off and a big raise? And i’m now doing less work that i was doing before? He said he could not stay in the same office as me and offer immediate work from home job should i say yes? I’m i the asshole because i want to leave ?

I (20) have been sharing a college apartment with a friend of a friend (19) for a couple months now and recently a problem has arised where they will not stop taking my food. It doesn’t matter what it is, they will take it. They’ve taken my meal prep, they’ve taken ingredients, they’ve even drank all my protein shakes. I keep telling them to stop, I’ve even tried buying a mini fridge but they will just go into my room. They say that it’s not fair because they don’t have a scholarship like I do and their parents don’t send them very much money for groceries. They have a meal plan but for some reason are still insistent that they are starving. I go to the gym and i’m very health conscious so I like to meal prep for the week but they keep taking it and throwing off my meal plan. We got in a blow up argument about it this week and they made a comment about how I make so much food there’s no reason why I can’t share some of it and this is where I might be the asshole, I told them that maybe they should worry less about eating and worry more about hitting the gym. For context, they are overweight and I know they are insecure about it but I was just so fed up with all my food being stolen. I don’t make a lot at my part time job so I can’t keep affording to buy two sets of groceries. AITA?

I want to help my mom financially by sending her money monthly after child support ends. Maybe like 500$ a months. That’s like 3 extra hours a week of work and she’s getting old, she’s working like 55 hours a week and I want to help her out you know she’s my mom. Girlfriend, says that I’m being retarded, saying that my mom doesn’t need it.(Which may be true. But I want to help regardless) She’s stating points such as: 1. Your money is my money and if I say you can’t spend 500$ on your mom, that means you can’t. My argument: I spend so much money on you (rent, groceries, activities, vacations, living expenses) for months, so you can focus on building your nail business (doing so makes me work 35-40 hours non stop a week). But because I want to help my mom, I’m not allowed to? Idk man 2. That I’m not prioritizing her and our relationship? Because I’m spending my 500$ a month for my mom which she says I could spend on her advertisement or investments like the S&P, OR A HOUSE! My Argument: spent the last 4 and a half years prioritizing our relationship. Giving up college and hours of my life to help her business and give her a better life. And I’ll be continuing to do so, just I’ll be also helping my mom on the side. But if I do that I’m changing my priorities? 3. I shouldn’t work an extra 3 hours a day because that would take time away from me to work on my own business. My argument: I already work 35-40 hours a week to help fund her life, an extra 3 will not change much 4. She’s saying that this decision changes her perspective of our relationship. Why is she investing on her nail business and doing nails if I’m not gonna fully invest in her. My Argument: I’ve been (again) Investing on her for the last 4 years, and I will continue to do so. But because I want to spend a little bit of my money to help my mom, it’s going to make you stop working for me? After everything I’ve done? I guess some context: we’re not really wealthy obviously. Often times I do complain about money and stress about it (I’m human). But I always make sure to have enough and pay for everything. And she’s upset because she feels guilty. But feeling guilty only gets you so much. And honestly, she doesn’t really work that hard on her business. Like many days of the week she just spends at home. So I’m like 95% financially responsible for everything. And yeah, I guess my mom doesn’t NEED the money. But I want to help. But that’s such a big problem. My mom has asked me to help, but said I don’t need to if I don’t want to. Easy manipulation trick but I genuinely just want to help. I don’t know. Kinda the whole situation. This ain’t really about the 500$. It’s just more about her response and reaction to it that bothers me. I need to hear what you guys think.

My friend (20f) is very into video games and anime. I am not, but I respect my friends' interests and always encourage them to discuss them with me, as even though I don't always understand everything, I am glad my friend has a place to talk about stuff that they enjoy. Anyway, a video game my friend likes updated a character's backstory, and apparently, because of the new update, there is a debate on whether or not these two characters are siblings or dating. My friend thinks they are siblings. They were explaining this to me and said they get mad how people are romantically shipping them. I was confused, as I didn't understand what the big deal was, as I thought that, because they are fictional characters, it doesn't really matter at the end of the day, especially since the creators have not made anything canon yet. They said that it makes them uncomfortable when people romantically ship them. They then asked me if I would be uncomfortable, and I said no and that I wouldn't really care. Now, they will not talk to me. I have reached out and apologized, but they won't respond to me. It hurts as we have been close friends for a while, and it makes me feel as if the entire friendship didn't matter to them. I understand that this ship is important to them, but since they are not real people, I thought it was okay for me to share my opinion, but maybe I shouldn't have. AITAH? Edit: grammar and typo

AITA for not prioritizing my relationship with my father? I love my dad and I know he has tried his best but if I’m honest I don’t feel any need to maintain a relationship with him. Let me explain, so my dad was pretty absent for the first 9- 10 years of my life. He worked as an industrial electrician and traveled around a lot but he could easily have gotten a job at home. I know this because when my half siblings F(8) and M(7) were starting to go to school he quit the job which he had been telling me was “the best he could do” and got a slightly lower paying at home to be near them. While he was absent from my life it was due to his abusive partner who he was “protecting” me from. She decided to hurt me one day and when I told him he yelled at her but decided instead of getting a divorce and leaving her kids (who weren’t his) without a father figure he would rather have them moved states away and prevent us from interacting. From that point on he only came home during Christmas and my birthdays. He would send back child support to my mom who had to work 3 jobs at a point and call me once a week. I used to think he was the greatest because everytime he was home he’d always take me to do something fun and was super fun to play with. He loved running around with me and he still loves running around with my half siblings when he isn’t dealing with their insufferably rude mother. (Their mom isn’t the same one who he moved states away btw) For further context he moved back after we got in a sort of argument. I went to special boarding school that I had to submit test scores, placement tests, and do an interview for during my junior and senior years of highschool. This meant that I moved away from home 2 years earlier than most kids because I really wanted to get ahead academically. Anyways my dad was calling me consistently every day and I wasn’t answering because I was busy studying but when I did he started getting mad at me because I wasn’t talking to him. Saying “I’m your dad you can spare a few minutes to talk to me after everything. If you are that busy you shouldn’t even be at the school in the first place.” This is where the slightly asshole thing comes in. I told him “I love you but you weren’t even there for me so you don’t have the right to say I shouldn’t be at a school I worked my ass off to stay at just because you want to talk to me.“ Since then he’s really been trying to be better but it’s hard to just get over it. He’s been coming up to where I’m at college and visiting one of his old work buddies recently and both times he’s tried to eat out with me. The first time I didn’t mind but this time I didn’t even respond to him. It wasn’t out of anger or spite I just if I’m honest would rather spend time with my friends and my Bf. There is a whole lot of additional drama which went down that left me traumatized but most of that was because of his history of dating abusive partners and me getting caught in the cross fire.

Okay, so recently my friend borrowed my car to drive and pick up some ciggies. On the way there, he got caught up in an accident and completely fucked the front bumper up. Which is really annoying because I need my car for my job (I work in traffic control) so I was pretty much told him he needs to pay for a new bumper ASAP since I was going to start losing a lot of money on Ubers for work. He said he’d get it fixed in a couple of days, which made me pretty happy because I wasn’t expecting it to be sorted out so quickly. Anyway, fast forward two days later: he parks my car in my driveway and lo and behold, the bumper is fucking moss green on my silver car. Initially, I just thought, Okay, it’s going to get repainted soon, so I asked him so when's the bumper getting repainted and he pretty much said whenever you want so I replied does tomorrow work and he goes I don’t know, you can do it whenever you want to. When he told me this it felt like he implying its up to me so I told him no dude you’re paying for the paint job and he called me an asshole, saying that’s bullshit because he already replaced the bumper and if I wanted it to match the rest of the car and that I should have told him so that he could have got it done while the bumper was getting fixed. But I swear to God I feel like it’s assumed that the bumper color is going to match the car when you have to fix a car THAT YOU CRASHED but I don't know if thats standard or not since I've never been in a car crash

A little backstory, I (19) female have 2 younger siblings ill call them Gayle (14) and Sophe (16). My mom was mentally unavailable when we were younger while my dad has been in and out of bad things up until 2 years ago. I was practically raising my siblings by myself other than financially. My sibling where never really disciplined like I was and its shows. Gayle has a boyfriend older than her and he is over at our house almost every day and Sophe is always sleeping or on her phone. I have been put in charge of chores and cooking on top of taking care of my 2-year-old son. While I said I was put in charge I can't enforce chores, wake them up, discipline when chores are not done. My parents do not enforce or discipline either, so I am stuck doing everything. I have been told to f/ck off more times than I can count for asking them to do chores, then yelled at by my parents for getting upset. I feel like I have been given a manager roll with no authority included. I got tired of this and told my parents that if they don't discipline my sisters that my sisters where never going to get anywhere in life and that they were bad parents for not setting boundaries.

