I have a 12 year old niece, Haley. Haley lives with her dad, stepmom, and 4 younger step siblings (2 boys 2 girls, don’t know the exact ages but they seem to be between 5 and 10). Her mom passed when she was 3. Haley’s dad and stepmom are not well off. They live in a 3 bedroom house so Haley shares a room with her stepsisters. The kids get 1 pair of shoes, reuse school supplies until they’re falling apart, and if their clothes still fit they don’t get new school clothes. I am doing a lot better but I refuse to help him with money because if I give him money with the direct instructions to get Haley some decent shoes or a nice jacket I expect the money to be used on Haley, not split between all 5 kids. He also dislikes me because he blames me for cps investigating him and his wife for leaving the kids home alone every day. Haley stays with me after school and sleeps over a few nights a week because I won’t drop her off if theres not an adult present and I told her not to get on the bus under any circumstances so they can’t tell her I wanted her to take the bus home that day. Haley and 2 of her step siblings needed glasses. Nobody was able to take Haley for her eye exam and to get the glasses so they asked me to take her and gave me $100 with the instructions to get the cheapest pair we can find. I was driving Haley to the eye doctor and she told me she really wanted contacts but her dad said no. I talked to the receptionist and they were able to get her in for a contact fitting that day. After her contact appointment we checked out the glasses and she found 2 pairs that she really liked so I told her to get both. I took her back after school a few days later and picked up a few boxes of contacts. Her new glasses came in a few days ago and she loves them but her dad is furious about the glasses, then he found out about the contacts (I guess Haley was keeping them in her backpack and never told him about it) so he told her she gets to keep one pair of glasses and everything else has to stay at my house because he’s sick of me and Haley rubbing her stuff in her step siblings faces. Haley responded by packing most of her stuff and walking to my house. Now she’s refusing to go home. CPS came for another investigation and was told by the kids that Haley doesn’t live there anymore, which is not helping my BIL’s case. Now my bil wants me to make Haley come back and stop spoiling her so she won’t rub it in her siblings faces anymore (her rubbing it in their faces means she put both pairs of glasses on her dresser but it wasn’t fair because the other kids could see it). AITA for getting her contacts and 2 pairs of glasses