Me and my boyfriend (42f) (46m) have been together for about a year and a half. I’ve never had trust issues before, but I do with him. These are the reason reasons that I’ve had trust issues : 1. When he’s traveling, he talks to me outside of his room, never in his room. 2. Last year I had checked his location ( we share our locations ) and saw that he was at a strip club early in the day around 1 o’clock. I texted him and asked him how he was doing and he said I’m probably not gonna like this, but he went to the strip club with some friends of his that were in town. I didn’t like it at all. He didn’t tell me he was going or asked me how I felt about it. He stopped answering his phone wouldn’t respond to my texts. His location showed him there pretty late in the evening and then the next location it showed him was a hotel. I was so upset that the next morning I told him that I kind of believe what he had done and that we were done and he flipped out on me flip the script And was upset with me for ending things. A couple days later he explained what had happened. this is his version of events; His phone had died while at the strip club, his friends that he was with got really drunk and he had to babysit them and take them back to their hotel and get on their phones and change their flights cause they weren’t gonna make their flights back. He said he didn’t stay the night at the hotel rather he had plugged his phone into the charger Requested an Uber went downstairs to smoke a cigarette got an Uber and left his cell phone there all night. He said the next day his mom ordered the Uber for him to go back to the hotel to get his phone. About a month after this incident, I went through his phone and saw that day He had four Apple Pay to a girl named Ashley the first two were for $50 and the second two were in increments of $100. Around 9 o’clock that night of the strip club there was several calls. Outgoing calls made to her. The call didn’t last long, but there was several calls to her from his phone. He said what had happened as he gave his cell phone to the bartender to plug into the charger, cause it was dying and that’s why he couldn’t text or call me and she must have figured out his passcode somehow added herself as a contact and Apple Pay herself. He said he got scammed. The final straw was last night when he got back from his work trip. I looked in his bag and there was a bottle of Viagra. He was given 15 pills and there was only 6 left and since the date of the prescription we had only had sex twice. This wasn’t the first time that he took ED meds on a work trip he did this last year as well. Never said anything and thought maybe he forgot to take him out, but I never knew he was taking him and he never told me.