AITA I have a friend who is single, casual dating right now. I’m married with family. We have opposing days off. We had something planned which he helped us get in to but we had to do it on his day off so that we could have him come and spend time with us. He usually never changes his days off to hang out or take an extra day off to hang out. We always tend to make it work for him. In this case I had to make sure he communicated with me that a certain day off of his would work for said event that he was getting us in and was going to come and hang out with us and we would pick him up. I had to scramble to give my shift away and make it work but I was able to do so. Come the day we were supposed to go to the place he changed it up and asked to meet him there as he was lagging a bit. At about 11am we checked in and he said he’d be there closer to lunch now. Come around 1pm he said he was going to just now hop in the shower and try to get who he was dating to come with as well. We didn’t hear from him again until nearly 4 when he said he was going to to help who he was dating with something, get cleaned up and maybe not make it until much later for the after dark show. This was on the hottest day of the year and we had our kids with us and they were hot and wanting to leave by 4:30. We moved all our life around to make it work so we could hang out on his day off and it was just excuse after excuse all day until basically we would be relegated to a stand next to him and his date during the night show as a third wheel to him. We then see him a week later and talk to him how our feelings were hurt by the situation (which wasn’t the first time something similar had happened with him and we had talked with him about it). Two weeks goes by with no communication from him AT ALL. I text him to see if everything was alright. He basically said he tried to distance himself from us as when we told him how we felt about basically being blown off by him and just asked for some empathy and an apology, he said he “doesn’t need that kind of conditional friendship. Plans change, things happen, and none of my other friends press issues like this. They just move on.” Am I the asshole for expecting him to hold to a plan we made and changed our busy life around for his adhocked plan changes on the fly because he was tired, lazy, and rather help the person he was seeing out and then maybe think about coming late that night when we would have never been able to make it?