I 20F was asked by my estranged grandfather to take a genetic test because he’s really into building family trees and all that stuff. i’ve been saying no for the last few years when i do see him but he was in the hospital and said he really wanted to know where my ancestors were from. The issue is my grandma on the other side of my family is adopted. She was the youngest of 7 and was given up as a baby since she was sick. It’s a big sore spot and a sibling of hers reached out to her 10 years ago and she told them to never call again. I adore her but she is a strong proud women who went through a lot after being adopted by an older couple who died before she was of age. It’s really set her life up poorly but it’s so complicated. I’m scared if someone tries to reach out to her or to me but what if i have family nearby i’ve never met. My grandpa (same as mentioned before) tried to get her to take the test and she got mad and her kids have suggested it before but she gets mad and shuts down. I love her so much but I feel like I’ll be letting someone down regardless of my choice. I ended up taking the test and haven’t received results but I feel sick thinking about upsetting my grandma. It feels like i have the right to know who is in my family but I don’t want to hurt her she’s held a grudge for over 70 years on people she’s never met but I fully understand why. My family is weary of me taking it but they are also all curious. I didn’t pay for the test it was just given to me. So AMITA for taking a genetic test? I don’t know