I genuinely feel bad that I upset her, but this is a reoccurring issue when she gets intoxicated. She's the type where when she drinks, she gets louder and louder before eventually beginning to loudly shriek. Though I don't have diagnosed sensory issues, I get overwhelmed and very stressed when in very loud environments. When she does it at home, I simply go to my room to decompress. However, we're currently visiting my grandparents. They live in a 2 floor condo, and I don't have a room I can go to decompress here. I tried going to the second floor and putting headphones in, but she was so loud it was like I hadn't even left the room. As such, I left to go on a walk, and the issue occurred and she asked me if everything is alright. What happened was that she started shrieking "ChiJohn ChiJohn ChiJohn" over, similar to kids in a car screaming McDonalds over and over. It was loud enough that my grandmother (who also doesn't like when she starts screaming) mentioned that her expensive noise cancelling headphones weren't helping. ChiJohn is this mascot thing that John Oliver made, and she was screaming it trying to get my grandfather to watch the episode ChiJohn is from. This is the text I sent her that was the catalyst to her storming out: "Please don't yell like you were before I left. What happened was that (Grandfather) kept turning that grating singing (He likes showing us music, and due to him being hard of hearing, he tends to play it very loudly. He was showing a video of a guy who can sing a falsetto. Very talented, but also very loud and high pitch) up and then you started shrieking about ChiJohn. When I'm home and you start yelling like that, I can simply go to my room and drown it out. I don't have a space to go to here, so the only choice I had was to leave to decompress. The shrieking combined with the shrill singing really bothered me." I completely admit I should have handled it better, and apologized to her before she stormed out. This was the culmination of years of her doing this whenever she's intoxicated, pretty much forcing me to leave the room because of how overwhelmed the loud noise makes me. In the past, my grandmother has asked her to tone it down to a similar result. Her reaction was (summary from my memory, so it of course is biased) "I'm sorry I'm not allowed to have fun! If it makes you happy, then I'll shut up!" I then apologized and told her that it wasn't her having fun that was the issue, but specifically the yelling about ChiJohn. She then stormed out of the house, and my grandfather ended up having to drive out and find her because he was uncomfortable with her being out alone while intoxicated. I feel very bad. I didn't mean to ruin her evening, I just really hoped that letting her know that the yelling was bothering me would just result in her toning it down a little. Am I the asshole? I know I should have handled it better, but I don't know if I should just take a walk and say nothing going forward.

Hey. It’s Slesiam again. I know you been waitin’. I’ve been waitin’ for this one. I’m a single mom of two (Liz and Bia), and this morning I dropped them off at kidgarden like I do every day. On a regular day, I would pick them up from school 10 hours later, and today was supposed to be a regular day. But as I was about to leave out the back door, the vibrator in my pocket began buzzing. The vibrator is my phone btw, did you think…? I pulled out my vibrator to see what was vibing me up, and it was a baby daddy text. I know, I know. My friends are always telling me not to text my baby daddy and that I’ll just keep going back to him if I don’t completzo cut him off. But one thing for certain that has bounced back--is me. This was the text btw: BD: i wanna see u in a thong 🔥😩 Ooh! Well the kids could wait, besides I wouldn’t be too late if I just snapped a quickie. Thankfully I was already dressed for the occasion, so I quick dropped my skirt and sent a picture of me. Baby daddy texted back that he wanted to see me in real life and I contemplated. I know I should go pick up my kids, but they wouldn’t be here without my baby daddy. So I chose him. I put me in a situation. Come get a *hug*, sexy little thug! He got my Yitty droppin’ and I was snug as a bug in a rug. I’m about that *action*. Yeah, you know what it was. Sometime later, I was still in bed with my baby daddy when his phone started ringing. This hit me like a U-Haul truck and snapped me back to reality. How low do you have to go to not turn off all your phones before you get in bed with somebody? Just totally ruined the moment. But, then we realized it wasn’t his Samsung. It was his landline--which is only used for emergencies. We unbedded and he ran for the phone. But it was too late, they were already leaving a message. Who could it be? We waited long minutes and then finally listened to the message: “Hi Tyrone. This is Mrs. White. You will want to sit down for this. It’s about your daughters, and your parenting partner. See, Slesiam never showed up to pick up Liz and Bia from school. I am afraid she might be dead. Bad things have been happening today, just really tragic. \*muffled mess\* It’s just been the worst day. Your daughter Bia has a horrendous case of diarrhea and we don’t want to keep her here much longer. She needs urgent care. And Liz? Oh Liz……..Oh Liz………Oh! She has passed away. I’m sorry.” I cannot talk about my grief right now without autotuning myself, so I will only say what I can. My baby daddy was exasperated at me for not telling him that I came to see him instead of picking up our daughter(s) from school. Why would he need to be told that? Like, this bum really just forgot we had kids or what? I KNEW they were at kindgarden, and I thought they’d be safe there if they stayed overtime. They weren’t, but I don’t see how that’s MY fault. Do you?

My Daughter (18) goes to college across the country and has always been a very independent woman. My wife and I are both college professors so we never had any issues or concerns with her grades and preformance in school. That was until this semester when we received a letter that our daughter had been put on academic probation and if she didn’t earn a high enough GPA this semester she would be dropped from the University. My wife and I were beyond shocked, and before we talked to our daughter we wanted to have a plan. After a lot of conversation we decided I would take a temporary job offer I had at my daughters university and rent an apartment by campus that we would live in together so I can monitor her and make sure she is focusing on the right things at school. She returned home a couple weeks ago and we agreed to give her a couple days to come to us with the news. She never did and the conversation ended up happening tonight at dinner. We tried to make light conversation about her grades but she lied to our faces and told us everything went well. I then placed the slip down on the table in front of her. She froze, grabbed the paper, and got emotional. After she caught her breath I asked her again to explain herself and that we just wanted to help her. She told us at the beginning of the semester her friend got her a fake ID and brought my daughter to the bars. This progressed into going out drinking most nights of the week resulting in missing class or not getting her assignments done. My daughter has never been a drinker, in high school she would tell us she was staying sober at parties and would sometimes sleep over at her friends to make sure everyone was safe. She then told us she realized how bad it had gotten too late and when she met with her professors there was nothing they could do. I told her that non-conditionally when she goes back next week I will be going back with her and renting an apartment for the 2 of us so I can watch over her. She responded and showed us a day app counter showing she was 4 and a half weeks sober. She told us she has figured out the textbooks for her classes, read through most of them, and blocked all of her old friends. She said she understood why we would want to have eyes on her, but that it wasn’t necessary and she wanted to continue being independent. I still believe the best thing for us to do is for me to go stay with her because I want to be sure she has the support system she needs. We argued and I ultimately told her if she didn’t let me do this we would stop paying her college tuition. She stormed out sobbing and hasn’t spoke to me since. So AITA?

i run a badminton group on meetup, and it’s often fully booked with a waitlist. sometimes i make exceptions and allow people in although above capacity like for this one girl. a few weeks later, this girl is on the waitlist and texts me again if she can get an extra spot despite still being on the waitlist and the session start time is getting aproaching. I apologize and say that it’s unfortunately full. To my surprise, she arrives a little before the session starts and explains that before she sent the text she headed out to get to the court since it’s a longer trek for her, in case a spot opened up a little before the start time, and since she biked there she wasn’t able to see my response. I however was really frustrated and was very short and loud to her and in front of everyone else there, and said that if she she showed up again without notice she will be blocked. She said that there is no need to be loud since she was there to see if there will be an extra spot, and since it was before the game had started, that she would understand and head out if the answer was still no. Since I told her that I’ve made the exception, she went ahead and attended the game, and hasn’t repeated the offense since. The same girl still would continue to rsvp and would not approach me the same way as before. This happened summer last year, and today, she texted my co-host saying that she had been on the waitlist for an upcoming session, and noticed that we are letting other people through but not her, and asked for an explanation. I let me co-host inform her that my we tried to reach out to her regarding a password for the money transfer she had sent, to which she didn’t reply. I am the one that handles the money transfers and have the passowrds, so she said that since the app is a bit dated, she never got a notification about the text my co-host sent her, and since i am the one that usually handles the passwords and the deposit, that the co-host would eventually reach out to me and sort it out. she later said that no one reached out to her again to re-send the outstanding amount. she said it didn’t make sense on why we were waiting on her to reach out first about leaving her on the waitlist to address the outstanding amount that she had already sent, and expressed her frustration. Later in the day, another game event opened and she saved her and her friend a spot, which then i removed her from. Am I the asshole for removing her from hilding her back at the waitlist, and removing her from the rsvp list for not paying an outstanding amount?

