I (20 female) and my boyfriend (20 male) have been dating for two years I found out he was cheating on me back in late July/early August I did something stupid and slept with someone else like he did. We ended up getting back together about a week later I didn’t think anything of it or wanted to tell him… well I ended up getting pregnant and I know I’m grown and that my actions have consequences. I didn’t tell him until about four months into the pregnancy which I know is awful but he stated whether it’s his or not he wanted to be with me and will help me raise this child. We told our parents and his mom‘s reaction was “I can fly her to New Mexico for a abotrion since I work for Southwest” And his dad’s grandparents wanting that too ( we do not speak to them ). I am very against abortions unless it’s a serious medical situation. He told me she only said that to get on their grandparents good side because they’re VERY wealthy. I never wanted my child to see her after that comment but I put it aside thinking she was just being immature. My son was born in June and we waited about three weeks for her to meet him because she kept blowing up our phones, asking for pictures and dying to meet him. We go down there (3 hours away) and she asked me if I needed anything. I told her know that I’ve got everything covered and bringing double of everything. We get there and she has bought newborn diapers and size one diapers and formula despite me telling her no I’ve got it covered. I knew this would be thrown back in my face eventually because that’s the type of people that they are. Me and the boyfriend ended up getting into an argument on the way home. We didn’t speak for a few days after and when we did, his mom tried to call me. He told me not to answer because he’s mad at his mom. I asked why he told me that she stated she was not buying anything else for this baby until we get paternity test mind you this child looks exactly like him. I immediately told him I do not wish for her to receive pictures or FaceTime us anymore. Given that this was thrown back in my face after I told her we do not need anything. It is just really confusing for me. How we can go down there and she can play grandma and do all the sweet stuff and say “I love you” “you’re my pretty boy” to my son and then completely switch sides so I decided for my sons sake we will not be in contact with her because I do not want her to ever throw that in my son‘s face.He agrees we’re doing the right thing protecting our child from her . But now a lot of his family is upset with me…So Reddit, am I the asshole for not wanting my boyfriend‘s mom to see my child? edit : HE REFUSES A DNA TEST . He looks just like him and he wants to be w me regardless of he’s dad or not , I need to add way more abt his mom but will keep it short, She and his dad divorced when he was 7 due to her neglect , anytime something doesn’t go her way she gets very emotionally and verbally abusive and constantly talked down to the kids . I don’t wish for the same to happen to my son.