I(24M) have been with my bf(24M) for over 6 years. The problem started last year, when I came out to my grandmother(91F) with help of other family members who knew and supported me on this. Everything went smoothly and these family members started asking me when would they meet my bf. I suggested that he could go to our family reunion in Christmas, but didn’t assure it. Couple months later I talked with my grandmother and mother if they were good with that plan and told me it was ok. However, 2 weeks before Christmas, my grandmother changed her mind and told us she would be uncomfortable if that happened and that Christmas should be for family only. I was very upset because my grandmother has accepted my cousin’s partners without them asking for permission beforehand, without her having met said partners before (she has met my bf various times and they get along decently), and being together as a couple for less time that I have been with my bf, even sometimes less that a year of knowing each other. And although I suspect little homophobia, I understood her feelings and he didn’t attend. I also felt really bad because he didn’t want to be with his father for several reasons and spent that day alone. Many people asked me why he hadn’t gone, and even though I wanted to be petty and tell the truth, I said that my bf had something come up with his family and that he couldn’t go. On the other hand, my bf took it very well; those holidays don’t hold a particular meaning for him because his family never celebrated them before or after the divorce. The most they would do is have dinner at a restaurant and sometimes there would be presents for him and his sister. This year, his father abandoned him in the house they were living together without notice, but fortunately his aunt, that lived very close to them, allowed him to live with her. These last two years, her mother has started celebrating Christmas and New Year’s Eve with her family and told him that he has to choose this year to spend one holiday with them and one with me. He brought this up recently and says he wants to spend Christmas with me because of how much it means to me, so I talked about it again with my grandmother. She said that “she might think about it”, but that phrasing just made me feel upset again. So I decided that I’m bringing him this Christmas whether she likes it or not. So, WIBTA for not abiding to my grandmother’s request?