I (24M) have been in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend for about 4 months. The beginning honestly felt like a movie, traveling to see each other, spending time together, everything felt right. About a month into the relationship, an issue came up involving my ex. I had dated this ex for a year and it ended badly. Before getting into my current relationship, my ex and I had one final conversation to clear the past and mutually agreed to stop talking. There was no emotional involvement after that. I’m also a YouTuber. One day I posted a meaningful video and my ex replied to the story saying it was heartfelt. I replied with just “thank you.” I immediately told my girlfriend about it and even sent her a screenshot. Despite that, she felt deeply hurt and said I didn’t think about her before replying. Since then, this incident has never fully settled. Even when I tried being transparent later about anything related to my ex, it always turned into a fight. I even unfollowed my ex to make my girlfriend feel more secure. When my ex asked why I unfollowed, I didn’t reply. Still, this entire topic became a sensitive trigger in our relationship. Fast forward to Christmas my girlfriend was visiting me. That same day, we had another argument about the past ex issue. After we made up, she was cooking, excited, getting ready to dress up, and the mood was finally good. That’s when my ex messaged me on WhatsApp saying she was leaving the country and asked if I wanted to meet (and added that it was okay if I didn’t). I panicked. I had zero intention of meeting my ex. I didn’t want any contact. But I was terrified of telling my girlfriend because: • She had already told me her love for me had reduced after the previous incident • We were finally having a peaceful moment together • I didn’t want to ruin Christmas • I didn’t want to reopen wounds when I wasn’t doing anything wrong So I blocked my ex immediately and didn’t reply. I also didn’t tell my girlfriend about this message. It’s been about 20 days since then. I haven’t contacted my ex at all. But the guilt is killing me every single day. I’ve always been someone who values honesty, and hiding this feels against who I am even though I did it to protect my girlfriend’s feelings and our fragile relationship. I didn’t cheat. I didn’t entertain anything. But I still feel like I’m carrying this secret alone and it’s mentally exhausting. I don’t even know what I’m asking for. I just needed to get this off my chest because the guilt is overwhelming. TL;DR: Ex messaged me asking to meet before leaving the country. I blocked her immediately but didn’t tell my girlfriend because of past fights about this ex and fragile relationship timing. Now I feel extreme guilt for hiding it even though nothing happened.

I understand that as a friend, we sometimes help each other by covering up them. However, I dislike it when my friend include me in their lies without asking me. Example 1: A friend's bf asked her out in weekends. She wanted to stay alone, so she told her bf she needs to help me to move. She informed me that she lied, and she needs me and my bf to cover up in case her bf asked. However, this lie sounds so stupid to me, as I will never ask a female friend to help my moving. Example 2: She invites me and some other friends for a picnic. After all the arrangement and one day prior to the event, she argues with her bf and she did not want to go. She told the other friends 'OP's not in a good mood, she doesn't want to go, so we cancel the event.' I was not happy with that, because my bf and I had switch holiday to suit her date, ends up she use my name to cancel the event, and other friends might think I create those trouble? WIBTA if I told her I don't like her to include me in her lies? Or is it a 'responsibility' as a friend?

WIBTA parent if I have my kids (soon to be 10 & 13 in March/April) start getting up at 5 am (when me & my husband get up) & get ready for school. I was going to do this in August/September 2025 but my mother has a whole issue with it & the kids act entitled/spoiled so they also had an issue with it (walking to/from School/bus stop) This is negatively affecting the household. Mind you my mother had me & my 3 brothers walk to school & back starting in kindergarten. So I was unsure on how to feel/confused when I seen my mother trying to find my children rides (even from ppl she didn't know) to school/from school for money. so I continued to take them from point A to B. I also thought maybe I was in the wrong for wanting to have my kids walk after I saw how my mother responded/acted? 🤷‍♀️ I thought kids walking was normal? Anyways the 9 year old will put themselves on the bus & the 12 year old will walk to & from school (almost 2 miles each way) the 12 year old already chooses to walk home after school & the 9 year old walks home from the bus stop (but the 9 year old would prefer picked up) Both children will not be happy with this change if it happens. We also live in a state where there's no minimum age for children to be left alone. The children will have access to phones with 3 emergency numbers & there are cameras on the property. This would be ideal so I can go to school full time and/or work full time. Also I am aware of before/after school programs however the ones in my area will not take my oldest (high schooler) and are not open early enough for our needs (before 6 am) also feel like my children need to be more responsible with a set schedule & routine before/after school. This schedule just so happens to align with ours in the morning. WIBTA parent if I do these morning routine changes? I promise I'm more selfless than selfish, I need opinions.

I (31F) am a home daycare provider. My SIL "Jenny" (29F) recently enrolled my infant niece "Pearl" in my daycare. I love having Pearl here and being a part of her development. I have a policy with diapers - I notify the parents when there's 20 or less diapers in their kid's supply. I communicate this verbally at pickup, and through email/text reminders. If they get down to 5 left at the start of a day, and the parent still hasn't brought any, their little one isn't allowed to come until they've brought some. Jenny was told multiple times recently that Pearl's supply was getting low, and her response was always "Oops, I'll bring more tomorrow" but then she wouldn't do it. On Monday night, I sent her a text reminding her to bring diapers, and that I wouldn't be able to have Pearl here if she didn't have them. Naturally, Jenny shows up on Tuesday morning empty handed. Again with the "I forgot". I reminded her of the policy, no diapers no daycare. She got all mad about how Pearl is my niece and I can't "just turn her away", can't I break the rules just this once, and that I have no idea how busy her life is and that moms forget things sometimes. I told Jenny that she needs to follow the same rules as everyone else, and she said that I should "find room in my heart for exceptions". AITA for not taking my niece at daycare because my SIL didn't follow the policy?

Okay, this is a first for me, so I’ll start off simple, my name is Liam and my friends name is Jack, me and him are both male teenagers, and we both got along via video games (btw we both met in school.) mainly games like Fortnite, marvel rivals, etc. Well one day we’re on call and I’m getting bored of just playing the same old, same old, so I decided to ask “could we play Minecraft or smth?” And he proceeded to immediately jump on board with the idea, and soon after we had a world together, it wasn’t long before we got to work, terraforming the island, mining for ores and exploring the world, until I had found out that he’d played on this world before, now if you don’t know, Minecraft has a feature where you can basically take a worlds original generation and generate a whole other world and basically start over with that exact said world, well anyways, he had told me this was one of those worlds, and he had originally played with another friend of his named Philip, but they stopped being friends soon after, me and him met, well a little while after playing, me and him had killed the ender dragon and pretty much gone on to do almost everything in game, and just as my 2 week Minecraft phase was beginning to end, jacks was still beginning, I’d come home to an immediate bombardment of texts asking if I’d hop on Minecraft later, now, 1 of 2 things would happen, 1, I’d tell him I had homework and would be on later, and 2 I would get on, but when I did we’d just sit there for a good 20 minutes barely talking and just running around the place. Well after a little while he began to notice this pattern and texted me saying, “hey, do you wanna make a new world?” Obviously I was suspicious, because smth I kind of forgot to mention was that, he wouldn’t let me do anything in the world, unless I asked him, like going mining? “Nope, wait for me” build a house? “Waste of resources.” Log off for dinner?? “Keep playing” it was nonstop, so obviously I was little off put but onboard, well about a week ago he boots up the world and he and I start playing, I log on and see a few trees a basic looking house and a little mine, the usual, well he gave me a pickaxe, and when we down to the mines to well, mine, I blocked him down there as a simple little prank, well apparently he found it so insulting to permanently ban me from the world and basically has given me the cold shoulder since, won’t text me, every time I talk with him he either flips me the bird or calls me a slur, I just don’t anymore, please Reddit I need help, wtf do I do 😭💔 TLDR: friend and me made Minecraft world, he limited what I did, I pranked him, he banned me permanently, and won’t talk to me.

So me and my bf talk a good bit out of the day and have been dating for almost a year and a half. Is it so bad that I don’t respond to him immediately even if I’m on my phone. I’m just used to the notifications and it’s not just him but I usually get zoned in on whatever else I’m doom scrolling. Or just simply won’t respond that much if it’s not too serious or interesting. He also gets upset or constantly asks what I’m doing if I start doing smth else on FaceTime. He wants to fall asleep on ft ever night btw which is fine and I do like but sometimes I’ve worked all day and want to get caught up on the socials and I just feel rushed sometimes idek. Lemme know what yall think

I, 16 (f), went on a school trip over the summer, and was casually talking to my friends about another friend on said trip who in the past had done weird things which made me uncomfortable, for example touching me, taking my phone and scrolling on it and trying to open my laptop to show them something that I didn't want to show. Somehow said friend thought me and other friends were talking bad about them, and fast forward to present day I found out a mutual friend whom I genuinely liked and appreciated, and I thought we were pretty good friends, hates me. This friend is very close with the one I had issues with, and now has apparently lost all respect for me because of the situation. Am I the asshole for voicing my discomfort? Is my friend in the right for now hating me because I talked about it with my other friends? Apparently the friend who now hates me, only continues to be nice to me because they believe I have no friends, and that they Pity me, which personally isn't true because I'm always talking to people. Do I have thre right to be upset in this situation? Or am I the asshole?