My partner “Murray” and I are in our 30s and have been together since high school, we have quite a lot to do with his family and his grandparents farm. We recently bought a title off his pop “Dan” and are now his neighbours, we frequently use each others equipment/utilities and try to work in together. 8-10 years ago while Murray bought an old but tidy and well running Ute as Dans was getting old and he needed to replace it. He did all the work to get it and paid $3000+ When offered the Ute, Dan poo-pooed it and said he didn’t want it. We had it now so thought we will keep it until we buy our own farm. After a few months Dan started using our Ute, we assumed he would pay us for it and take owner ship but after a few conversations it never happened. We were mostly okay with him using it as it was just around the farm and mainly just for checking cattle. Murray had to talk to him a few times though about not looking after it properly. After we bought what is now our part we informed him we would need our Ute back, he was fine and just said he would buy another one for himself now he has the money from selling the land. He has since purchased a new 4wd, camper van, tractor, caravan and other not so big ticket items but no Ute. Murray even offered a brilliant one a friend of his was selling for a decent price but he took too long and missed out on it. Back in September we sat down with Dan and said we need the Ute back by November, “yep, all good” Come Christmas he was still using it and turns out not looking after it at all, there had been no servicing or repairs and he’s very rough with it. Even abandoning it down the paddock when it wouldn’t start, leaving Murray to spend the better part of a 40°c day working on it to get it running as it had the fire fighting unit on it and there was bush fire in the area. So the other night I tried to use the Ute to set up some fencing, the tray was completely full of rubbish burying the things I needed and there was even a rotting bag of meat full of maggots tucked in the corner. Inside the Ute was also full of rubbish just enough room to sit on the seat. The window winders have been pulled off, the arm rest/handle to close the door ripped off, the speaker and cover missing, the windscreen wipers scraping bare metal down the window to name a few things wrong. Everything I touched or looked at was broken, dirty or covered in rubbish. Then I tried to start it, no luck. Once Murray had got it going I set my fences up, then, still fuming, took anything that looked important to Dan out of the Ute and drove it into town where it will stay until we finish spending way too much time and money to restore it. Murray’s uncle thinks I’m justified but other family members think I’m rude and harsh just taking it like that. Should I take the Ute back until he gets another one or is this a FAFO lesson for him and I should stick to my guns?

i (23f) am currently watching my friend (27f) L’s two boys aged 4 and 1 and have been since the youngest was 4 months old. i am a full time sahm to my daughter who is almost 3 and is on the spectrum, my daughter’s other parent works night shift (7-7). i started watching the boys last year around mid july as a favor to L, she told me she was struggling to find work because of her BD not helping out and asked if i could help her, she offered to pay me $5/hr for both boys after she was offered a position at her old job making $12/hr, i agreed to as a favor to her. she told me that this job was supposed to be an in between until she found another better paying job so she could pay more, money was never an issue for me. i agreed to watch them so she could go to work and their father would pick them up when he got off (M, T, W, & F i told her i could not work S or S). everything was ok at first, until she started asking me to watch them on her days off so she could go to the dentist, dr, etc. and began dropping the kids off about 45 minutes earlier than she would go into work, for context i live about ten minutes away from her job and house. when i began to tell her i couldn’t watch them earlier, or when i wasn’t available on days off, she would become weird with me, i brushed it off at first, trying to be considerate that she is a working mom in need of money, trying to get away from her bd. i provide food, drinks, diapers, wipes, baths, etc, as a way for her not to have to worry about those things, again to relieve the stress of money as she’s usually struggling with money. as well as sacrificing my time and my daughter’s time with her parent. ontop of all of that, her bd has been talking crap about me behind my back, and it has escalated in the past few months. fast forward to this month where she was offered a position as a manager making $15/hr, and was offered a morning shift for a saturday, where she asks me if i could watch them as her bd was being unreliable and i told her i wasn’t sure and i would have to check my calendar, she seemed ok with that but a few days later she asked me again and brought up that her bd was complaining that i wasn’t available and she tells me she responded to him with “im sorry that my babysitter sucks and can’t work saturdays, etc” which kind of shocked me, i didn’t immediately respond to the message as i didn’t know if she meant that sarcastically or as a backhanded insult, and it’s not the first time she’s told me how she responds to him insulting me. last friday, she tells me all of the things that he has said about me claiming that “im only in it for the money, i don’t love his kids, i glare at him, etc” and she claims that she defended me and that he’s on his crazy bs again but i don’t feel that she did based on what she told me, and this is the third time ive felt disrespected by him and by her. i plan on telling her that next month i can no longer watch her kids tomorrow, but i feel bad about it, aita?

I went out with a couple friends last night, but got to the bar before them. It was already late, like around 11 PM, when I got there(one of my friends works in healthcare and has weird shifts so we gotta wait till he is done). Some random lady ran up to me, grabbed my arm, and started talking about "we should probably leave" and "thank you for waiting". Here is the thing, this caught me off guard, and I hate being touched. I kinda shook her off, and was like "wtf", and some guy came up, looked at us, and said "I am so sorry, I didn't know she was here with you bro". I immediately said "nah, you're good, idk who she is, she is just walking up to me and touching me". He got embarrassed, and left, and the girl was genuinely shocked. I kinda told her it's not cool to randomly touch people, and she also got upset with me. Fast forward, friends get there and when I tell them what happened, they tell me she probably felt uncomfortable and tried to pretend that I was her bf to get out of some guy hitting on her. One of my friends said I should've went along and that would've been the gentlemanly thing to do, and she told me I behaved abhorrently. Here is the thing. First of all, I don't like being touched by random people. Second, she should just tell someone she's not interested imo instead of looping a stranger into her troubles. Third, was there not a staff member she could've gone to, like the whole "angel shot" stuff? Idk, I feel like I got done dirty here, put into some random situation and getting judged for not going along.

Hello! as said in the title, my roommate an alcoholic. I lived here for 2 years prior with my ex. we broke up and I needed a roommate to pay half the rent still so I found her on a roommate app. we first met everything seemed normal. I set expectations with her if she moved in. basic household tasks like doing her dishes, cleaning up after herself, taking care of shared spaces with me, taking out the trash when she sees it's full etc. all stuff I pull my weight in as well. I let her know if we have any issues we need to talk about it because I don't do passive aggression and would rather just work things out with her so we're both happy. Week one I realized I made a huge mistake letting her move in. I distinctly remember her telling me 3 specific things about herself before she moved in, unprovoked, and I will never forget them because of how fast the 180 was when she moved in. 1: She is very responsible and has no problem doing her dishes or cleaning up after herself. Lie. For the first 2 months she was leaving her dishes in the sink throughout the week not doing them food and everything and then disappearing on the weekend. I ended up doing her dishes the first 2 months and after talking about it still had to teach her how to use the dishwasher and scrape food off the plate first before putting it into the dishwasher. 2. she's drinks every so often she'll go out on a Friday night and have a margarita. lie. she drinks every single day without fail about roughly 8 drinks or a whole bottle or 2 of wine a night. she goes out every Friday and Saturday night drinking and if she's home drinking will sleep in until roughly 2pm hungover. Is late to work every week day due to staying up till 12-2 am roughly every weekday drinking. Had to tell her the alcohol has to stay out of the fridge unless she's drinking it because it got so bad I couldn't fit my food in the fridge anymore. (for context I grew up with an abusive alcoholic parent and escaped that house finally when I was around 22 so the alcoholism is very triggering for me) 3. She isn't dating right now so I don't have to worry about any boys or anything. Lie. Week 1 she told me a friend was coming over. I found out a week and a half later it was a random guy from tinder that stayed the night while I was asleep. I told her boys were fine if she knew them and trusted them to come to the house but it is literally a new guy every week. she does not know these people and I definitely don't feel comfortable with a strange man over all night that she doesn't even know either. she knows this. we've had multiple talks already. it still happens. Well I'm at the point where I just want to tell her to get out. is it fair for me to just tell her to be out by the 15th?

