I (27F) recently started seeing a guy (28M), and we planned a cozy dinner at his place. Around the same time, a friend of mine, whose dad passed away a few weeks ago, asked me to make her dinner. I decided to stay with my boyfriend instead. Nothing fancy, just a quiet night in, but apparently that was the worst timing ever. My friend was upset I “didn’t show up when she needed me,” and I get that she’s grieving, but I also… just met this guy and really wanted to spend time with him. She’s now calling me selfish and saying I “abandoned her in her time of need,” and part of me feels guilty. My boyfriend thinks it’s fine, my other friends think I over-prioritized a new romance, and I’m stuck wondering if I should’ve just microwaved her dinner while holding hands with my boyfriend. Why I might be the AH: my friend is grieving, I could’ve made some effort to be there, and it seems like I put romance over friendship. Why I think I’m not: I literally just started seeing this guy, I didn’t make the decision lightly, and I can’t be on call for emotional labor 24/7. So… AITA?