throwaway account just in case. hey everyone..i want to preface this by saying my daughter is so awesome, she is such a blessing, and is beautiful in every way imaginable. and i’m trying to do everything i can to make her life as stress-free as possible. with that being said, for the past year I’ve been a single father. i had to make a very tough decision early in her life to separate the both of us from her mother, who actively leads a reckless lifestyle. i could make another thread entirely of how stressful the past year has been, but i will just leave it at that. just know, it has been a lot.. while the majority of the responsibility was put on me, i have had some help, mostly from the grandparents on both sides. besides me and my parents, my daughter is also being raised by her maternal grandparents. for the most part, it has been pretty cordial, but it’s also naturally gotten tricky at times as well, which is also where this post comes into play. i’ll put it this way..the other side of the family is more well-off than we are. they regularly go camping and vacation, meanwhile i can’t remember the last time i took a trip like that. it’s not that i don’t want my daughter having cool experiences like that, but i definitely don’t want her to become spoiled, and I don’t want her world to be that one family is fun, wealthy, takes all these trips, and her dad is just like whatever. then there’s the fear of her getting on a plane without me. she’s already gone to the beach for the first time without me, it’s like where do i draw the line? a whole other factor is that my mom also wants to visit one of her siblings who is living in Europe right now, and this would basically be her only chance to go, because when she’s home she watches my baby when i go to work for a few hours a night.. so there’s multiple people waiting on me to make this decision pretty much. my moms basically guilting me into it i feel like. but i really don’t want my daughter to go on this trip without me, she’ll still be less than 18 months old when the time comes and would be going on a plane. am i being the asshole here?