Normally, I get them similarly priced gifts. No big difference. My younger niece(10)’s birthday was in January. She wants to be a scientist when she grows up so I got her a National Geographic Science kit. I got something much more expensive for my older niece(18) though. At first I thought about getting her one regular birthday present, and one present for graduation and getting into her dream university. But my wife suggested getting her one special gift instead. And then I saw a Premier League ad. I asked my niece if she still supports the same team. She said yes, so I went to their official site and ordered a framed shirt, hand signed by the club’s all time top goalscorer. She was very excited but my sister said I shouldn’t have gotten something much more expensive for her and that my younger niece might be upset. Said it’s unfair.

I, 50m, went to our local bar where we hang out to wait for my GF (46f). When I walked in, it was pretty busy, but there were two seats free at the bar in this weird crook that makes the seats pretty close together. Since I would be sitting with my GF, it wasn't a big deal. The problem was, there was a woman with an empty glass (relevant because there is an order line, so she was either done or not in the right ordering spot) standing between those seats and a third seat that was empty (I assumed she had been sitting there), and had her bag on one of the crook seats, making it impossible to get into the two crook seats. I went up and asked "hey - are you sitting here?" She said "I'm sitting in this seat" and indicated the one not in the crook. "Cool - can I sit here?" and pointed to the other two seats. She said "I don't care, sure." I had already set my beer down elsewhere, so I went to grab it, and when I came back she was still blocking the other two chairs and hadn't moved her bag. I tried to move the seat to the side to get in, but she wouldn't move, and I couldn't get into the seat, so I said "I'm sorry - I can't get into these seats with you standing there." She said "and?" And continued to block the seats. So, I said "thanks a lot" sarcastically and walked away to try to find a new table since my original one was gone. When she left, she walked by me and said "go f**k yourself" and I called her an entitled b***h. My GF got there and asked if we could sit at the bar, which now had three empty seats - the crook seats and the one the blocker was "sitting" in. When we went over, another regular spouted off about how rude I had been (she admitted to not hearing the whole conversation, but was going off what the other woman said) and why did it matter if she was blocking three seats? When I tried to defend myself, she kept talking over me and my GF and I just ended up leaving. I know I was sarcastic at the end and should have ignored the blocker's jab at me, but, my GF has my back as she's seen me ask for similar things before and knows I try my best to be polite, and another regular who overheard (and confirmed my recollection as I wrote it above), says I was good. But other people at the bar said her taking up three seats wasn't a big deal and I got a text from one of the bartenders asking why I was so rude to someone at the bar. I'm frustrated that asking for someone blocking three seats to share two of them has blown up. So, AITA for trying to sit at the bar when there were empty seats?

I’m getting married in a few months in a very intimate setting with fewer than 75 guests. Both our sets of parents are divorced and single. At the start of our wedding planning, we agreed that none of the parents would have a plus-one since none of them were in a relationship at the time. ​About four months ago, after our guest list was finalized and Save the Dates were mailed, my dad started dating someone. The day we met his new girlfriend, he asked if she could attend as his plus-one and offer us $50 (which is only a fraction of the cost per person). We told him, 'At this time, we aren't sure if we can accommodate her since RSVPs haven't been confirmed yet.' A few weeks later, he asked again, and we gave him the same answer. ​Things were quiet for a while, so we assumed he was respecting our decision. However, a few weeks ago, his girlfriend texted my fiancée asking what color she should wear to the wedding. We were shocked! We sent a polite reply reiterating that we still didn’t know if she could attend because the guest list remained unconfirmed. She never replied, but my dad texted me days later saying he 'didn't want to create drama, but he really wants her there.' We repeated the same stance, and he simply said, 'Ok.' ​Then, about a week later, he sent me a photo of her hand with an engagement ring and the message, 'I did a thing.' For perspective, they have been together for a maximum of four months, and if they do marry, this will be his third marriage. ​AITA for still not wanting a near-stranger at our intimate wedding?

My (21) brother (23) and his wife adopted a husky puppy twoish years ago. Now every time they come to my parent’s house, whom I live with, they bring her over. As a husky, she’s very active and hyper, and while it has gotten a bit better as she matures, she still runs around the house, jumps on the couches, barks at nothing, whines for everyone’s food, and sheds everywhere. They won’t visit for weeks, and I’ll still find her hair all over the house and my clothes. They apparently can’t leave her home because she’s extremely clingy. If they leave her at home, she’ll apparently bark and howl, which is a problem because my brother lives in his in-laws basement. Honestly, I can deal with all that, I do love dogs and she’s a sweetheart, but the worst part is my cat. My cat hates other animals and she will attack them, which isn’t a problem normally, I just try to keep her inside and we don’t have any other pets, but every time that dog comes around, we have to lock her away in another room for hours. Every time my cat catches a glimpse of the dog, she immediately goes into protect mode. She arches her back and becomes puffy, hissing and swiping if the dog gets too close, (they have not taught their dog boundaries.) I’ve suggested introducing them properly over and over but it’s always “Eh we’ll try it next time.” For the last couple years, my cat has lost hair on her thighs and stomach, likely from over grooming. Over grooming is caused by stress and while I’m not sure exactly why she’s stressed, I doubt the smell of dog all over the house is helping. (My parents also let my cat out for hours at a time, including at night, despite my constant protests, so that could be why too, but that’s a different post.) I’ve tried talking with my parents about it, but not my brother and sil. My parents brush me off, saying “they’re part of the family too.

I(15M) am in near-constant argument with my mom(>50 idk, divorced parent with half custody) because I apparently speak in a monotone voice. Whenever she talks about our upcoming trips, I don’t show enthusiasm in my voice. She tells me that she wants to have conversations “like my friends have with their parents”. She has recently been mocking my monotone voice(as a way to “get me to change”, I guess). I have conceded that I should be more animated, and I am trying to slowly improve my mannerisms, but nothing has changed. Whenever we argue, she usually yells/raises her voice while I am not, and I usually spend most of our arguments trying to get her to talk normally. Whenever I want to actually have a back-and-forth conversation about our issues, she gets tired after the first three minutes and gives me the “silent treatment”. She always complains about how I am monotone, but her only way of actually “attempting” to come to a solution is through argument, lectures, and mocking me. Earlier today, she came up to my room to have a conversation with me about it, and I told her to hold that thought for a moment, and then voiced my concern. He told me that I was “deflecting”, and that from now on we will not have any meaningful conversations, and will simply exist in the same space. She then left the room. I understand that our conversations should be better, but I’m honestly at a loss for where to even begin. I don’t want to argue with her, as that is not the right way to solve this problem, but whenever I attempt to have a constructive conversation with her, it devolves into argument. AITA in this situation? EDIT: I forgot to mention this, but we will be going to therapy together in the future.

So I (19F) have two brothers “Jack” (13M) and “Peter” (11M). Both boys have ADHD and anxiety, but Jack is much better behaved than Peter is. Peter still acts like a small child in a lot of ways, he’ll have screaming fits for hours if things don’t go his way, or plans get changed. He’ll fight with Jack over EVERYTHING. Especially who gets more attention. Especially my attention. It’s exhausting. A lot of the time our parents cave to Peter because he will genuinely scream and scream and scream until it’s unbearable. Now that I’m at college it’s gotten worse for Jack. Whatever chore Peter refuses to do becomes his responsibility, and he’s now the one who has to listen to him scream for hours pretty much everyday. The whining is also unbearable. Every time I take the boys out Peter wants something. Many things. Literally any store we go in, he whines and then cries if I don’t let him get something. So. The new avatar movie came out. Jack tolerates avatar, I love it, Peter gets really scared. I tried to watch the first movie with both of them and Peter had to turn it off 15 minutes in. Last month I took Jack to see the movie. Jack doesn’t get to go anywhere with Peter, especially with me alone. We left while Peter was at a friends house and came home after dinner. It apparently did not go well. Screaming, crying, throwing things just getting really upset that Jack got to go to the movies with me (btw I take Peter to do things too). Later that night Peter asked me why I didn’t take him. I told him that it was a teenager movie and he didn’t even like avatar. He asked why couldn’t we just see a different movie. I told him Jack and I wanted to see avatar. He asked if avatar was more important than making sure he felt loved. I said no, and reminded him that we had gone to the playground literally that morning. He didn’t say anything about it for the rest of the night. But. Here we are, a month later and I’m still getting flack about the movie. He brings it up CONSTANTLY. “Remember when you took Jack to see the movie without me?” Or “I’m still sad about the movie.” Especially when he wants something. I’m at college right now, so he usually wants to play online games with me while I’m doing homework. Our parents are neutral. They don’t stop the comments, but they also didn’t scold me. Idk. AITA?

