i’m best friends with her since i’m 17 ( i’m 21 now) i never had many friends im autistic and making friends has always been a problem for me so i was every happy i instantly became friends with her. from the beginning of our friendship i’ve always put way more effort in our friendship. it’s been a rough couple of years but we stayed closed friends. last year i got pregnant by my now ex boyfriend and she was the first to know but after i told her she wouldn’t answer me for days and when she did it would be a very short and closed answer. i got severe preeclampsia and my girl was born at 26 weeks and only weighed 1 pound (455 grams) she only asked me 1 time how i was 2 weeks after she was born. a month after she was born it was my birthday i didn’t get a text or anything and that really hurt my feelings. 2 months after mine was her birthday and she invited me to join her birthday party. last minute i couldn’t join because my daughter was being moved from NEO to the childrens ward and i still bought her a present and send it to her house (with the last money i had because i can’t work). a week after it arrived i still hadn’t got a thank you and i told her that she was ungrateful for not saying thank you and she got really mad saying that im an asshole for saying that and being mad i addressed her ungratefulness and now she won’t speak to me. am i the asshole for getting mad?