I (39F) have been with my husband (38M) for 3 years, married for 5 months. His sister is getting married in October. My stepdaughter (11F) will be a bridesmaid. The wedding was planned quickly, and I only found out recently. His family lives about a 4-hour flight away. We’ve had some typical marriage struggles, partly cultural differences. I met his family once about 2 years ago and they were warm and welcoming, though there’s a bit of a language barrier. The problem is what I’ve learned since. My husband has many sisters, and he tells me they talk badly about me. Sometimes from gossip, sometimes because he vents to them when he’s unhappy with me. A few examples: They said I wasn’t that pretty in pictures but “cuter in person” (gee, thanks). They “knew” I wouldn’t be a good wife or mother. This hurts because I really do try, especially with my stepdaughter. But we’ve had struggles. Finally, from what I’ve gathered, he’s painted me as unfaithful. I work in a male-dominated field and have a lot of male friends. Admittedly, even 2 of my best friends are male. Fairly normal to me, but very unusual in his culture. He’s suspicious of every man in my life, even 18-19 year olds. (Note: he knew this and it was discussed before we ever got together). When we argue, he throws this in my face. Like “even my sisters think…” so now I feel judged by people I barely know. Needless to say, I haven’t kept in touch with them. Now he’s asking if I’ll go to the wedding. I told him I’d like to talk about it, but he shut me down with, “It’s a simple yes or no. We don’t need to talk about your feelings for everything.” I’d be sad to miss seeing my stepdaughter as a bridesmaid, because she’s so excited. But the thought of being around people who already think poorly of me makes me feel sick. I understand there’s a larger issue between my husband and I, and I’m addressing that. But I’m specifically thinking a lot about this wedding. So…WIBTA if I skipped the wedding? Or do I just suck it up and go? TL;DR: Husband’s sisters gossip and judge me based on what he’s told them. I don’t feel comfortable going to the wedding, even though my stepdaughter is in it. WIBTA if I stay home?