I have been working out for a few weeks using the walking pad, usually early afternoon or the evening i have a weird schedule from classes, and my work schedule. Last night I couldn’t use it till 10 pm and my down stairs neighbor slammed on their ceiling for a good thirty seconds. Understandably, I stopped and switched to a low impact work out. Today, I started at 5:30 pm when I got home (I also wanted my bf to be home incase of conflict), I am not going to do it at night anymore but they slammed on their ceiling again. I feel like it shouldn’t be an issue during daylight, although i know it could be annoying. I especially will watch the times i’m doing it since she has kids like early morning/night but I am only usually on it for 20-40 tops minutes at 3.3 mph during the day. I really don’t want to quit I get anxiety walking outside and I cant always get myself to do it. I am going to get a yoga mat to try and reduce the impact. Their kids also are always running through the building slamming doors and leaving things in the hallway that make it hard to open doors sometimes and they always park terribly in spots closest to the building that aren’t even spots that block other real parking spots but it’s frivolous it doesn’t even bother me (the parking does occasionally bother me) but its not a big deal. I just want to work out a solution but before I proceed I want to know if I am being an asshole for using it during the day time. TLDR; my downstairs neighbor slammed their ceiling telling me to stop using the walking pad around 10pm, super understandable so now I will only do it during the daytime unless that makes me an asshole

Okay so be honest with me…. AITA My mom came to stay with me for the weekend for her birthday. She lives out of town, so she stayed at my place for three days. I thought I did a good job hosting. We hung out, celebrated, I made sure she was comfortable. In my head, it went fine. But recently we were talking about it and she told me that by the third day I was being mean. She said I seemed irritated and that it hurt her feelings. She even said it felt like I didn’t want her there.That kind of hit me because that’s not how I felt. I did want her there.But… I’m 34. I’m an only child. I’ve lived alone for years. I’m single. I’m VERY used to my space being my space. It’s quiet. Things are where I leave them. I don’t have to adjust to anybody. So when she’s here, little stuff starts to get on my nerves.She farts like it’s nothing. She laughs loud during movies. She left her wash rag on the towel rail where I put my towels. She’s pulled my Keurig out before and set it up when I had it put away.None of this is serious. I know it sounds petty typing it out. But after a couple days it just… builds. And by day three I probably was shorter with her. Not trying to be mean, just overstimulated and ready to have my house back.Now I feel bad because from her point of view she was just staying with her daughter for her birthday and ended up feeling like she wasn’t wanted. So am I overreacting because I’m particular about my space? Is this just what happens when you live alone for a long time? Or was I actually being an asshole? Be real with me.

My sister, Grace (34f) and I (32f) do not talk. I have not spoken to her in 6 years due to her past behaviors that I am not allowed to detail on this subreddit. We have two other siblings that also do not speak to Grace anymore. About a year ago, Grace and her daughter, Lucy (16f) moved to the city I live. They also have a roommate that lives with the (around 35f? I think she is about the same age as Grace). Lucy reached out to me on social media saying that she missed me and wanted to hang out. I let her know, that with the permission of her mom, I would love to go pick her up and show her things around town. We got permission from Grace, and we now hang out regularly. Now that I am back in Lucy's life though, she has been asking me to send her to and from work and work because Grace has been telling her to ask me. Lucy does not have her license yet. I am very much a people pleaser, and I cannot say no, so I know that I am being taken advantage of, but I cannot just let Lucy go uncared for. And unfortunately, since I am NC with Grace, I have been blocked from all her social media and has blocked my number, so Lucy has to be the middle man. Anyways, Lucy called me last week and told me that Grace told her to ask me if she can stay with me for the weekend. I asked why, and she said it was because her mom was going out of town for something, and she does not get along with their roommate. Grace tracks Lucy's location constantly through her phone. For that reason, I told Lucy that she cannot come stay at my place. I live with my elderly in-laws, and with Grace's past behaviors, I do not want her knowing where I live. I told Lucy I am more than happy to take her to and from work, and then spend the day with her so she would only be at her place at night, or if Grace was okay with it, I would get us a hotel room and we can have a mini-gals getaway. Lucy told Grace what my options were and Grace blew up at her saying that she is the reason I am so weary of her. Grace now no longer allows Lucy to see me, and Lucy is upset at me for just not letting her stay at my place. AITA?

My 14 year old son and this 18 year old girl both volunteer at an animal shelter near us. They and a few other people in the same age category as them recently were in charge of hosting a charity event for the shelter. Someone made a group chat on Snapchat so they could discuss it. The 18 year old added him on Snapchat. I go through my son’s phone to make sure he’s being safe online. Which he knows. I’m not too familiar with Snapchat so I was clicking on these things on the top. Which showed peoples stories but I thought they were messages directly to the person. They were all normal enough until I get to the 18 year olds. It was a video of her vape which had exploded. With text on the screen which said “What the f\*ck. It exploded.” And even more swearing in the actual video. I didn’t appreciate someone sending a video of a vape and swearing to my son so I messaged the person on his account saying “who are you? Why did you send me that?” Pretending to be my son. She then unfriended my son without responding. I told my son about the situation and he explained those things are stories and for everyone and it’s the girl from the animal shelter. I still thought it was innaproprate of her to add him when she posts such things on there. I told the animal shelter about the situation and they made it so she couldn’t do the event and she now volunteers on different days to when my son is volunteering because I said I’m uncomfortable with her influencing my son. The girls mother has since messaged me defending her saying I am a huge asshole and that her daughters really embarrassed and she only added him incase they needed to talk about the event and apparently she has got a learning disability so sometimes doesn’t realise if things are inappropriate but in her opinion her daughter didn’t even do anything inappropriate she just posted about her vape exploding on her story and naming worse things people could’ve done. Either way I feel like what she did was really inappropriate. Am I really in the wrong here?

Throwaway bc I don’t want my friends seeing this. I need real opinions because everyone I ask irl is saying different stuff. So quick backstory: My best friend Ana (20f) has beef with Jane (20f) and Mia (20f). It’s a long story but basically Ana and Jane used to say Mia was super fake and all “good vibes only” hypocrite stuff. Then Jane got really close with Mia and now Ana feels betrayed by Jane and still can’t stand Mia. Also Mia is dating some other friend’s ex which pretty much killed the whole group. Now we’re all kinda separate. A couple days ago Isabella (20f), who’s super tight with Mia and Jane, came up to me and offered me a spot in this university student org (kinda like student council). It actually sounds cool and I’m interested, it’d look good on my cv and stuff. The problem is that Ana will 100% get furious at me if I accept and start working with Isabella. Isabella is friends with both Mia and Jane, Ana and Isabella had drama in the past (they both kissed the same guy at some point), and Isabella has said multiple times that Ana is just jealous of her. Ana already got mad at me before because I didn’t completely cut contact with Mia and Jane. I don’t hang out with them, I don’t text them, but we say hi and have small talk when we see each other in classes. Plus, I’ve hurt Ana before by still talking to them and even to Mia’s current boyfriend (who’s my ex-boyfriend too), but only because he’s the president of my Theater Club and we have to interact for that. Our friendship feels like it’s on thin ice right now because of all this. I really wanna do the org because it’s just uni stuff, not like I’m picking sides with them. It’s not social, it’s more like school activity. But I know Ana will take it as me going behind her back. AITA if I just accept it anyway even though I know it’ll upset her? A lot of people have told me I can wait for other professional opportunities later in life, and that I should value my friendship and loyalty more than a uni club spot. That part makes me doubt myself a lot, maybe I’m being selfish by even considering it when it could damage things with Ana even more.