Hello, it's my first post here, sorry if I misspell something, English it's not my first language. Let's call my friend Amy, her parents were asking our friend group to go to her birthday party as a surprise, the fact is I don't want to go because of a few things that happened in the past, around a year ago I encouraged to talk to a guy who I found really cute, I didn't talk to him in person, cuz I'm really bad at meeting new people, specially men, I texted him and we started to chat, it was really weird, anyways I was really happy cause I don't tend to talk to the people I like, all my friends knew I really liked him and wanted something else, they encouraged me to speak directly to him, but I was so insecure about my self that I couldnt even look at him in person, so I began with waving at him from distance, after like a month and half of text g him the conversations began a little boring, that's when my friend Amy texted in our group and said that she was bored so she texted the guy I was talking to, at first I didn't know but then I talked to my friends about it and began crying, which is not very common in me, they told her that I cried because of that, and she told me if she should​ quit texting her, I told her no, I know I shouldn't have said no but at that moment I thought that if I told her to stop messaging him she would be mad at me, so a few months passed, I never talked to him in person, we stopped talking cuz he stopped replying and left me on read without explanation more often, I was angry at that so I left him on read the last time, when I told my friends about that, Amy told me that she left him on read too before, but one of my friends told me that they thought that he was the one who left her on read, anyways, another few months passed and Amy told us that the guy had texted her again, she asked if she should text him back, obviously she was going to text him back cuz it was obvious she also liked him, I told her no in a way that could be interpreted both sarcastic and serious, so she texted him back, after a few days my friends were planning a hangout, and casually Amy told us that the guy was invited her AND her friends to a hangout too, I told all of my friends, including her, that I didn't wanted him in the hangout for various reasons, anyways he still went to the hangout, I was really upset with her and with the guy so I tried to ignore him all the time, but he sometimes tried to make a conversation, after the hangout Amy noticed that I wasn't feeling well, so she asked if I was okay, I told her I was, cause I don't like to talk much about my feelings, anyways they kept talking to this day I think, and I told one of my friends that I wanted to distance from her and that I didn't wanted to go to her birthday. We are all teens, maybe im just exaggerating and just talk about it, but I don't really know how to express her my feelings. So, AITA? Be honest please

My (30F) brother (30M) and I grew up and currently live on the west coast, but the college we both went to is on the east coast. While we were in college he dated his ex-girlfriend (30F) for 3 years. They broke up after college because he wanted to move back home and his ex-girlfriend wanted to stay in the same state where our school was. When we were 28, six years out of college, my brother got laid off sort of had a quarter-life crisis. He started talking about how he was unhappy with his life and said he was going back to the east coast to look for work and re-connect with his ex-girlfriend. He said he was still in love with her. I knew it was an awful idea. He wasn’t making that much and definitely couldn’t afford to move. I asked her how he was going to find her (she didn’t have social media in college) and he said he was going to go to the house she lived when we were in college (no idea if she moved) and knock. I was also disturbed by the fact that he seemed to have not gotten over an ex-girlfriend from 6 years ago. His decision seemed to be driven by nostalgia for more care-free days and disillusionment with post-grad life, not genuine love. Also, we had no idea what the ex’s situation was. She could’ve been taken or completely over my brother or simply not wanted to see him. It’s insultingly presumptive to re-enter somebody’s life like that. My parents and I couldn’t convince him not to, and he kept saying things like he only had one life. So I just lied. I said that I knew from a college friend that she’d gotten married. He sulked for a bit but got a new job and things improved for him. He even started seeing somebody else. Anyway, yesterday he got a friend request on Facebook and guess what? It was her. They started chatting and when he found out that the marriage was invented, he was pretty angry. He called me seething, yelling at me for lying to him. I told him that I was only trying to stop him from making an impulsive decision, that his life was better for it, and to quit the fantasizing. We haven’t spoken since. Side note: I found his reaction to be incredibly weird and am thinking of telling his partner. But AITA?

I (F27) have been sick I live alone My other friends either live far away or out of town. My family lives 2 hr from me. Sat night I was projectile vomiting & having extreme diarrhea or essentially piss out my butt. I had a fever of 102. doctor sent in zofran to stop nausea and vomiting so I could consume fluids. I have t1d so I could easily go into DKA if I’m not consuming enough fluids and throwing up. I text friends asking if they could come over from nyc on train ((20 min ride (I do it all the time to get to them (both M27)) 2 grab keys and card and drive my car to the pharmacy & pick up my meds bc I was incapable of doing so Courier wasn’t an option bc they required receipt & I didn’t pay for it (they wouldn’t let me over the phone). The pharmacy didn’t deliver same day either I text in gc to get their attention “can you guys please do me a favor” 20 mins pass. I desperately say I’ll even pay $100 I text both separately. 1 says maybe in a few hours the other inquires more of what it would entail. I said I’ll pay for uber if u don’t want to take train. He said hell do it if I buy them food. I say ok. They end up taking train together. They forget my card is under mat so my one friend pays for the meds. He said he’ll request me for food and cost of meds I say ok. I get a text from friend that I’m closer with saying I essentially owe $100 plus the cost of my meds. I ask what do you mean He explains they both went to a restaurant and spent $100. I say I didn’t think you were going to spend $100. I said I would pay for food thinking it would be approximately $30 after thats what me and the other friends agreed upon. He says he feels misled. I text in group chat, explaining how in theory I don’t think I should be subjected to pay because I was not under the impression that much would be owed after agreeing upon food. I currently got laid off of both my jobs they are both aware. They are both decently well off and spend their free time using Kalshi to place bets (a lot of $$ objectively) just for fun. I explained that as well I also explained how it feel feels very transactional and it’s slightly hurtful that they would almost take advantage of me when I am so sick and borderline ready to go to the ER. For context, I have done things and gone out of my way with no expectation of receiving a “” payback” or any monetary compensation. It feels especially hurtful because I am in the midst of planning a surprise birthday party that one friend knows about for the other that’s coming up in a few weeks and I have spent a lot of time effort and money to prepare this but I don’t mind because they’re my friend, but it doesn’t feel that way on their end. AITA? TLDR: I was projectile vomiting and couldn’t pick up my meds so I asked my friends if they could in exchange for buying them food to which I am now being asked to send them $100. edit: For clarification when I agreed to pay for food, it wasn’t specified that it would be dinner. I just thought they were going to pick up takeout. I did not think they were going to sit down and order two entrées and appetizer and dessert. I initially said the $100 to get their attention but when I started speaking to each of them individually, I then offered to only pay the cost of an Uber then he agreed to do it if I only purchased food. I always had the enchant of paying back the cost of my medication obviously and I was never going to pay $100 plus an Uber plus food as a thank you.

Hello! I’ve been thinking about posting this for a while now. I’m 18 and a cheerleader at my school. Small school there’s like 300 kids and it’s all K-12. Anyways this means there’s not a lot of cheerleaders (there’s 7 of us). So like to help get money for our team we are doing concessions for Jv games. The thing is my mom doesn’t want to do it. She said she’d buy the stuff for it she just won’t help. So I asked why and she said her boyfriend is coming down to visit. And don’t get me wrong he’s a great guy so I don’t mind at all, I actually asked her if they can both come watch me cheer. She said no cause she didn’t want people to stare and judge. The thing about my mom is she has MAJOR anxiety and I’ve dealt with it for years and I don’t judge her for it. But it’s been getting annoying the past few years. She hasn’t gone to many games she also just doesn’t t really go out when I try to get her to go. She worried people will stare cause her and my dad got divorced in 2024 but they separated 2022 (my dad dragged it out). What I’m trying to say is she can come to the game with her boyfriend and enjoy it. Even if my dad shows up he wouldn’t make a huge deal about it but she is still worried about being judged. I know I sound mean but since my Freshmen year I’ve been dealing with my mom going to my games at all she only showed up

I (19m) got a message from one of my flatmates (25m) asking if we could do a deep clean of the house as he was having people over, I said yes I’ll clean the living room and he said he’d clean the kitchen. I came downstairs at midnight to make some food and went to put something in the bin and saw 2 of my kitchen towels aswell as every other kitchen towel in the bin. The kitchen towels are definitely in bad shape but nothing some vinegar and a proper clean won’t fix. I took my towels out and messaged my flatmate saying “I don’t think a deep clean involves binning other people’s kitchen towels when they could be washed” I meant it in a sort of jokey way but I was definitely annoyed that he binned my towels without asking. My flatmate then came downstairs clearly annoyed and swearing saying stuff like “your chatting \*\*\*\*” etc. he said he was going to buy more because he thought they were beyond saving even tho I disagree, I said something along the lines of “that’s fine but I didn’t want mine being binned, it’s about the principle of binning someone’s stuff without asking” he kept disagreeing and stayed angry and also brought up the fact that I used his cheese grater even tho he said I could as long as I washed up which he denied. I don’t want this to become a big issue as conflict in a shared house isn’t good but I don’t feel like I had done anything wrong. Idk if my message was too harsh and idk if I should say anything more or just leave it. Edit: I forgot to add he thinks I was saying he didn’t deep clean the kitchen well enough, I told him that’s not what I said. TLDR: AITA for sending my flatmate a message saying not to bin my kitchen towels just because he thinks there too dirty even if he said he would replace them.

Burner account, I wont reply to many things, the website was temu and I wont disclose ages because I don't feel like sharing my brothers ages. I sent my younger brother a link, told him to delete it after I did a verification thing. To actually use the app you have to use a phone number. a week later 2 of my brothers bought 2 things around \~$20. I got in trouble and tried to explain that I tried to stop my brothers but they didnt listen and kept using the app. He took my moms number and card aswell. AITA? EDIT: She got it refunded and isnt as mad as she was, I explained that i tried to get them to stop before hand but couldn't in the moment and she understood.

Hi reditt! I'm using a throw away as the people involved in this story are all frequent reditters. This happened earlier today and I'm wondering if I'm an asshole. So I work at a after school program. I'm a teacher, so I run classes/lessons. The club has a strict set of rules. The biggest being the phone policy. The policy is super strict since we have a lot of children with court orders that attend the club. One of our older teens decided to stand in my room on his phone. Our policy dictates that you can only be om your phone for these reasons: 1. You're texting a parent, while in the snack room. 2. You're in the teen room I don't work in either, so I walked up to him and asked him to please put his phone away. Reiterating the phone policy. He responded by telling me that I can't take his phone. I told him that I wasn't going to, as long as he puts his phone away. As I an a warning then consequences after the warning type person. His response was telling me to fuck off and he dosent have to listen to me, before storming out of the room. I did have to tell my boss about it as what he did is extremely disrespectful, and there were younger ages present. We don't want the younger ones to think it's ok. My boss had a long conversation with him. I'm not privy to the specifics but he got removed from the teen room as a consequence. Since that room is a privilege, not a right. I told both my partner, mom, and older siblings about it over dinner. All of them told me I was a dick for doing that. As he could've just been having a bad day. My sister told me that I shouldn't have switched, because now he's in trouble for what could've been a "off day". My grandma is the only one who's on my side. But now that I'm thinking about it, I have off days too. Maybe I shouldn't have told my boss right away and tried to have a conversation with him beforehand? I just don't know. So reditt, am I the asshole for getting him stripped of his club privileges?

