Hi! This is my first post so I apologize if it might be confusing, but I’ll try best lol So flashback to 3 years ago. I had a friend group of 5 consisting of (FAKE NAMES) Me, Mandy, Emery, Nala, and the topic of this post, Jana. For context, me and Emery are best friends while Mandy got close to 2 other girls who Nala was also close to. This lead to a group chat with the 2 girls and everyone in my friend group except for Jana. The reason why she wasn’t added was simply because there was no reason for her to be. They added me and Emery because we also got close to them by ourselves. So there was months of this gc before Jana found out about it. She asked to be added to the gc. Nala had a limit (by her parents) to how many people could be in a gc she was in and it was already at max. If Jana joined, Nala would have to go. Nala at the time was going through something so we didn’t want her to feel bad so we took a vote and Jana eventually joined. When Jana joined, she got mad when she saw that we took a vote just for her to join. She posted on facebook screenshots of our conversation of the vote. She made another post saying “say hello backstabbers” followed by the initials of me, Emery, Mandy and Nala. Many people outside our group got involved because she was making it a huge deal. It eventually subsided on its own and she “forgave” us. Now 2 years ago. Emery left the friend group since she moved away. We had an issue with Nala that I will not get into, but it caused her to leave the friend group, leaving Me, Mandy and Jana. Now last year. Mandy got REALLY close to a boy I will call Earl and she started hanging out with him more than me and Jana. I was okay with this, but I noticed something weird about Jana’s behavior that changed. As time went on, I got more involved with Mandy and Earl. Me, Mandy and Jana were still friends, we had no intentions of cutting her off. Me, Mandy and Earl started doing things together a lot, but we still invite Jana to a lot of them. Eventually, Jana made friends with other people and we noticed that she often makes a big deal about it. She makes most conversations about her and her new friends suddenly and it just felt so weird. At the same time as showing off her new friends, she kept inserting herself into things that we did not invite her to. We weren’t like purposely excluding her, she just simply wasn’t someone who mixed well with the dynamic of me, Earl and Mandy. Now we eventually found out that Jana was telling almost everyone that we “abandoned” her and was “leaving her out”. This ended with her talking to us about how she wants us to treat her from now on. Now, she is just super high maintenance and once again involving herself in everything. She often guilt trips us into things we say no to. I slowly drifted away from Mandy and Earl, but Jana still makes it a big deal when we’re together shortly. Now, AITA for “abandoning” and “leaving my friend out”?