I am Ally (46) and my friend Debra (42) asked me for $900 to restore her cell phone service. She lost her job months ago, is on unemployment, and forgot to return a trade-in phone. Because of that, her provider paused her service. She has a kindergartener and a high school freshman, so I know a phone is important. I told her I couldn’t give $900 since I recently invested money into a friend’s business. Instead, I sent her $100, suggested she buy a prepaid flip phone for $20 with a $30 plan, and promised I would continue to cover her monthly prepaid plan so she wouldn’t be without service. I also encouraged her to call her mortgage and car loan companies about hardship programs, check with utilities, consider renting out spare rooms, and talk to her daughter’s father for support. I was trying to help her think long-term because her mortgage is $2600, her car note is $700, and she still owes $2000 to a guy she dated who helped her before. She stopped responding and has not spoken to me since. I even apologized if I overstepped. So, am I the asshole for not handing her $900 and instead giving $100, covering a prepaid phone plan, and trying to offer solutions? We both have an iPhone and she was using the internet to FaceTime me or text me through iMessage.