So for context me and my friend like to go a three day weekend event that her friend hosts. I haven't been able to go the past few years due to several reasons mainly financial. My friend is presenting and was able to score an extra ticket and she said as long as I could get there the ticket was mine. I was and still am super excited because she moved to LA (which is where it's hosted)  a few years ago and I miss her. Here's where I'm not sure if I'm the ahole. A few weeks ago my mom randomly said she was thinking about coming with me but said she wasn't sure since it would depend on her bonus, I've learned to take everything with a handful of salt since plans almost always fall through. I booked everything for myself either way because I knew I would be going either way. My mom sent me a text this morning saying she booked her flight. I sent a message to my friend to let her know and her response really made me feel horrible. I forgot to mention that the trip is not till August so it's not really a last minute change. So me and friend are still doing the event and my mom will be doing her own thing during that time. Nothing about that aspect has changed. But I'm going to be out two days before the event and two days after. My mom is fully aware of what I like to do (like going to crystal and oddity shops) and is fine with it but she also likes some of the things I do like museums and tours, things like that which is also something my friend enjoys and we were debating on going to the ones I missed last time. I was already going to stay at a hotel, so its not like i was staying at my friends place. I honestly didn't have any plans apart from a few things that can be done in one day because money was gonna be tight, but with my mom splitting some of the costs will help and it'll be easier to do more things. I asked if there was anything that she would like to do but her response just made me feel horrible because I know the tone she sent it with. She said "I'll be honest. I was looking forward to just some time with you. So I don't know. This wasn't in the plans." I told her I understand, I wasn't expecting it either, and that my mom said she doesn't mind doing things on her own but I do want to do things with her as well since shes never really taken a trip with just me and not with other people in my family going with us.  I'm just so torn and feel like complete crap. AITAH?

So things to know first: I live with my grandparents right now (reasons why are irrelevant) and my grandfather (we’ll call him Tony) currently takes care of his mom (we’ll call her grandma). So he doesn’t feel comfortable giving her a bath himself but he didn’t get her a bath aid until last month-ish but there was an wait and the aid is coming tomorrow. Grandma hasn’t had an actual shower in god knows how long as her definition of a shower is letting water run over her. Tony told me before going to bed that the shower aid comes tomorrow sometime which is great cause she stinks. The problem is she doesn’t have anything to bathe with. i guess they expect me to let her use my stuff but I have extremely curly hair that requires specific shampoo and conditioner. Like we’re talking over $30 a bottle and I have a tight budget rn and my family knows about my financial situation and how expensive my stuff is. So after they went to bed I went to the bathroom and brought all my stuff that I bought/buy and brought it to my room. Theres /nothing/ left in there; not even a bar of soap (the only bar of soap I use is for down there and I’m not sharing that). I told Tony when he first mentioned getting her an aid that she doesn’t have anything soap, shampoo, etc. and he said he’ll get her some before the aid comes. He hasn’t. so am I going to be/am I the AH for not leaving my products in the bathroom knowing she doesn’t have anything to bathe with? update of other things I keep seeing in the comments: 1) yes my grandmother (Tony’s wife we’ll call Connie) and Tony shower so I’m hoping when he sees I moved my stuff he’ll either go buy her something or share his 2) I pay rent to live there tho not a lot ($100 a month) as I only make $600ish a month and my car insurance is $400. I help out around the house to make up for not paying as much but from the beginning they knew I wouldn’t help with grandma due to issues from the past (her threatening to kill me and Connie, calling me a whore for going on a date with my bf at the time, etc.) 3) I live with them because I was escaping an abusive relationship in a different state that led to me being pregnant. they're also helping me with figuring out finances like saving and budgeting

My mom died last year. My cousin, (C) (m,53) was living with my mom when she died. There was a financial arrangement made, when my mom died, with another cousin (B). The arrangement was that "B covers my mom's mortgage, and any utilities C uses." B just called and said she can't continue with the arrangement. C doesn't work, has little work history. Just filed for SSI. B said to take him to a homeless shelter. Another cousin (D) advised to give him a date and tell him he has to start paying by or get out by 4/1/25. Don't get the wrong idea about C. He is loving, smart, and reliable. He is different, disabled and needs a patient hand to help him. I don't know what to do. I have to pay the mortgage regardless, until it's sold, we are still in Probate. This won't be easy on us. We can barely afford what we have now. My husband wants us to take C on financially. Even after we sell the house. So WIBTA if I kicked my cousin out?

My cousin (25F) and I live together and share a bathroom. For background, she’s generally a messy person. she tends to collect clutter and her room is never clean but that honestly doesn’t bother me because it’s her space and not my business. What has been bothering me is something that’s been happening consistently over the past few months, specifically when she’s on her period. I’ll go into the bathroom and find large wads of toilet paper left in the toilet, often unflushed, which ends up clogging it. On top of that, there are also wads of toilet paper in the trash can and sometimes just scattered around the bathroom. This frustrates me for several reasons.. The toilet keeps getting clogged, the amount of toilet paper being used feels excessive and wasteful, I don’t think I should have to clean it up or deal with it, and frankly, it’s gross.. not to mention she’s constantly using up all the toilet paper. I’ve brought it up to her before, asking why there’s toilet paper everywhere. The first couple of times, she brushed it off and acted like she didn’t know what I was talking about, just saying “I don’t know.” When it continued and I asked again, she said, “Oh, sometimes I throw it in the trash instead of the toilet,” completely ignoring the bigger issue. I genuinely don’t understand why this is happening or what’s going on, but I do know that if I bring it up again, she’ll probably get defensive especially since it’s related to her period. I’m stuck between being uncomfortable and not wanting to start a fight. How do I call her out on this in a way that actually fixes the problem?

I (20F) live with my mother (52F) and older brother (22M). Although I am taking a semester off from school to focus on my mental health, I was previously enrolled in university full time. Currently, I work part time at a retail shop, and my brother works a full time night shift job, and has been doing so for the past two years. When I was enrolled as a full time student, I was working 24-28 hours a week, and if I wasn’t at school, I would be at work, and vice versa. Because of this, I was often exhausted and didn’t have the energy to cook dinner for myself. I would tell my mother this, and she would tell me that I should still cook dinner for my brother since he works full time. I told her that because he is a young adult, he should be responsible for his own meals, just like I am. She will often get angry with me and say I am being selfish and not being a kind sister. In her eyes, because he takes out the trash, that means I should cook his meals and be responsible for his share of the dishes as well. She will also tell me that because my brother doesn’t know how to cook very well, I should just make his dinner whenever I make mine. This has made me feel very dismissed and like she’s placing me in a parental role. Lately, she has been asking me to make sure he is up and getting ready for work, and to make sure that his dinner is prepared. She also wants me to help him earn his driving permit since I have recently passed my written test, even though I had to prepare for my test with no guidance or help from my mom even after begging her to teach me how to drive. I have repeatedly told her that these things are not my job, and that her coddling my brother is only going to hurt him in the long run. Am I being selfish and mean? I love my brother, and I have no problem with helping him when he asks. But I just don’t want to act like his mother. Sorry if this was jumbled and hard to read.

I (29F) am severely nearsighted, and it’s been a huge insecurity for me my entire life. For context, I've never met anyone with worse vision than mine. Whenever I tell people my prescription, it's always met by 'WHAAAT', 'No way!, 'Are you legally blind?' and it's always made me feel embarrassed and singled out. When I was younger, I started lying about my prescription and telling people it was much lower than it actually is, just so I wouldn't feel so different. Recently, I needed new glasses, and since I live out of town and just visitng back home, my mom took me to the optician she goes to regularly. At the store, the woman working there took my current glasses to measure the prescription. She looked at them and immediately chuckled and said, 'These are quite thick, aren't they?' Then, after she checked them and saw the prescription printed out, she chuckled again and said, 'Wow, you're VERY blind'. I was already uncomfortable, but then I saw her take my glasses and the measurement slip to the back and briefly show them to a few coworkers. They leaned in, looked at it, and giggled. I couldn’t hear what they were saying, but it was pretty clear they were reacting to how strong my prescription was. At that point, I was genuinely upset. When she came back, I snapped and told her that I found her comments about my vision, and laughing about a patient’s prescription and showing it to other staff like it was a joke, rude and unprofessional. She looked shocked and said she was “just fascinated” because it’s not often she sees someone so young with eyesight this bad. My mom got uncomfortable and tried to smooth things over. After we left, my mom told me that this is her local optician and that I embarrassed her. She said I overreacted, that the woman didn’t mean anything by it, and that I should’ve just ignored it or laughed it off instead of making a scene. She also said that if someone points out that she has thick glasses and horrible eyesight, she wouldn't be upset as those are just facts, and you “can’t get upset about facts,” and that I need to get over this childhood insecurity. I’m honestly hurt that she doesn't have my back too. It feels easy for her to say when her prescription is only around -7 and her glasses look pretty normal. Mine is -15. My lenses are soo thick, my eyes look tiny, and the distortion from the lenses just screams to the world how bad my eyes are and I hate how self-conscious I am of them. But I just feel like a medical professional should know better than to mock or gossip about a patient, especially right in front of them as what they joke about could be a sensitive subject for many people. So AITA for snapping at the optician for this or is my insecurity making me unreasonably sensitive about this issue?

