i 16M got tickets to a concert one state away from me about 2-3 months ago, when i purchased them my mother, 36F, said me, my aunt, 23F, and grandma, 57F, would all go to chicago and do a family trip of it. we had plans for this. now my mother is saying she doesn’t wanna take off work and can’t pay to go to chicago after we already bought the tickets and i was promised to go. she told me she would give me the money for the tickets but to me the money is worth nothing compared to the experience i was promised. my grandma can’t take off work anymore either and my aunt can’t afford to go just me and her, my other grandma refuses to take me. i told my mom i could take the train and go on my own and she got mad at me for that suggestion. i’m leaving for vacation tomorrow and she told me she can’t take me anymore 2 days ago and since then all i’ve been trying to do is figure it out. i’m someone who cannot focus on anything else if there is something that isn’t planned out that im supposed to go to, i need plans for things like this if i don’t have it i stress out over it. she’s completely aware of this and told me anyways. she told me today to ignore it, it doesn’t matter right now and lectured me, the concert is less than a month away. she also has a tendency to say things that she knows will stress me out before i go do things that she cannot go to, like this vacation with my grandma (dads side). she’s making me feel like TA for being upset and stressed over this. she told me how much she’s struggling financially right now, but honestly i don’t know how much i believe her because she spends hundreds weekly on vapes, alcohol, and weed. AITA for this?