TLDR: My husband and I were having a fight about sleep schedules and I made a shitty, albeit in my opinion justified, comment about him “not having anything to wake up at a specific time for”, out of 90% in the moment frustration, 10% animosity that I’ve been the sole breadwinner for the past 5 years. I (26M) have always been a bit of a night owl. Generally speaking, 7 hours of sleep and I feel almost perfect. Anything above 8.5, and I’m more tired the next day. My husband (34M) likes to keep a very strict sleep schedule - like 10:00PM-7:30AM. I tend to fluctuate between 10:30PM and 12:00AM, depending on my meeting schedule the next morning, and enjoy some alone gaming time at night. He much prefers to go to bed together, and I do too, but understand if he wants to go to bed earlier. We were taking the dogs for a walk tonight and I mentioned that when we got back, he could shower and I’d play a game or two then come in and he made the comment “I don’t know what else to do, this is for my health and my Whoop (health-tracking app) says I’m at over half a day sleep debt”. I asked him to show me, and he was reading it wrong - 0 sleep debt, average of 0:18hr (aka, 18 minutes) per night over the last week. I thought that would be good news, but he said he still wants his consistency better for his mental health. My response was something along the lines of “I’m the one that has something to fucking wake up at a specific time for.” I’ve been the sole breadwinner for the past 5 or so years, make a very handsome salary, and do have some latent frustration that we could have had a DINK situation this whole time before children come into the picture, but that’s nearly out the window. Granted, I’ve been working through a mild Adderall problem and that does contribute to my bedtimes (trying to be frank with my flaws here too). He quit, which I fully supported, his job back in 2020 or so because it was “too stressful”, and wanted to go back to school for a new degree. He took one online class at a time and graduated in early 2024, then a few months later decided he wanted to do his Master’s and has been taking one online class since. He occasionally substitutes, but like $1,000/mo if that. I don’t terribly mind being the only working spouse, but it does frustrate me when he bitches about me not going to bed at his time when I’m the one that has to wake up and work for 8-12 hours, depending on the day. So I made that comment, which after a few seconds I apologized for saying it was frustration in the moment, but he cursed me out and dragged the dog (almost literally) down the grass. I feel like he strongly overreacted and could build a teeny bit of his “schedule” around me, but that’s obviously not shared. So, AITA?