AITA for not giving my ex-friend her books back? Last year (Feb 2025), I (18F) became friends with a girl I’ll call Rachel (17F). She’s a big reader and owns a lot of books. During our friendship, she gave me four books she said she didn’t want anymore. One of them was a duplicate she already owned. There was no mention of borrowing, returning them, or any conditions. She gave them to me as gifts. Later in the year, after a separate personal situation where she supported me, I began to notice inconsistencies in things Rachel had told me throughout our friendship. After talking to others, I realized she had lied to me multiple times. Because honesty is important to me, I told her I no longer wanted to be friends and tried to cut contact. After this, Rachel repeatedly messaged me over several weeks despite me asking her to stop. During this time, she demanded the books back and claimed I had “stolen” them, saying they were only meant to be borrowed which was never discussed when she gave them to me. She also made threats, including attempting to blackmail me and making a transphobic comment toward me (she later claimed it was “meant for someone else”). Eventually, she sent a message saying it was best to “move on,” and I blocked her on everything. I still have the books. I haven’t damaged or sold them, and I didn’t keep them out of spite. I just don’t believe I’m obligated to return gifts, especially after the harassment. So, AITA for not giving the books back?

My sister (40f) and I (37m) have never been super close and I have no intention of cutting her out of my life but she was very dismissive when I came out as gay and I will be getting married soon but haven't told her yet and really thinking about not telling her at all. even though she has meet my boyfriends in the past she never really acknowledged me being gay. I'm concerned that she might try and do something at my wedding but if I don't have her there it's going to start a lot of family drama. so would I be the asshole if I just don't invite her?

My daughter bought me a necklace with a little charm on it and I wear it constantly, however the chain has a ‘safety chain’ bit on the end and the charm keeps getting caught up on it when the necklace tends to rotate. I wear a second chain and often have to keep moving the clasp back to the back of my neck, the necklace my daughter bought also does this, but I’m filled with worry every time as it gets caught on the charm and I’m scared it’s going to break the chain as it’s quite difficult to get back. So would I be the AH if I swapped the charm to a different chain?

i’m 19. so i guess this is more like “moving out” than “running away”. but i have strict, conservative, muslim parents who will die if their daughter does anything without their permission. so i’m a party girl. i love drinking and taking weed sometimes, pretty standard 19 year old activities. i’m also bisexual and i have a gf. of course my parents would kill me if they found out all of these things. well they did find out. worst day of my life. they sat me down, yelled at me, and told me they were taking away my phone. they weren’t gonna let me leave the house forever. basically house arrest. so i decided that i couldn’t do it anymore and i decided to leave. i took an uber to the airport when i managed to leave without being seen. as i was in the uber, they started blowing my phone up asking me where i was and telling me to come home immediately. i ignored all their calls and texts. i arrived at the airport and went through security. i made my way to the boarding gate after some time. when the lady scanned my boarding pass, she said there was a problem and took me to a desk to try and figure out why my boarding pass wasn’t working. suddenly, 2 members of airport security show up and escort me out. and there were my parents, waiting for me. i argued with the airport security guy for like an hour telling him that im 19 and he had no right to allow my parents to convince him to stop me as i am an adult. idk how my parents pulled it off (maybe they bribed the guy) but somehow they managed to stop me. also i have no clue how they found out where i was because i made sure to turn my location off. anyway, after that my parents drove me straight to the psych ward and left me there for two weeks because i was “mentally ill”. all because i tried to leave to live my own life without having my parents control it. so AITAH for choosing freedom?

Me (20MtF) and my sister (25F) both still live in our parents' house and have our parents providing for us. My sister's had endometriosis since puberty. To those who don't know, it's a condition that can cause severe pain during menstruation and digestion; there's more to it than just that but that's what's relevant to this situation. For the last 2-3 years, my sister's been doing less around the house, she has no job, she's not been doing chores or even simple tasks like giving the dogs their medicine in the evening. I'm perfectly capable of doing tasks like that myself, but it annoys me that I, after getting a full-time job, am still having to do these tasks when I think my sister should be fully capable of doing them. She told me she used to think the pain she was experiencing was normal for every girl. However, what I take away from that is that she used to be willing to push through it despite the pain but now that she knows that it's abnormal she sees that as an excuse to just do nothing, and when I ask her to do something she always tells me she's in too much pain, but recently she's just been sitting on the couch playing a mindless tycoon game on her phone all day, not even doing anything somewhat productive or beneficial like writing (which is a hobby of hers), reading a book, or anything like that, just sitting around playing mobile games. She will more often help when she's not on her period, but even so she doesn't do nearly as much as she could be. In contrast, our sibling (23) who has Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and a seizure disorder, is moved out of the house, living with friends. They don't have a job either but they still pull their weight in their home, doing chores, cooking, and keeping the house in shape while their roommates are making money. I talked to them about this situation and they had this to say: *"What I can sympathize with:* * *Disability impacting your ability to do things you used to do. EDS is degenerative and dynamic, so I don't have consistent symptoms, but on bad days it's really hard to get things done* * *being in pain sucks and it's really easy to just lay around and suffer vs getting up and doing shit* *Where I stop sympathizing:* * *Today I woke up in a lot of pain. I took a hot shower and covered myself in medicated body wash. I slathered my whole body in arthritis gel. I put on every goddamn brace I own. Knees, ankle, wrist. I cleaned my room, i did my laundry, I unloaded the dishwasher, I wiped down the stove, I made myself dinner and I washed a pan. I did so with the power of 4 naps, breaks in between, 100oz of water and a frankly obscene amount of painkillers."* Am I the asshole for thinking that she's just being lazy and using her disability as an excuse, and for frequently trying to push her to help out more now that I have a job and she doesn't? Or am I just being ableist?

I’m literally shaking while I write this. I feel like I’m losing my mind and my entire family is gaslighting me. I (34F) lost my husband, Dave three years ago. It was sudden, it was horrific, and it left me as a solo parent to a toddler. Dave was the kind of guy who planned for everything, so he had a solid life insurance policy. To be honest, I hate that money. Every time I look at the account balance, I just see the person I’m missing. I’ve barely touched it, except for the mortgage and my daughter’s school. My sister, Jess (29F), is a lot. She’s always been the main character of the family. Last year, my parents were in a massive hole. Medical debt, back taxes, the works. They were literally weeks away from losing the house we grew up in. Without thinking twice, I cut a check for $45k from my husband's money to clear their debt. I didn't want a thank you, I just wanted my parents to have a roof over their heads. Fast forward to last friday. Jess is getting married to Francis whose family is well to do. We’re at this insanely expensive engagement dinner. Jess is holding court, talking about their three week destination wedding in Lake Como(terrible place by the way) She starts going on about how blessed she is to have a family that prioritizes success and can afford to give her the wedding of a lifetime. Then she looked me dead in the eye(I kid you not) and said, "I’m just glad I didn’t have to settle for a courthouse wedding and a backyard BBQ. I could never live with such small horizons." So my late husband and I had a courthouse wedding because we were saving for a house. It was the happiest day of my life. I felt like I’d been slapped. I whispered to her to just drop it and be grateful. She laughed that high pitched, annoying fake laugh she does and said, loud enough for the inlaw's parents to hear: "Oh, Elena, don't be so bitter. Just because you didn't have the dream doesn't mean I shouldn't." I have never felt more berated and attacked for no just reason. I just… I snapped. The grief and the three years of playing the strong one just boiled over. I said, the only reason Mom and Dad aren't homeless right now, is because I used my dead husband’s blood money to pay off their mortgage. They aren't funding your wedding they’re just using the money I saved them to pretend they’re richer than they are. So maybe stop insulting my marriage when Dave is literally paying for your champagne." The silence was deafening. My dad looked like he wanted to shrink into the floor. Francis parents looked absolutely horrified. My sister burst into these ugly, theatrical sobs and ran out, and now Francis and his parents are looking at my parents like they’re scammers. My parents are FURIOUS. My mom sent me a text saying I "stripped them of their dignity" and that I’m "weaponizing a gift." They’re saying that since the $45k was a gift, it became their money, and I have no right to track how it allowed them to spend elsewhere. AITA?

So me (19) and my girlfriend (19) (both students) were looking to plan a summer holiday. I already had wanted to go to Croatia as it would be my first time visiting, so I naturally asked her what she thought of the idea. She agreed it would be nice but then after looking at cost, she said that she may struggle to fund it. I, of course am also not rolling in it, however I’m a bit less concerned about the amount. We then came to the conclusion after a bit more research that a holiday visiting a few places in our home country might be nice. This is when I brought up with her that I really want to visit Croatia/ abroad and would like to do it whilst I’m a student, and that if she doesn’t think she can cover the cost, I can also go with a friend to keep it fun! She broke down from this saying that we have limited time together in summer (we are long distance, an hour flight) and that I am already away with family in another country for two weeks and now I want to spend another week apart. Am I therefore the asshole for wanting to go with or without her?

