Hi, throwaway for safety sake! I (30m) recently came out to my parents as a transman and they said a whole bunch of stuff that was stupid and small minded including "It shouldn't bother you what I refer to you as, when you aren't around to hear it". I have been looking to change my name legally to my preferred name, including my last name as I honestly thought that I would be disowned for coming out. Considering that this is how they choose to approach this situation, would I be the asshole for proceeding with my full name change as, by their own logical conclusions, it shouldn't matter to them what people call me when they aren't around to hear it?