So yesterday I told my mom I was gonna crash at my friend’s house on Monday, and she totally lost it, yelling at me with no real explanation why I can’t go. It’s weird because I was just over at her place on Saturday, so I’m sitting here confused. She wants to talk about it, but at the same time, she’s making these snappy comments about me in general, which is rough because I’m really trying to save money to move out. It feels like she’s kinda undermining my efforts to be independent, and it’s frustrating because I just want to do my thing and get out of here. I get that she’s my mom and she’s worried, but it’d be nice if she could support me a bit more. I’m 20, trying to adult here, and it feels like she’s not taking my goals seriously. I’ve been working hard to save up, cutting back on unnecessary stuff, and trying to make smart choices so I can finally have my own space. But it’s like, every time I try to make a move, she’s got something to say about it. I’m just trying to be responsible and make a life for myself.

(Please forgive possible mistakes, english is not my first language) For this post I have to explain a few things beforehand. I finished university half a year ago and moved back in with my parents for the transitional time. I have a job lined up abroad (a different continent), and i am currently waiting for my visa to be finished processing. Unfortunately the embassy made a mistake and prolonged the processing, otherwise I would have moved abroad over a week ago already. As you can imagine I am internally quite stressed about the delayed big move, the lost money over my missed flight and the uncertainty. My mom has this thing that whenever people come over she gets uneasy and lashes out on me and my dad to clean. Today she burst in my room demanding I get rid of my suitcases in the living room because a friend is coming over. I told her i would love to keep my suitcases downstairs in case my flight leaves in the next few days, as i don't have the space in my room upstairs. I have to admit i got a bit sarcastic with her. We ended up fighting and both sides got heated. I have to admit I called her ridiculous and childish because of her fussing over suitcases. That's when she started to insult me. She said: "now i understand why you are alone, don't have friends and will never find a partner." (Preface) I used to have a relative big friend group during my uni days. I struggled my whole life with fake and transactional friendships and thought this group would be different. In my last semester my roommate's and good friend's boyfriend SAed me. She decided it was easier for the friend group and her to forgive him for "cheating" instead of believing me. Now that uni is over i only have 3 friends left. My best friend recently moved to south america and my other two friends live 3 hours+ away. also i have never been in a real relationship because for the past 3 years I have been moving abroad for long periods each year. (my uni forced us to have month long international experiences each semester) Needles to say what she said cut really deep and is a big insecurity. And my mom knows all of the above. She still decided to once again insult me like this (she has told me this multiple times already). After that i haven't really talked to her. Hours later she comes in my room to "apologise". However she immediately dismisses what she said and told me my behaviour is unacceptable. I had to tell her that her words cut deep. Instead of apologising she spends 30 minutes explaining why she said what she said. No apology. She then tells me i must have misinterpreted what she said. And we had to discuss the fact that she hurt me. She finally told me she is sorry that i took what she said that way and she shouldn't have said it. But she thinks that I have twisted her words in my head. I then told her I can't forgive her when she can't even admit what she did and it was not the first time. She then left angry at me. So AITA?

So my neighbour is part of a family of four who moved here a few years ago. We’re on friendly terms and talk fairly often. A while back, he mentioned that his family has been struggling to find a domestic home support worker and that it’s been hard to get any “good” responses through the official government Job Bank. He also told me he was in the middle of applying for permission to hire a foreign worker through one of those federal programmes where you have to show you couldn’t find anyone locally first. He said he was hoping to bring someone over from his home country because it would be easier for his family in terms of language and familiarity. When I saw his job posting on the government Job Bank, I figured I’d help by sharing it on my Facebook and a couple of local community groups. In my mind, more visibility = better chance of finding someone. If he found someone local, great. If not, at least it would show he genuinely tried. After I shared it, he started getting way more applications. He complained to me that a lot of them were “bogus,” that people were just applying for the sake of applying, and that now he had to spend a ton of time sorting through them. I didn’t look at any of the applications myself, this is just what he told me. Fast forward to now: his application to hire a foreign worker was denied. The reason given was that he received domestic applications and therefore didn’t meet the requirement of proving he couldn’t fill the role locally. He says that before I shared the posting, hardly anyone applied, and now the extra attention made it look like there was local interest in the job, even if he personally felt none of the applicants were suitable. He’s really upset with me and says I interfered with a federal process I don’t understand and basically tanked his chances of getting approval. He also said that I knew he was hoping to hire someone from his home country and that by boosting the posting, I undermined that. From my perspective, I was just trying to help. The whole point of that system is to try to hire locally first, and the posting was public anyway. I didn’t think sharing a public job listing could backfire like this, or that more applications (even if he didn’t like them) could actually count against him. Now things are awkward between us, and he’s blaming me for the delay and extra stress. AITA here, or was I just trying to be helpful and it went sideways?

This is an issue from a while ago but it still kind of bothers me, so that's why I'm making this post. Me (25M) and my two friends, Sam (25F) and Nick (26M) (who are a couple) work out twice a week at the gym. A month ago we discussed what time we would be there, but since then we hadn't gone to the gym. I will admit that I messed up, and that I went to the gym at the wrong time. Now an added issue was that Sam's sibling also wanted to go to the gym, and was using my membership to get in (legally duh) but now that I had gone at the wrong time, that plan fell through. My phone was about to die, but I texted them after I realized my mistake, and that I would go by myself, as I was there anyway. Sam wanted to discuss it more and tried to call me, but my phone died.  After that I did my work-out, and headed home after I was done. At home I put my phone on the charger and had dinner. After dinner I went to grab my phone and was surprised to see 13 new messages. Sam left me 13 messages in the span of 1.5 hours. Every single one getting more passive aggressive in tone. Mind you, my phone was dying/dead, so I *couldn't* respond. I texted them and explained that my phone died, and Sam got mad, saying "that wasn't smart," that my "message wasn't clear" and that she "doesn't want me to apologize but…" Eventually she says that she knows that I "struggle with this, and that conversations like this trigger me." Which is true, it is triggering, especially so when you say it like that, Sam!? (my partner at the time gaslit me with similar phrasing, which Sam knew and even mentioned). I got mad and annoyed and pointed out to them that "Last time at the gym, y'all said (insert previous time) doesn't work with dinner, so we have to think about it." I also set a boundary that I don't like when people make an assumption about me in this way. There was radio silence for a full 24 hours after this, and then Sam hit me with "No we concluded that this time was better but we can move it half an hour for you, if necessary." (there was nothing wrong with the time btw, I just made a mistake). "You've made yourself clear. You didn't respond in time/communicated badly. This is not me shifting the blame on you, but just me explaining what led me to my conclusion." Sam then ghosted me for a month, but still expected me to watch their cats (which I did). She only responded after I texted Nick about a complicated breakup I was going through, which caused everything to go back to normal but also not really. AITA for not responding immediately? PS: I changed their names, no worries <3

I have a family member who regularly drops my child off at my house. For the past two years, they’ve often brought an additional person who comes inside for 5–10 minutes during the handoff. I live alone with my child and I don't generally have others over. I’m uncomfortable having third parties enter my home during exchanges, regardless of whether I know them. WIBTA for asking that drop-offs be just between the two of us? EDIT: This is my co-parent dropping child off for our weekly exchanges. The person they bring may be a friend, a random family member, anyone. It is not a romantic partner.

