Sorry for any mistakes, but English isn't my first language. I (34F) and my bf(39m) had been together for 6 + years. We moved in together after about 2 years and will be getting married soon (no date, as we are planing something small when my parents come to visit). I'm from a different country to the one we live in (about 20 hours by plane), while bf has lived his entire life in the same place (literally, as we currently live in the apartment above his parents apartment, where he grew up). Last year I went back to my home country in November because there was a family event. My bf couldn't come, as he wouldn't be able to leave for work. I managed to get the time, and went for 2 weeks by myself. In the event, my cousin (M33) told me him and his long time GF (F32?) would be getting married in 2026 in May, and would be sending the save the date soon. Me and BF were invited. My bf has been complaining about the trip and party since I told him I had gotten the save the date, but he's coming. Today I mentioned my mom and dad are planning a big 60th bday party for them both on my bday in 2027 (they are the same age and my bday is almost exactly between their respective bdays, and that would be the end of January), and bf was yelling and complaining that there's no way he could go back to my country so close to my cousin's wedding, and that would eat up all his vacation days again (he's kind of a private contractor, so he has no specific amount of vacation days, but he does have to work on site) and he can't be away this long (it would probably be a week to 10 days for him, and maybe I stay a bit longer if I can get more vacation days). Also, my mom want to invite my in-laws, and he was complaining there would be no one to take care of our cat (this one is a true problem, but we have more than a year to find a solution). I always go to all of his family events, even for people I've never met and will never see again. We even went to events of people HE saw a couple times during his life. I don't go back to my country for the holidays (my choice, as it's too expensive) and only go back if I can plan a long time before, making so that we almost never see my family (only my parents, as they come about once a year). He been to my country once. I didn't move here for him (I've been here for almost 10 years, known him for about 6.5), but when I came, I did had planes of going back to this kinda of events and going back from time to time, and he knows that. Both our cultures are very family orientated, but he doesn't seem to understand my side. So, am I expecting too much of him for wanting him to go to my family's events from time to time, especially since I'm in all of his family's events he's invited to?