Long story short, my(f20) mom(f44) keeps getting me things I don't like or didn't ask for. Today the things absolutely escalated. I moved out of my home at 19 with a partner that wasn't suitable for me just to get away from my mom. My mom is an extreme narcissist and that has made my life absolute hell. Today a package arrived and it was full of things that I wouldn't ever wear (and she knows that I wouldn't), not my style neither did I ask for them, usually I say thank you and pretend to like it to avoid a conflict, but today was a different story as I was told that a certain item (that I had paid for but forgot in her home) that I actually wanted would be in there, long story short it wasn't so I messaged my mom to ask if it's been forgotten and that it was something that I was looking forward to for a very long while. She blew up at me and started calling me an ungrateful daughter, told me about how mad she is at me and how if she wanted she would have me move home immediately, that i'm a cow and how I don't deserve anything because I don't appreciate it, how she's wasted her life on raising me. I had enough and to stay mad as well as some things that are too private to share, my grandma told me that i'm overreacting. AITA?