Throughout my (F21) life I’ve always known my brother (M18) to receive “better” treatment than me. I was a parentified child who had to deal with the issues of my mentally ill parents, and he was the child they coddled throughout. As he got older i thought it would get better, but I actually feel like it’s getting worse and I am starting to call my parents out on it. What has gotten to me most is a new situation. For around 1-2 months now I’ve been thinking about doing a year abroad next year working overseas in Europe. I discussed this with my mum and step dad, and my dad. Not once did either parent offer any financial help, which I was totally fine with. I am an adult who has the money to fund myself after years of working hard. I’ve always been pretty independent, but this independence was pushed on me, not something I was proud to have. Now the past couple of weeks my brother has been suggesting that he wants to work in a summer camp in the USA this year. Not only does he have limited funds to do this, but he has also left it till the very last minute. My brother only got a job when he turned 18 after finishing school, and works a couple shifts a week. He doesn’t have much money, and is fine with it. But now all of a sudden he wants to do this and of course my parents are willing to fund whatever he needs to get over there. I understand we are in different financial situations, but the fact that both my parents never offered me financial help once, and instantly jumped to help him says so much. I just feel like I’ve had to work so hard since I was 16, getting a higher education, working multiple jobs, dealing with my chronic illness, and my brother has kind of just cruised through his life relying on my parents to fall back on and it’s working in his favour. This isn’t the first instance of favouritism there’s so many others I could include such as my mum refusing to give me her old car which I offered to pay for, meaning I had to get a $15K loan to afford to buy a car, while just a few months later she gave her car to my brother completely for free. When I turned 18 I had to pay for all my own stuff (utilities, groceries, insurance etc) yet now my brother is 18 he doesn’t have to do the same. I’m not saying I expect my parents to be my piggy bank, but I think that it’s unfair that my parents are so willing to give my brother everything while he does nothing, while im here working my ass off just to get very little from them. These are only the financial examples, yet the favouritism is shown in other ways such as emotionally, physically etc. I’ve called it out multiple times to my parents, and every time they just say I am overthinking the situation. Especially with the new situation which has arisen, they think I am silly for making something out of it. They said “you don’t need help, your brother does”, which I feel totally undermines the actual situation. Am I justified in calling out their blatant favouritism? Or AITAH for doing so?

So for context I 16F and my boyfriend 16M have been dating for one year. Actually our one year was yesterday. We both have a pretty rocky relationship with one parent in our family, but my boyfriend, lets call him John, also sometimes has a rocky relationship with his sister. His sister is 22 years old. There have been multiple instances of her lashing out or doing things to embarrass him for no good reason. In this case, she decided to include me in the argument. Yesterday on our one year, John gave me a necklace as an anniversary present which was very sweet, but his sister (lets name her Mia) had given him this necklace to give to me. The next day, I receive a text from John stating, "Whatever my sister says, it's not true and don't respond." At the time, she had just said "hi!" and so I asked John what was going on. He proceeded to tell me that she was trying to make him seem like a bad boyfriend by acting like he took the necklace from her. Mia works in marketing, so she gets products and items from multiple different brands to make marketing videos for them, and John does help her with these videos a lot so this is where she got the necklace from. She had explicitly given the necklace to him to give to me, but she was asking for it back to make a marketing video, saying that John took the necklace to give it to me during our anniversary (which is not true). Now the way this started was because she had asked John to clean up, so he cleaned up his mess (for context they share a room) but he didn't clean up her mess. Mia stated, "why didn't you also clean up my mess?" so he told her he would do it, but for no reason at all she said "Im going to text (my name)" and the text was about the necklace. Can it be assumed that she was trying to use me as a pawn to get back at him for something so small? It doesn't make sense because he said he was also going to clean her mess too. The thing is, John and I got on the phone to talk about what was going on. We were talking about her, only stating truthful things that we've observed and making assumptions to try and figure out why she was acting the way she was acting. Low and behold, she was eavesdropping on the conversation and recording it (which is illegal in my state). She becomes really angry and sends the recording to her mother, boyfriend, AND grandma. She also calls me a disgusting horrible girlfriend, and says that we're both dead to her. Mia's boyfriend says that John made a big mistake talking crap about his own blood, and that he's glad he saw my true colors. Mind you, he's almost 24. Lastly, they're so angry at us for talking 'bad' behind her back, but before even this whole situation occurred, Mia and her boyfriend had said to John's face that they had a feeling I would do OF and porn. And Mia would also make comments about my appearance behind my back, which is talking crap about me. Keep in mind, I have never given anyone any reason to think that. I'm also a minor. Is this normal?

So I (F) recently had a small conflict with my best friend and I need outside opinions. Basically, she asked me for the number of a guy I spoke to a long time ago for school information. I told her “with pleasure” and went to try to find the number, since I didn’t have it saved anymore. Not long after, she sent me a very dry message saying something like “actually nvmd, idk why I asked you for his number.” I found that weird. Later, I saw that she had screenshotted things and was talking about the situation to one of her friends, talking about the situation and how i didn’t want to give her the number ( which is completely false). For context, I really hate when private things between me and my friends get shared with other people instead of being said directly to me, and I’ve told her and she keep doing it, and make me pass for the evil in it. (Like I’ve said I usually keep things between us, but I genuinely need outside perspective right now because I feel like this conflict might have really affected our friendship.) So I messaged her telling her I didn’t like that she keeps going to tell our business to her friend. I admit my message was emotional because it’s something that really bothers me. She immediately got defensive, called me crazy, said I was inventing problems, and told me that if I want to stop talking to her I should just say it and delete her instead of giving her a headache. At the end she even said she would tell her mom about the situation ( her mom is like my second mom) Now I’m wondering if I overreacted by confronting her about it. (I know those feel like high school girls story’s but I really need advice on this one)

So for context I 16F and my boyfriend 16M have been dating for one year. Actually our one year was yesterday. We both have a pretty rocky relationship with one parent in our family, but my boyfriend, lets call him John, also sometimes has a rocky relationship with his sister. His sister is 22 years old. There have been multiple instances of her lashing out or doing things to embarrass him for no good reason. In this case, she decided to include me in the argument. Yesterday on our one year, John gave me a necklace as an anniversary present which was very sweet, but his sister (lets name her Mia) had given him this necklace to give to me. The next day, I receive a text from John stating, "Whatever my sister says, it's not true and don't respond." At the time, she had just said "hi!" and so I asked John what was going on. He proceeded to tell me that she was trying to make him seem like a bad boyfriend by acting like he took the necklace from her. Mia works in marketing, so she gets products and items from multiple different brands to make marketing videos for them, and John does help her with these videos a lot so this is where she got the necklace from. She had explicitly given the necklace to him to give to me, but she was asking for it back to make a marketing video, saying that John took the necklace to give it to me during our anniversary (which is not true). Now the way this started was because she had asked John to clean up, so he cleaned up his mess (for context they share a room) but he didn't clean up her mess. Mia stated, "why didn't you also clean up my mess?" so he told her he would do it, but for no reason at all she said "Im going to text (my name)" and the text was about the necklace. Can it be assumed that she was trying to use me as a pawn to get back at him for something so small? It doesn't make sense because he said he was also going to clean her mess too. The thing is, John and I got on the phone to talk about what was going on. We were talking about her, only stating truthful things that we've observed and making assumptions to try and figure out why she was acting the way she was acting. Low and behold, she was eavesdropping on the conversation and recording it (which is illegal in my state). She becomes really angry and sends the recording to her mother, boyfriend, AND grandma. She also calls me a disgusting horrible girlfriend, and says that we're both dead to her. Mia's boyfriend says that John made a big mistake talking crap about his own blood, and that he's glad he saw my true colors. Mind you, he's almost 24. Lastly, they're so angry at us for talking 'bad' behind her back, but before even this whole situation occurred, Mia and her boyfriend had said to John's face that they had a feeling I would do OF and porn. And Mia would also make comments about my appearance behind my back, which is talking crap about me. Keep in mind, I have never given anyone any reason to think that. I'm also a minor. Is this normal?

SS = stepson. BD = bio dad Am I being unreasonable? My SS is now 18 and in college. Rewind a few years, when SS turned 16 and ready to drive, I budgeted to contribute 5k towards a used car. BD said it’s not enough, he wanted to do 10k each. I felt 20k for a first car is too much and refused to increase my 5k budget. BD let SS have his old car. BD told me one day I’ll give my car to my own daughter when the time comes, so this is something he planned on doing for his kid years before I came into the picture. One day has asked my wife and I if I am willing to split registration/maintenance. Because it’s his car (not under SS name), we both talked and refused, as again, it’s his car. Now that SS is in college, BD is not allowing SS to drive to our home anymore, as we are not paying for maintenance. SS drives all over, including coming 5 miles from our home. Am I being unreasonable for not pitching in for his car expenses?? Everything else is split evenly. I contribute 6k per year for SS college. BD pays 8k per year, so a little more. He may be mad at that as well.

