I, F 27, am married. My husband is 26. We have a son who is 2. My son is his bonus baby, but he loves him immensely! We got married in March and shortly after I got pregnant. I am about 5 months pregnant and I have made the decision to not want a babyshower. Now I did bring my concerns to him. And I asked him if he would be ok with this and he’s fine with it. Now my reason I feel is fair. Shortly after becoming pregnant, my grandma passed from cancer. So I no longer have any family in the state I’m in. I moved specifically to the this state for my grandmother. She needed my help and I came. Since being here for 2 years I made maybe a friend and that’s it. Another is, despite his family saying they adore me and love me… they have made no effort to get to know me at all. Now I have tried reaching out first multiple times at that and it has gone no where.. it does make me very sad. I don’t have a close relationship with my family back home so I was really hoping that his family would be different. I don’t want a strained relationship with them, but I don’t see how they wanna come to a babyshower when 1/2 of the party they don’t bother themselves with. I just wanna go out of town for a weekend. Like a baby moon. But I found out yesterday my husband told them I wanted something small (I guess to appease them) but that’s not true. I don’t want one at all. If you’re wondering I also didn’t have one with my first born but under way different circumstances.