I (37F) am a single parent to a 15M. For the last few years we have spent evenings winding down and hanging out together by watching tv or a movie before bed. Over the last 6 months I have come to absolutely dread this and find it irritating and not relaxing at all. We take it in turns to choose, and have pretty similar tastes, so that’s not the issue. The issue is he shrieks, shouts, yells throughout the whole movie or program, or plays videos loudly on his phone, picks up my guitar and starts randomly loudly playing it in the same small room, or is otherwise incredibly disruptive. He doesn’t have ADHD or any learning challenges; he’s just being rude. (I have ADHD and autism and I manage to sit and quietly watch a movie.) He doesn’t behave like this in cinemas or the theatre, so it’s not a case that he ‘can’t’ behave, it’s that he ‘won’t’ in this scenario. I have tried: - choosing things with shorter attention spans. He sulks and insists he wants to watch the 2 hour Harry Potter film he has chosen, and then continues to yell, shriek, disrupt. - asking if he would rather do something else. See above. - Pausing every time he disrupts and asking if he needs a minute to get something out of his system. - Gently asking him not to shriek, yell, be deliberately disruptive. - watching a movie alone in my room, where he will come and find me and beg me to come and watch TV with him, where the whole cycle begins again. I think it’s a generational attention span/brain rot thing but I end up enduring our quality time to then have to rewatch the entire thing myself when he goes to bed, which I am starting to resent. The tv/movie thing is his idea and he actively asks for it, but his disrupting is getting actively worse and I really don’t want to do it any more. Am I missing something? Am I the asshole or is he?