I’m 21M, married, and one of my friends (let’s call him Jacob) used to have a crush on me. We stayed friends, but it’s gotten complicated. He wants me to call, FaceTime, or text all the time. I already text him every day when I’m free, but I’m not someone who sits on my phone for hours if there’s nothing to say. He takes that really personally. He’s told me I “hate him,” that he’s a “burden,” or that I “need a reason to talk to him.” I’ve explained I just don’t text a lot, and honestly, I talk to him more than anyone else. But it turns into me constantly having to reassure him. Recently, he jokingly called me a “twink.” I told him I didn’t like it, and instead of apologizing he got defensive, saying “twink” isn’t an insult, that he knows what real slurs are, and that as a straight guy I can’t lecture him about slurs involving gay people. I get where he’s coming from with his experiences, but it still felt dismissive of the fact that I didn’t want to be called that. Now he’s upset because I don’t call enough, because my texts are sometimes short, and because I used AI once to put my feelings into words when he wasn’t listening. I feel like I’ve been clear and respectful, but he keeps guilt-tripping me and making me feel like I don’t care. So, AITA for not wanting to constantly call/text him and for telling him I don’t like being called that?