I’m the oldest of 5 kids (38f) I’m raising 4 daughters with my husband in our home, and earlier this year we remodeled a guest suite above our garage so that my brother (25m) could get on his feet after moving back in state and graduating college. My brother is a twin, he and his sister have a different Dad than my two other brothers. For context, my Dad died unexpectedly 5 years ago, he was only 54. He had 3 children, myself being the oldest, and my two younger brothers. My stepmom handled his death poorly which is understandable, but it resulted in no funeral, no obituary, and really no closure at all. She cut off contact with me after I requested a shirt of my Dads. I had to watch as instead my brothers got quite a few of my Dads belongings, and knew that I got nothing. My brothers and I don’t have contact, they have always been abusive towards me and that only escalated after my Dads death. All I wanted was a shirt so I could smell him, but I would have taken anything honestly. My Dad was an engineer by trade and musician as a hobby. He had a collection of guitars and loved music. Most of his guitars went to my brother whom he was closest with, and whom also avidly played metal guitar. I believe that is what my Dad would have wanted. Other items got distributed to the remaining brother, one being a guitar nobody was crazy about, except for me. It was a Gretsch model my Dad had gotten because he loved the Beatles, and this was the same model played on the Beatles white album. My Dad always played Beatles songs for me, and it was sort of our thing, I would have liked the guitar, but it went to another brother. This is where it gets weird- said brother didn’t care for the guitar. This brother also has a history of being very cruel to me. So fast forward to this last Christmas where my half brother now lives with me, he actually comes home with that Gretch guitar of my Dads (again, not his dad) saying he was gifted it. I was crushed. I do know this was done just to hurt me. But I also know that my half brother didn’t mean to solicit that type of thing. Further more, he doesn’t even know how to play it. Myself and even my Mom sort of explained to him that the guitar was my father’s and had great meaning to me, as I was cut out after my Dad died. The guitar remained in his possession collecting dust however. Recently my half brother announced he found a new place and will be moving, and I decided to shoot my shot and ask if maybe he could leave my Dads guitar behind, explaining again how much it meant to me. It sucks because the guitar was never a gift to him from my other brother, it was a “fuck you” to me. But my half brother wouldn’t entertain it for a minute. I know I can’t make him do it, it is his now. I explained how much it meant to me and that’s all I can do. When he bluntly retorted, “no, never” I did express frustration and deep disappointment. So, AMITA for being upset about being yet again shut out?