AITA for wanting to use our 3D printer and for being angry about the money? First, sorry if my English is not perfect because it is my second language. Me (15M) and two of my friends decided to buy a 3D printer together. We all paid for it equally. The plan was to use it both for personal projects and to start a small school business where we sell prints to teachers and students. When we bought the printer, we decided not to buy the AMS because we didn’t think it was necessary. Later, one of my friends bought an AMS himself. We started selling prints at school and earned around 100–150 dollars in total. The problem is that the printer is kept at that friend’s house. Recently, he said that he now owns 66% of the printer, and that me and my other friend (I’ll call him Isac) together only own 33%. Because of this, he says the business and the money are his. He has also spent the money we earned on his own things without telling us. He prioritizes his own prints instead of customer orders, which made me and Isac frustrated. A few days ago, he told me that he had already spent all the money and that it is his money because it was in his account. I got angry, because we all paid for the printer and worked for the business. I talked to Isac, and he agrees with me. Now our other friend is acting like the victim Are we the asshole for being angry that he now owns our money?

So I sit on the first bench. Not because I worship academics. Not because I’m trying to impress professors. I just hear better, focus better, and honestly the back benches are chaotic. From day one, I’ve been getting comments: “Bro thinks he’s the main character.” “Trying to be teacher’s favorite?” “Relax, it’s not IAS coaching.” I laughed it off. But it kept happening. Every time attendance is taken and I answer clearly, someone from the back goes, “Of course you’re here.” If I ask a doubt, I hear fake coughs and claps behind me. The funniest part? During internals and exams, those same people lean forward like: “Bro what did sir say about Unit 5?” “Bro ask him if this topic is important.” “Bro can you send what he wrote on the board?” So I’m “extra” when I sit in front… But suddenly useful when they need information? Recently someone actually told me to sit in the middle because, and I quote, “You’re making the rest of us look bad.” Making you look bad… by sitting? I said no. I’m comfortable where I am. Now apparently I’m “showing off” and “creating pressure” in class. One person even said I make professors expect more from everyone because I participate. I genuinely don’t care where anyone else sits. I’m not telling them to move from the back benches. I’m not reporting anyone. I’m just existing in Row 1. So AITA for refusing to change my seat just because it makes other people insecure?

Me (22M) and my friend (23M) recently graduated college and are now working full time. One day I was visiting him and we were hanging out on his patio when he started talking about how he’s been feeling unhappy lately and that he feels like his life has plateaued. To provide some more background on both of our situations: He works in the automotive industry making $40/hour, lives alone in a nice apartment, and has been dating the same girlfriend since freshman year of college. He also grew up with both of his parents together, and his dad has always been present in his life. Compared to him, I am the complete polar opposite. I work retail making $20/hour and still live with my mom because I can’t afford my own place (obviously). I haven’t had much luck with relationships. My parents divorced when I was 3, and even though they had joint custody my dad would barely visit, so I was basically raised by my mom alone. The divorce definitely made my mom pretty bitter, and she often took that out on me growing up. When my friend said what he said, it kind of struck a nerve. I found it pretty insulting that he was complaining to me - someone who has been less successful and had a worse upbringing - about how “bad” his life is. So I promptly responded with this: “You make double the money I make, you live in a nice apartment all by yourself, you’ve been in a relationship with a girl who has been nothing but loyal to you the past 4 years, and your father was always there for you. I NEVER had any of that and I would love more than anything to be in your shoes. I’m still trying to figure shit out while it’s pretty clear you’ve got everything figured out. I don’t think you realize how good you have it, and it’s wild that you’re complaining to me. So I suggest you fix your attitude and appreciate what you have, because not everyone gets to be as lucky as you!” From his perspective, my monologue might have been a bit rude and uncalled for because he was probably trying to confide in me. I’m willing to admit that. But from my perspective I think he is being really ungrateful, entitled, and taking a lot for granted, and it just didn’t sit well with me because I have had to struggle more than him. So was I in the wrong for calling him out, or was I being fair to him?

I’m a single mom to 3 kids (8m, 5f, 4f). I have a nanny, Emilia (20f), that picks the kids up from school, takes them to their extracurriculars, manages homework, and sets up play dates for the kids. Emilia’s family is complicated. She moved in with her grandmother at 15 and no longer speaks to her parents. Emilia’s grandmother was her best friend. She also became an adoptive grandparent to my kids. She knew their birthdays, sent cookies, and had all of us over for dinner every couple weeks. Her grandmother passed over the summer. Emilia told me that she was planning to move out of her grandmother’s house because she couldn’t stay there without her. She asked me to help her look at apartments. My house has a finished basement with a bedroom, bathroom, kitchenette, and living room. I offered for Emilia to move into the basement and have her pay $300/mo including utilities. She’s been here for 5 months and it’s been great. It’s almost like taking in a 4th child but one that cooks and does the girls hair in the mornings. My brother called a few weeks ago saying that he and his wife were losing their apartment. He asked if he, his wife, and their kids (3f, 1m) could move into the basement apartment. I told him Emilia was living in the apartment and I couldn’t just kick her out. He suggested moving her into the guest room/the kids playroom so they could stay in the apartment but I told him I won’t be displacing Emilia. He and the rest of my family are upset that I’m prioritizing my nanny over my brother and his family when I could easily move her into the playroom and make things work for everyone.

23 live with my mom. I feel stuck. Not seeking therapy just want to know if I’m the bad guy in this situation. I currently pay around 700$ worth of bills or so I thought it was going towards the rent. I’m unsure it’s what she requested I pay so sure I pay it. It’s been like that few years I’ve been Slowly saving to go travel international and study abroad. This year comes my mother ask if I could pay the full rent around 1250. I unfortunately cannot. I make around 2500-2600$ monthly after tax and still have my own set of personal bills around car insurance , car maintenance etc. she gets a 1000$ check for disability monthly. I’ve been treating this like a roommate situation. I told her I could pay 1k max she accepted it at first. Suddenly she goes off on me and says I’m like everyone else not helping and watching her struggle. She says I think it’s okay for her to use all her money every month but I don’t want to use mine? She’s aware I’m saving to study abroad. I’m working everyday. I pay what she ask me to pay. And suddenly and I mean very suddenly everything becomes an issue out of nowhere. I’ve become a villain for wanting to try and leave and do something I want. I understand what she’s saying but she wants me to pour my everything into our family and then nothing into investing in myself because that’s selfish. It was the same when I purchased my first car. I purchased Manuel car. She got upset because I got something she couldn’t drive. I feel stuck. Like I’m being guilt tripped when it comes to anything I want. Am I really a selfish person? I did agree I could do 300$ more. But anymore cuts into my own savings and other things I need to pay. I struggle just like her what makes me the bad guy? Her car recently broke I tried everything I could to do. It needs a trans. Apparently it’s my fault I cannot afford her another one while I proceed to drive my 1998 car with 280k miles. It’s like she thinks I have a secret money stash and I’m watching her struggle meanwhile I’m also struggling .. help please if I’m wrong let me know .. but from her and my family perspective I will always be wrong

Hello everyone. So this is kinda bizarre and I can’t figure out if I should mention this to anyone. I’m 24f and I work with someone who is 28f. She is fairly new here but she fit right in bc of her bubbly personality. I think she’s super nice and she keeps the room positive. The only issue I have with her, which only came up fairly recently, is that she burps like every 15 minutes. Genuinely. I do hear her eating at her desk constantly which I don’t care about but she burps like semi loud in a big quiet room. She’s always making some kinda noise whether it’s talking to herself or somewhat quietly to a friend on the phone. I can’t tell if she just thinks we don’t care and/or can’t hear her. Which would be close to impossible bc like I said it’s quiet as hell in here unless we are talking to a customer. To be fair she does always say excuse me after but it’s just a bit nasty. Maybe I’m just weird. Someone please tell me if I should say something or just ignore it. Edit bc it has come up a lot. I wear headphones for my job currently. I’m also autistic so I may just have a weird thing for noises. Let me know :)

