My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. He is very close with my family, and comes to every family event. We invite his mom a lot to our family gatherings, but she recently invited herself to one and it rubbed me the wrong way. I don’t think she meant ill intent, she’s very sweet. She is separated and lives alone but she has a social life. She did not invite my mom to a recent family dinner she hosted. However, we are having a family dinner party soon and my mom asked if we should invite her. I don’t really want to. I feel bad but I feel like it’s now an obligation that we have to include her for every family event and she is invited. But we aren’t married, and idk I think the last time of her inviting herself made me feel like I don’t have control and it lacked a boundary. Do you invite your partners mom to all your family events? I don’t want to be cruel, but this is irking me… Edit: for context, this upcoming event is about 10 people, a Sunday family themed Italian dinner. She also never ended up coming to the last one she invited herself to, but it was a situation where she heard my bf and I were meeting up with my family and she said oh maybe ill come too! And that annoyed me.