This is **not** about whether we should stay together, break up, or anything about the relationship itself. I’m only asking whether *my specific boundary request* makes me an asshole. My partner (31M) and I (31F) were broken up for almost a year. During that time, he had a one‑time encounter with someone else, and she became pregnant. We reconnected in November, and he told me everything. He says he wants to be with me, but he has been extremely vague and inconsistent about his communication with her. He promised transparency so I could rebuild trust, but he only tells me things if I directly ask. I recently found out he’s been checking in on her daily about how she’s feeling, symptoms, etc. He calls it “being cordial,” but to me it feels like more than that. He also lied about driving her sister to another city because of morning sickness. When I confronted him, he said he didn’t tell me because he “didn’t want me to get mad.” Before that, he had specifically promised honesty. I’m not asking him to abandon his kid. I’m not asking him to mistreat her. I’m not asking him to stop being involved. I’m asking for **clear boundaries**, like: * no daily personal check‑ins * no hiding communication * no lying “to protect my feelings” * transparency about appointments and major decisions He says he’s overwhelmed, anxious, and exhausted, and that I should be patient. I’m trying. But I also feel like I’m being pushed aside while he goes above and beyond for her and does the bare minimum for me. So the ONLY question I’m asking is: **AITA for wanting specific boundaries and transparency while he co‑parents with someone he isn’t in a relationship with?**

AITA for getting my 10 month old daughter Christmas gifts? Backstory, my wife and I had just moved 3 hours away to a small town. She works remote and I work as a cdl operator. I’m always working long hours and she is always in meetings and on business calls, so we had her mother move in, as she hasn’t worked a day in her life and wants to be close her daughter and grand daughter. My wife is the first on her side and I am the first on my side to have children. During the first few months after the birth of our daughter, my wife had her mother living with us, which has brought me a whole lot of stress and anxiety. My mother in law is the type of woman whom always has to be right about everything even though she is clearly wrong, and always sticks her nose in mine and my wife’s business, especially private and personal conversations. I am a very patient person and have been very patient with her mother ever since we got together 5 years ago, and when my work offered more hours and a higher wage in an area that’s 3 hours away, we jumped right on it. My wife and I had been wanting to get away for a long while now. When we told friends, family , etc. no one had an issue except for her mother. Mind you she sees her daughter and grand daughter everyday. My side of the family hardly ever see our daughter. She got real nasty with me and said how I was taking her daughter and grand daughter away from her and that I’m being selfish. I just let my wife handle her. Fast forward while we are still looking for a babysitter to come help watch our daughter, my wife’s mother is living with us again to help watch her. So Xmas is coming up and I work 70+ hours a week. I pay for all the bills in the house and never ask for help on anything, so when I finally had the chance to stop by a store to get gifts, I did, I got a walker, a swing and a few plushies. Side note, I have always helped her family out financially and over the past year I have given them $5k+. When I got home, I went, showered and came downstairs to eat some food. As I’m eating, my wife asks to speak privately, so I do. Apparently as I was showering, her mother had told her that we got the same gifts. I had asked my wife if she wanted me to return the duplicate gift, she said no. So we go back down and I’m in the kitchen. My mother in law comes in and goes, we have a problem, we gotten your daughter the same gifts. I said okay, that’s fine, she can have 2, 1 at your house and 1 at my house for when we visit. I also had asked if they were the exact same and gotten no response. She walked away and not even 2 minutes later, she had asked me if I could return the gifts I got my daughter. At the moment I got heated and said, no, I’m not returning gifts I got my daughter on her first Xmas . She got upset and said she was gonna return her then because she wanted to be the one to give her a walker for Xmas, I then shouted, why are you making this about you and not about her, AITA for not returning the gifts?

My family has just recently moved into this big house back at end of April 2025. This place got 5 rooms so one for EACH family member. so my brother doesn't even have a reason to be here, anyways Whenever i leave for school or literally anything requiring me to go outside, my brother(11) would take naps, eat food and play on his ipad in my room. This doesn't sound so bad but it's the fact he always trashes my room and leaves his leftover plates and bits of food behind. What makes this worse that nobody cleans up after him, not him, not my older brother, not my parents. so when i come back from school, i ALWAYS have to break my back picking up rubbish that wasn't even mine for at least 15 minutes; Obviously i'm gonna be mad right? I've always been complaining to my dad about this injustice for a while now. He says he'd hire a locksmith to give my door a lock so i wouldn't have to come back to a shihole everyday. (Spoiler, he didn't) Recently my mother came back for her vacation and has some time off work until Friday. This took place on Thursday (today) I came back from home to see if my brother treated my room like his own personal waste dump. My mum was in the kitchen on ground floor when i entered the house, she called out for my name and rushed to say good afternoon. My mum was PISSED i didn't greet her properly i came back downstairs and she started off by saying that i was being tardy and disrespectful. She then went and said, "You probably was in such a hurry to check if (lets call my brother M) M was in your room huh?" i made the fatal mistake of agreeing, i then went on to say that i never liked him in my room because he'd mess up all my stuff and leave his trash everywhere. She started screaming at me about how i should have empathy because hes autistic. M is high support autism, but the problem is that my parents never properly raised him. Whenever he had meltdowns my parents just gave him what he wanted to get him to quiet down. This taught him that screaming crying kicking gets him whatever whenever, This made him overly spoiled and defiant. M actually knows alot of things. He wasn't taught the rest though. M understands and obeys boundaries and orders from my parents but not his siblings. He does know how to tidy up. And how to gtfo of a room My mum keeps saying to "accommodate" him and his needs (which means to clean up his mess after i come back home every time) i totally understand that he's high support so its harder for him to understand stuff but there's a difference between understanding and invading privacy. I tried telling my mum that it's the fact i wouldn't want to clean after somebody else in MY space every day, meaning i'm going to be mad regardless. She says that he doesn't yes and no, what's right and wrong (he does) so i'd have to be patient with him Long story short she called me selfish and evil for not wanting to clean my brothers trash from my room, that it's unfair to him or something. AITA?

So, I just want to know AITA and over reacting? About a week ago, my friend brought up a concert that’s coming a few months away. Since this topic was brought up, immediately I was interested in going. I’m in a group chat with just the 3 of us and we talk daily they are my best friends. I did my research on the venue was even willing to call radio stations to get free tickets they were giving away. As of yesterday, my friend mentioned the concert again and I was replying back about it and doing more research for all 3 of us even sending pictures of where we would be sitting from a good view on my computer and making funny jokes about how high up we would be sitting as we all were. No definate yes was given by me but, it didn’t seem like it had to be a definate because I was still doing my own research plus she just asked other friends if they wanted to go. A little time goes by and my one friend posts in the chat were going to the concert!!!! I clicked the image excitedly and she only purchased 2 tickets one for herself and my other friend in the chat. I immediately was like wtf?!! I made two comments and haven’t talked to either of them because I’m really feeling some type of way. AITA? Should I be this mad over it? A lot of things have been happening in my life lately so I just want to make sure I’m not being petty. THANKS!

I(19F) My girlfriend is livid with me. This past sunday night. I drank about 800ML of vodka (almost died) and I can’t recall much from the night but (to give some backstory I live in an apartment. I’m mostly keep to myself, but I have shared drinks and conversation with my neighbour every now and again. Another important fact is that my girlfriend and I are semi long distance) the fact that I was drinking with my neighbour and the fact I had called my gf. (I can only remember about five minutes of the two hour conversation that we had.) I think my neighbour took advantage of my drunkenness but she says she doesn’t remember anything even though she hadn’t drank as much as me. I’m now three days sober due to the incident, but my girlfriend brings it up every chance she gets I feel guilty am I the asshole??????

AITA? I (33M) live with my parents and share a room with my brother (30M). I recently had a trip where I bought a lot of cool merch from theme parks, a piece of which was requested as a favor and paid for by a coworker, who came to my house to pick it up. I told my family he was coming in advance and that it'd be a quick visit, as my brother is currently sick. Wheny friend came he politely asked to see the other stuff I bought so I asked him to come upstairs, showed him my displays, exchanged a short conversation about the items and headed back down. It was less than 5 minutes all in all. After he left my brother and my mother (59F) told me I was a disrespectful asshole for having "A stranger" invade the family space that is upstairs, they told me I was inconsiderate to my brother (Who wasn't even in the room). I know it's her house and her rules but I can't help but feel they're exaggerating quite a bit. So, Am I the asshole? TLDR: I quickly let a friend into our shared room to show him some stuff I bought and my family thinks I was disrespectful for it. Edit: To clarify some things, I live in a third world country where it's not uncommon to live with your parents until you marry. I didn't attend the trip to just buy merch, I went to ask my GF (29F) to marry me, that was the whole point we're both huge nerds. My brother isn't sick with anything contagious, just has backpains and was NOT in the room.

Throw away for many reasons. I (28f) and my fiancée (29m) have been together for 2 years (let's call him K). K and I have been dealing with alot of issues with his friend group over the last couple of weeks as we discovered we are pregnant just last month. Some background context; Me and K met through tinder to which I was number 11 (ifykyk) and I initially had stopped dating for a while due to a suspicion that they only had interests in how I look and not who I am as a person (I'm no supermodel but I take care of myself). One day after my hiatus of dating apps I decided that I would give it one last shot but with a twist...a mustache (equal to a teenage boys). Yes some people may think this a stupid idea but I decided that the best way to find my person had to be someone who could look past a very obvious flaw and see me for who I am (I grow thick hair due to my itailian heritage). For a while I received a few matches until one day at work I matched with K (I am a in a mask friendly workplace) our conversation escalated very quickly and during my lunch break we talked otp. We then set up a date for later that night at a restaurant with factory in the name. K was already waiting at the table when I arrived. He was taken back initially but chose not to say anything. The date was amazing and even though I don't make it a habit we went back to his house and spiciness happened. I stayed the night and we continued to talk throughout the whole night about everything and nothing at the same time until we realized it was 5am. I left, went home, and cleaned up (shaved the stash) I got a message asking if I was free the same night, we then met up at a beachside restaurant that night and he was again taken back and asked me "what happened to the mustache?" I proceeded to tell him it was a test to see if he would care about how I looked or not, he then said that it wasn't necessary because my looks are not what describe me as a person (instantly enamored) to which we made it official after again repeating the night before (yes I got some sleep). Fast forward a bit to meeting his friends, he introduced me to some friends he's had sense elementary school. The first comment one of them made was "whoa that's mustache girl? Shes absolutely gorgeous" to which he swiftly shut the friend down and codemned him for it. Initially the comment bugged me. What I didnt know is he showed me off to his friends and told me how wonderful I was. The comments continued to happen behind closed doors to which I had no idea, fast forward again to now. We announced our pregnancy to all of our friends and family and K's friends decided to DM him instead of commenting publicly. Reaching character limit but found out the dms of the name calling evolved into saying "didnt know men can get pregnant" among other things. I proceed to tell K I don't want to hang out with his friends due to the disrespect but he can. He is now upset with me saying they are just words. Am I overreacting?

