So I'm gonna rent this out a little bit.Basically I 21m i'm living with my mom 60f and there's quite a bit of conflict. To put things plain simple she has been pretty emotionally neglectful of me since I was a kid and I had a lot of issues. I grew up with my brother 20m who I fought with quite a lot. Didn't have a dad in my life and mom did next to nothing to try to keep us from fighting. She blames me for fighting with my brother. That supposedly kept her from being able to work and forced her into debt which she holds against me to this day. She loves to blame me for almost all of her problems due to how I was as a kid she loves to rub it in my face that I was mean to my brother and to tell me that I'm an abuser. She will occasionally tell me that I'll go on to be an abuser later in life. Almost every day and I mean not genuinely almost everyday.She will either come to me and try to say something to me about something that's frustrating her, or i'll go to her and say something about something that's bothering me. I'm not the best to keep in my cool around here.To be honest, I stay pretty chill and I don't get agitated or anything, but her.On the other hand she starts raising her voice and arguing and just starts.Interrupting me and talking over me every single time. I try to speak and she just shuts me up and won't let me say anything and then gets increasingly more mad when I don't just shut up and listen to her. I frankly get so desperate to solve the problems in the house that I end up pushing trying to push the conversation more than I should when she is clearly just trying to gaslight me.And what seems to be deliberate atrempts to upset me so that I'll stop talking to her. After standing there for 15 minutes.While she just aggressively argues with me about her.Not wanting to clean the house and not caring at all about the fact that i'm frustrated with the messages everywhere (she has a deal bad hoarding addiction thats taken over the entire house) (which she blames on me for not being able to work due to my behavior as a kid). She loves to on a daily basis.Essentially handles conversations by just getting aggressively upset while I stand there and just get verbally abused by her. She then waits for me to get upset and waits for me to say a swear word. Or to get really agitated and just flat out desperate for these problems to end that she waits for me to get upset and then place the victim card and starts fake crying and blames me for being abusive when she's just yelling at me and arguing and talking over me non-stop until I get upset and then blaming me for being upset. Tldr aita for occasionally getting upset and swearing at her. She forces me to deal with her hoarding addiction and blames me for it. Then gets immediately hostile with me for trying to talk to her and desperately forcing conversations sometimes. She calls me an abuser for getting upset with her and insists she does nothing wrong.