My husband and I are out of state for the week for a wedding. Wedding is for his old college friend. He is a groomsmen and has groomsmen duties. Earlier this morning, he volunteered to pick someone up at the airport tonight at 930PM. He told me about it. He said that he was planning on staying up late tonight so he could hang out with friends. And then he was like “Oh shit, wait I offered to get Fred”. At that moment, I said “I can get Fred if you want so you can hang out with friends”. Fast forward several hours We are driving back to airbnb after dinner. Husband says “I am so tired. I think I just wanna go to bed. I mean, are you still down to pick up Fred?” …. I looked at him and I was like “um no.. I offered to do it so that you can spend more time with friends. I dont want to stay up late to pick up a dude I dont know”. Now I am all disgruntled about it because I am annoyed that he puts me in a position where it is clear that my offering is obviously conditional. My offering was there to support him on hanging with friends that he barely ever sees, not so that he can go to sleep and I am staying up late picking up some random dude, while he is snoring. Further information: My husband has an autoimmune disease in which he does have fatigue, he is also introverted. He loses social battery quicker. This is all true. I am extroverted and also don't have an autoimmune thing. I often feel resentful because there is this sort of feeling in the relationship in which his rest/sleep is prioritized over mine. EDIT: My husband did not get mad about this. He got sort of disgruntled and said "Oh okay so you will help me to hang out with friends but not for sleep". I just said "no, not this time" and things got tense after that.