My mother passed away a few months ago, after a 6 month aggressive cancer battle. My stepfather is bi-polar and wasn't always the best source of support for her...but he did what he could and towards the end of her life helped with round the clock care. I made sure to be there daily to help him and provide him with a break each day. Due to his own issues, he didn't give her the peace that she desired and they often argued. Now my mother is gone and I've been helping him to pay the bills, ensure that he's taking his meds...while keeping boundaries because I don't want to be taking on the role my mother has for years. Here's the AITA part, he was called me a month ago saying he couldn't walk. I advised him to call 911, turns out he had a bad case of the gout. He spent two weeks in a nursing home recovering...I visited him in the hospital and nursing home, ensured his apartment was clean when he returned, did a food shopping. Today, I called him while at the market to see if he needed anything and he tells me he can't walk again. He's sat there for 8+ hours not able to walk...if I didn't call, he'd probably still be sitting there! I told him to call 911 again... he's at the hospital, I feel like I should be there but I also feel like he is an adult and needs to take care of himself, however I also understand he's bi-polar and isn't always able to care for himself. AITA for not wanting to "care" for him?