I was out with my girlfriend, my friend Rick and his girlfriend Jane. Jane and my girlfriend both ordered chicken caesar wraps and side salad. Rick and I got shaved beef sandwiches with fries. When the food arrived, Jane asked Rick if she could have a few fries. Rick said no, if she wanted fries, she should have ordered fries. She said that she did not want an entire order of fries, she wanted a few. I said she could have some of mine. She said thanks and took a few. I did not think anything of this interaction. After we left, Rick asked me why I gave into Jane’s little game. I said huh? And he said Jane loves to play the “no I don’t want fries ooh can I have some of yours” game and it pisses him off. I didn’t really know what to say. I said that I don’t think it’s weird to want a few fries versus a whole order and I could spare a few. Rick said it was a dick move to give his girl fries when he was obviously trying to make a point and get her to just order what she wants instead of taking from him. (Sorry if you saw the original Nancy version that's what I get for using fake names lol) AITA?

Before you judge based on the title of the post, please read through the whole scenario before commenting. I am a substitute teacher and on this day I was subbing for a PE class at a high school. In this particular class, there was a student while we were stretching who refused to stretch because "I can't my leg hurts" to which I replied stretching will help your leg. This back and forth continued for about a minute of him out right refusing to follow directions. After stretching we were to start the activity for the class period. The students were told to get into teams. Because this student claimed his leg hurt, I told him that he shouldn't be playing with us and that he should go sit down by the wall instead pointing to the wall behind him. He responded with "I want to sit over there" pointing to the opposite wall because that was where his friends were. My response was "No, I want you to sit over there." And no matter how many times I asked him to go sit in the direction I needed him to go his only response was "Why?" So in an attempt to get him to follow directions, I stood in front of him, pointing to where I wanted him to go and slowly stepping towards him, while repeating "I need you to go sit over there." While I stepped towards him he refused to move and in a final step, holding a teacher folder at my side I bumped the students abdomen with my forearm, not enough to push him or knock him down but contact was made. Once he refused to follow my directions and my attempt at ushering him I backed off, walked away and left with a final "I need you to sit over there" and turned my attention to the rest of the class. Keeping an eye on him as I walked away, he went and sat down exactly where he wanted to and chose not to follow my directions. About 10 minutes later, he came up to me as I was walking around asking to go to the bathroom. I told him that "I don't have keys to the bathroom in the gym, I can't let you go in the locker room because you can't be in there unsupervised and last if you can't follow my directions previously I can't let you leave the gym." To which his only response was "Why?" "Why can't I go to the ones further on campus?" To which I reiterated my first response. And after much back and forth, once again I found I just needed to walk away. I continued watching him as I walked away and noticed he had moved towards our open door. And when I turned my back sure enough he stepped out the door into the hallway, he did return less than 2 minutes later, so I am not sure what he did in the hallway. Then he came back to me asking if he could use the bathroom which I just replied "No" and walked away. I knew at this point we only had a few minutes left in class so shortly after that we were going to be going into the locker rooms anyways. Am I in the wrong?

Here on a throwaway just in case. I'll start with the short version, and expand below. My spouse and I are hosting a friend while they look for a permanent place to live, and while I think their odor is... noticeable, but tolerable, my spouse thinks they smell awful, to the point of near-vomiting. AITA if I tell them they stink? My spouse (NB, 28) and I (M, 33) are hosting a mutual friend (F, \~30) at our 1.5 bedroom apartment after she was kicked out of her house in October. She is currently living in our den, and aside from certain items (food in the fridge, coat in the hallway) all of her things are with them in the room. In the time since she's moved in things have been mostly copacetic, however she and my spouse have had multiple discussions already about personal hygiene. She smokes tobacco and marijuana (only outside) and I personally always notice a strong odor of tobacco on her things and coming from her room (I smoke weed, so I don't really notice that), however my spouse has confided in me multiple times that they think her body odor is also very strong. Since talking to my spouse, she has promised to work on her personal hygiene by showering more often, but they still complain pretty often to me about the smell. Today, I was told they nearly threw up while leaving because of how her jacket smelled, alongside the smell of the room (the door is right next to the coat rack), and I was asked to have another discussion with her about the smell and possibly not leaving her coat and other things out of the room any more, as my spouse doesn't want to have a third talk with them about it. I'm conflicted because the smell doesn't bother me, personally, and it feels kind of mean to keep pestering her. AITA if I tell her she smells, and has to do more? Willing to provide further details if needed.

So backstory, me f23 and my now fiancé m23 recently got engaged a few months ago, been dating for 5 years It was a perfect proposal at our hotel on vacation at (beautiful place) cuz we had a amazing view and he know I don’t like to be fussed over a bunch of strangers so that’s why is was private, We were there for two nights and when we got back i moved in with him (was already in the works that I was finishing moving in with him before we got engaged) So when we came back I went to my mothers house to grab boxes to bring to his place and also tell me mom the news, she was overjoyed of course because she loves my fiancé None of this is a problem the problem is I told her not to tell a single sole I am engaged, she seemed to forget this conversation over and over again and proceeded to tell people, I would come by to grab stuff from the apartment and the neighbours ask to see the ring, I confronted her and she basically said “ your my daughter I have a right to be excited about your news” which. Yes you are allowed to be excited but I told you not to tell anyone, weeks pass and it’s a week before Christmas and my mom randomly starts spamming me saying my grandmother is furious that I did not tell her about the engagement and that she apparently found out from another family member ( I didn’t tell any of my family including my grandmother because I have been moving and working full time plus overtime) So I haven’t told anyone, I planed on telling people on Christmas. I ask my mom if she had been telling people and she said no and she “ doesn’t know how my grandmother found out” there is literally no one els who could of spread this, Christmas comes and I see family and they all keep coming up to me asking to see the ring before I even announced anything, I don’t even say anything I just look at my mother each time someone says that, and she just keeps saying “ I didn’t tell them” After things die down we’re at the table eating most people have left the table at that point and I start confronting my mother again asking why she told people, I told her stop lying to me cuz I didn’t tell anyone but her so I know 100% is was her who told people, she then gets defensive saying she was just excited and could not help it. My uncle at that point started defending me saying that my mother should not of said anything if I didn’t want it said, he then tells me that my mother told him I was engaged basically confirming what I already knew that she spread the news, At this point. I haven’t even rly been speaking to my mother because I was very close to my grandmother she moved away pretty far a few years ago and I don’t have the money to visit her and not my grandmother who is a petty woman but I still love her hasn’t spoken to me and is ignoring calls and texts, I am beyond furious and my mother thinks I’m being dramatic and it’s “no big deal” What do you think am I being dramatic? I don’t think I am.

Context: we’ve been best friends for 20 years, but the last few years I’ve been feeling very judged and uncomfortable with how she talks to me, especially as I’m one of her only friends because she constantly losing friends. I have also dreamt/been talking about moving to the UK for years but circumstances in work meant I kept pushing back a leaving time. My best friend got engaged Dec 2024, by which point I’d already decided that I was going to move overseas in 2026 once I had completed a year in my promotion at work. She told me that the wedding would likely be in 2027, so I figured I’d have returned in time anyway, but then the wedding date became November 2026. I told her that I’d still be moving but that I’d spend thousands of dollars to fly back for the wedding/shower/hens and that I’d be able to complete my MOH duties in the year before I left. She initially broke down, told me I’d betrayed her trust and had potentially ruined the friendship. After a few months we sorted things out and since then she’s bought her dress/veil, we’ve organised bridesmaids/hens/shower/everything for DIY, thrown the DIY engagement party and more. (Additionally, at her engagement party my BF of 6 months did all the photography for her for free, even though they’d only met once before, because her dad agreed to do it and then backed out on the day). This month I’m run off my feet, having finished a very intense job last year, trying to recover from burnout, pack up my life, help my parents move house, say goodbye to friends and continue to help her with the wedding, and I’m leaving in 2 weeks. I spent two full days with her finalising the details of the tasks I was assisting with and made a plan for the future, at the end of which she said she was happy with everything. However, she then also talked at me for an hour late at night about how even though she doesn’t know him that well she has “a bad gut feeling” about my BF, interrogated me about our relationship and his past relationships, and even after telling her I think this is the person I will marry, she also told me that he may not be invited to the wedding. We were supposed to go shoe shopping yesterday after work but I had to pull out because I got held back at a final shift at work, and after saying I’d check my calendar as to whether I could squeeze her in on Sunday she told me not to worry and she’d go with someone else because “I’m leaving her no choice and what other solution is there?” I understand that she’s upset and finds it difficult with me moving overseas in the year lead up to the wedding but I’m getting tired of her attitude and judgement of my life choices (which is a constant thing in my work/life/friendship/living/past relationships), and just telling me she’s right and expecting me to drop everything to work around her schedule and when I don’t berating me about how betrayed she feels. Maybe AITA, & I’m oversensitive, but I don’t really want to be part of this wedding anymore