Me (19M) and my gf (19F) have been in a (sometimes long distance) relationship for 2.5 years. We call everyday, and I am always highly attentive, eager, present, great mood in calls. I do so much for her but she doesn't appreciate any of it which is fine. but she straight up erases all of it and fixates on tiny things which I might've missed. My initial response is to say sorry and say I'll do better but she still doesn't stop. Last night we had a fight because she had a bad day and I asked her on call what's wrong multiple times and asked if I could help in any way. She said no it's alright. But later was mad, sent me 15-20 texts cause she thought I was checking up on her out of compulsion. So I sent sorry paragraphs and clarified that I was definitely interested. She ignores all of it and then brings up that I don't initiate calls. She has tendency of doing this interruption- bring new topic to sort of make me look bad too, so I didn't engage. But she kept saying why aren't you answering, why do you never call. Today we were continuing last night's discussion and also toxic repetitive patterns that she shows such as jumping topics without hearing my side. So I brought up the call thing topic, and she has a whole meltdown, sending me 15-20 texts saying I don't call. So I told her that for me, it's more important to have calls and quality time together rather than who intitates calls so it's not very focused for me but still I already do initiate calls many times. But she's going off saying that I'm a liar and I haven't called for months and I'm horrible for that. I kinda felt crazy because of that cause I was in the middle of saying something and she then turned it into this thinking it'll make me look bad. So I went down our chat and sent her 20 screenshots from February of me initiating calls because I wanted to, and this doesn't include the countless movie/tv show watch plans I propose that she turns down or when i offer to call when shes feeling upset. Also so many of the screenshots were literally her saying she can't talk cause she's busy or something. One was even me being very pushy that hey can I call I miss you, but she's watching tv so she doesn't want to. Now she's mad that why do I always have to prove it. That I'm being paranoid for stooping so low. But I tell her that she's been treating me awfully about this and outright calling me a liar. So I felt the need to show that I do..... So AITA?

Yesterday I was out with my boyfriend, and he told me that my best friend told him about some drama, and they told him to not tell me. I got frustrated and called my friend to tell them that my boyfriend and I don’t keep things from each other, and that if they don’t want me to know something they shouldn’t tell my boyfriend. They told me that it’s unfair that their secrets get shared between my boyfriend and I, but my secrets get kept between them and I. AITA? Edit: My friend didn’t want to tell me in the information because it involves them and a person I don’t like. I don’t care about the information. I care that they asked my boyfriend to keep secrets from me.

So here it goes, I'm 26 (F) and my partner is 31(M). We were on a vacation with my friends, and my partner tagged along with us. We booked an overnight stay at a hotel, everything was going smoothly until the group decided to take a walk and eat on a nearby restaurant. So we entered the elevator and as we were going down, I farted really bad and I blamed my partner for not taking a toilet before heading out. Supposedly it's ok for me to fart in front of my friends since (well, they're my friends) but it was so viciously bad that I don't wanna get embarrassed. So at first my partner ride along with it, apologizing to the group in which they just laughed it off. However, after we ate some food, we went back to our room (privately), he stormed off. He would rage at me for being so disrespectful. I totally agree with him at that point and was constantly apologizing to him the entire time during his rage session. But the thing that he said that really pricked me off is that, he got embarrassed specifically on my friend. He would highlight the fact that she complimented his shirt and now he got this reputation of having no manners or something. AITA for feeling this way? (apologies for my bad english) EDIT: There were also 2 other people riding the elevator besides our group. I don't know what came over me because I was so flustered that the first thing I did was shift the blame to my bf, which I get is an AH move. I just didn't understand the amount of rage he showed me. I get that he got embarrassed, that's why he got angry, but I didn't think it justifies the things he said. I hope this will be something we could laugh about in the future.

My mum recently visited me (I live abroad) and I asked her to take a couple of things back for my brother who I haven’t seen in over a year. I had bought him a pair of sneakers, 2 chocolates and a Tshirt. My brother only received one of the chocolates and when I asked my mum why, she said she was hungry when taking the train to airport so she ate it. She had bought a lot of chocolates and biscuits as gifts for other people so I asked why didn’t she something she bought and her response was that she just grabbed the first thing from her very packed back . I said it was a weak excuse and she didn’t give me a heads up or even apologize and she said she forgot about it until I mentioned it and is it a big deal it’s just chocolate. She said she wasn’t going to get into a tizz over food and will give me the £9 for the chocolate (it was a premium chocolate) and she apologised for the gift not reaching the intended recipient. The apology seems insincere after saying I’m making this into a big deal for some chocolate. AITA for bringing it up?

Today, my mum asked me to take **MY** clothes that were dry and put them away. I did because I honestly needed them for tomorrow, i was going to do it regardless. I took away my clothes and hung them, but on the rack along with my clothes was my younger brother's as well. I didn't take his and put them away in his room. I only did mine. A few minutes later, I was called downstairs by my mum. After I came down, she started scolding me, asking why I wouldn't hang my brother's clothes as well. I responded that it was because she said to take my clothes, so I only took my clothes since that was what she instructed. She replied that I should've done his clothes anyway as he couldn't do it himself (He has high support ASD.) and even though she said to do my clothes, I should've grabbed his as well because it was the right thing to do. I 100% would've hung his laundry as well, IF I WAS TOLD TO!! she said MINE, so I grabbed MINE. I cannot read her mind on what to and not to do when given a task because then I could mess up said chore and get yelled at because she's very unpredictable. Hence why I only did mine. I still think i'm not the AH for the fact I did exactly what I was asked; There was no malicious intent behind what I did. I need a third party's opinion on if I was in the wrong or not. AITA?

me (15f) and my best friend (15f) have known each other since we were little kids and our families are really close. lately i’ve noticed she’s been drinking more and more. i’ve had alcohol a few times too so i’m not acting innocent, and i’m definitely not a party pooper or someone who just wants to ruin the mood. i’m not against having fun. but with her it feels different. it’s not just a random party thing anymore, it feels like it’s becoming a regular habit there have been weeks where she drinks multiple times and sometimes it feels like she actually wants to get drunk, not just “have fun.” she’s been going through a lot recently and struggling with personal stuff and school, and it honestly seems like alcohol is becoming her way to cope. she’s even joked about needing it to calm down which really worries me i’ve been stressed about this for a while because i care about her a lot and i don’t want her future to get messed up. she’s already not doing great in school and i’m scared this could make everything worse. i didn’t want to betray her trust but i also felt like doing nothing would make me feel guilty if something bad happened a few days ago i told my parents what’s been going on. our parents are close friends so i explained how often she’s been drinking and that i’m genuinely concerned. i didn’t do it to get her in trouble or be dramatic, i just felt like an adult needed to know because i didn’t know how to handle it on my own now i’m scared that if she finds out she’ll think i snitched and hate me for it. part of me feels guilty and part of me feels like i did it because i care. aita

We’ll call the first girl corn and the second donut. I met corn 2 years ago at an event and kept on talking on instagram. Yesterday I decided to meet her and she freed her schedule for that reason. We go for an event and I go outside to get some fresh air where donut starts a conversation with me and she says she has some w\*#d. I say I haven’t used it for roughly 8 months but I need to feel calm for the night. I go get a lighter from banana (person 3) who corn met at the party and was hanging out with. So they join us in the session, right. Two other girls join as well. A female security guard comes over and catches donut and corn cause they’re using in that second and they’re asked to follow the guard. They all look at me and I’m supposed to help them right? So the girls that stayed behind say, let’s go with them because they’re gonna come for us in one way or another but one of the girls say no she’s with them (me). So they leave me to carry the burden. I stay back hoping they’d come over, right? So I’d just give in but they don’t and I decide to call my friend. Atp I’m breaking down and she tells me yk what? There’s no point in all of you getting arrested, you’re my friend, and I need you to go home. So I do. I’m sourcing advice and from all sources I’m getting feedback like don’t do it. It’s a legal process and all you can do is inform somebody close to them to get them help. I’m processing everything and I check corn’s instagram, and they’ve unfollowed me, so definitely they’re out. PS The other girls made a “bonding” video over the situation basically saying they weren’t with us and they don’t know corn (cause she’s the one who got arrested and let them into the rotation). And funny thing is, they’re all new friends with corn and each other while I’m taking the back seat. Ykw I’m bothered for leaving corn and donut in that situation but even more bothered for how female friendships are. Let me clarify. Imo I don’t expect the girls who claimed not to know corn after she got arrested, to get ‘close’ to her once she’s released. AITA for moving the way I did?