This happened in October but I thought I’d ask I (21m) was with five of my buddies at one of their family’s lake house for a weekend. These are all people I’ve been very close to since high school, we did soccer together, I’ve lived with a few of them in college, etc. Though we had the house for the weekend, my friend’s dad was around the property doing some repairs from the house during one of the days. So basically he was working on the outside house and we were probably thirty feet away closer to the lake. Anyway we were playing a drinking game called beer die, which involves throwing a dice in the air. After I had a couple beers, I stumbled while trying to catch one and accidentally ended up in a shallow part of the lake with roughly half of my jeans completely. We were only staying that one night so I only had the one pair of pants with me (I pack light) and I’d had a few beers, so I figured the solution was to lay my jeans in the sun to dry and go pantsless for an hour or two. For those asking why I didn’t ask my friends for spare pants please see my point about having had a few beers. I did so, but let it be known i was wearing a sweatshirt that went about a quarter of the way down to my knee. So you could not see my crotch area but my underwear was short so it kind of looked like I just had nothing on. To be fair, if I lifted up my arm to throw a die you might get a quick full frontal view of my underwear but I doubt any of my boys were choosing to look there. When I first did it most of the guys laughed. The guy whose house it was said “dude can we not?” But he was laughing the whole time. We quickly went back to the game. His dad came up to us at one point and asked if we needed anything from the store before he went home. He saw me and burst out laughing definitely didn’t seem bothered. He drove home and I went probably three or four ish hours like this. Anyway that night we continued drinking and my one buddy said it would be different if we were still in college/just around people our age, but this was kind of out of line, especially around one guy’s dad. I talked to the guy who owned the house at the time and he said it was a little disrespectful but only because his dad was around. I said his dad didn’t give a crap. He said he objected at the beginning but to be fair he is always dry and sarcastic so that comment alone didn’t make me think it was a big deal. I also think he should’ve suggested something else if he thought it was a big deal. So was I the asshole an idiot or both?

For some background, I am a freshman in college. I have been looking for an apartment and asked my friend (I’ll refer to him and Joe) if he wanted to get on with me and two other friends. He said yeah. Joe didn’t fill out the form fully, leaving out parent details. We kept telling him he needed them filled out by 5 o’clock. I was stuck in the middle That same day one of my friends said he wasn’t going trying to coordinate when we were going to sign the lease. We needed him to do it that day since the apartment group needed 48 hours in advance to finalize paperwork for our lease signing and I was possibly going to have plans the next week and one of the friends lives a couple hours away but was staying with his girlfriend. Finally after dealing with all of this we got the info and planned the day to sign the lease. That day one friend dropped out of the lease due to family issues so I was then stuck again running in circles trying to figure out when everyone can sign, and calling the apartment complex numerous times changing the appointment over and over. Joe then decided it was a great time to take a 3 hour nap. I needed to figure out when he was available. After his nap he finally answered but then wouldn’t answer my 10 calls (this wasn’t new, he never responded in our group chat once). I finally got it scheduled for Thursday at 10 and told him I would get a call back confirming the appointment. This was the last day the other friend could sign, extending his stay with his girlfriend from just a weekend to a week. I never got a call back and then the Verizon outage prevented me from calling. I then forgot to tell him but kept reminding him to get the notarized co-signer form complete. The morning of the leasing signing Joe never showed up and said he didn’t get the form filled out and didn’t know the appointment was confirmed. I feel he could have communicated that with us. I held his hand through this whole process and took his bs. In retrospect I could have confirmed with him but I feel like I made it clear by reminding him about the form. He also could have asked me when the appointment was. In the end me and the one friend just signed the lease for a 2 person apartment. If we didn’t then he would have had to come back to school at a different time since he lives a couple hours away. AITA for getting an apartment without him?

I work in an open office with mostly shared desks, but a few of us have assigned ones because of our roles. I’m one of them. I’ve been at this company about two years, and I put together my own setup over time: mechanical keyboard, mouse, laptop stand, cables routed the way I like, etc. Nothing crazy, but it’s mine and I paid for most of it myself. A few months ago, a coworker “Jake” started using my desk whenever I was out sick or working from home. At first I didn’t mind because I figured it was a one-off. But it kept happening. I’d come back and my keyboard would be swapped, my chair height changed, cables unplugged, things moved around. Once my mouse was just gone and showed up two days later in his bag “by accident.” I mentioned it casually like, “Hey, can you not use my desk? It messes with my setup.” He laughed it off and said it was no big deal since it’s a shared office and I’m not always there anyway. Last week was the breaking point. I came in and my monitor arm was loosened and my keyboard had a sticky key (he admitted he spilled coffee but “wiped it”). I told him pretty directly that I didn’t want him using my desk at all anymore. I also put a small sign on my desk saying it’s assigned. Jake got annoyed and said I was being territorial and dramatic, and that everyone shares here. A couple coworkers agreed with him and said I should relax since it’s just a desk. My manager said I could’ve handled it “more politely” but didn’t tell either of us to change anything. I get that it’s an office, not my house. But I also feel like if it’s assigned to me and I paid for some of the equipment, it shouldn’t be touched without asking. Now it’s a bit awkward and I’m wondering if I overreacted. AITA?

I (18F) had mock exams recently and one person who has a record of using their phone during tests ended up cheating. All of the previous times they’ve cheated no one ever commented on it even though we all knew. However, this time not only was it mocks, but this student’s classroom accidentally got an unfair advantage and due to the teacher’s mistake got an additional 30 minutes on the exam. Due to this unfairness the teacher will most probably not grade any test. This might actually be extremely based as I’m basically the only student who’s happy with their performance. But this is the last important grade we get for this semester before we send applications to universities, which somewhat justifies my selfishness. Snitching on the cheater just might be the tipping stone for the teachers to agree to make them redo the test, and put the grades up.

Since our first date, I (20F) knew my now boyfriend (22M) smokes. He actually smoked a lot on our first date. I've never liked or even understood smoking, but it wasn't really a dealbreaker for me. I made it clear that I wasn't a fan of it, but it wasn't something that would make me not date him. Now, it's 7-8 months, and I was wrong. Since before him I didn't have that much contact with people that smoke regularly, I didn't know how absolutely terrible and disgusting it is. It stinks, I hate the smoke constantly near me... but the worst part is knowing that it is harmful to his health and it will definitely cause him complications. I rationalize it by thinking about the costs, of both the cigarettes and future health treatments (none of us is financially stable), but deep down what makes me sick is the way it is killing him day by day. I have a relative that had a huge tumor because of cigarettes, and I can't think of anything else in my head when I see the person that I love so much forging this path for himself. And there's more: his friend. A specific close friend that I honestly didn't like since the beginning. I didn't knew exactly why I hated him so much. But then I figured it out: just by being near this friend, my bf smokes 10x more. And yes, I know I cannot just ask him to choose between me and the cigarettes. He's addicted, he cannot have a day without it. And it's not even just the addiction, you know? He doesn't want to stop, because he genuinely likes it. It breaks my heart... why would someone throw their health in the trash because of something so ridiculous? He said that when he is finally in a good financial situation, he'll stop, because he won't have to wake up worrying about it anymore and won't have to find joy in a vice. I trust him, but... I don't know about that... I asked him to stop smoking just near me. Not just going away to smoke and then coming back or something. I asked him to fully stop smoking when I'm near, because just thinking about him smoking makes me sick. I know it will be hard for him, so I asked him to at least try, and I'll understand if he's not able to follow it 100% of the time. And he accepted. I don't know what to do when we start to see each other more often, or when we move together in some years. I'm scared. So... Am I the asshole for asking him that? tl;dr: My boyfriend smokes and I hate it, but I know I cannot force him to stop. I just asked if he could not smoke when we are together. Am I the asshole?

I (26f) recently moved in with my boyfriend of a year (37m). I redecorated the apartment when I moved in because it was very minimalist and a lot of spaces were not being used functionally, leading to tons of clutter. My bf works remote and his office has been in the living room since we started going out, despite the apartment being a 2 bedroom. This is because the bedrooms do not get great natural lighting despite having windows. For this reason, I never suggested making the spare room into an office during the redecorating phase. Recently, though, when I get home and he is still working there are many stipulations to not disrupt him during his work. Being that this is now our shared space and he does not want a TV in our bedroom, If I want to sit down and unwind after work I have to do it in silence. Also he takes work calls on webcam and I have to make an effort to stay out of the camera. It’s not a huge deal, but would I be the AH if I bring up moving his office?

I recently got my licence and a nice little sports car and I let my friend use it from time to time. Yesterday he asked me if he could use it to do some deliveries for his shift, i agreed under the assumption he would be at the location right around the corner from his house (he had told me the previous week that he was going to be there permanently now). This morning he texted me asking that he was going to be at the other location 20 minutes away and i told him there was no way i was letting him take my car out there with 25+ cm of snow. He is now telling me i have been “constantly doing this recently” and that i have been “making plans then backing out last second”. For reference this is the only time i have done this and its because i expressly told him i didn’t want my car going over there. He is now trying to tell me that im ruining his gym progress as well because i skipped two days this week because of being sore. My attempts to explain to him i dont think this is my fault have all just resulted im him accusing me of trying to start an argument and that “hes just trying to say how he feels”