My wife (37f) told me (33f) a couple of weeks ago that her friend was going to be in town and that she'd like to have her over. No problem. I made it clear, as I typically do when she wants to hang out with her friends, that I would like to be left out of it unless it's a special occasion. Fast forward to this weekend, I have a pretty gnarly cold and have just been laying low at home all weekend. We hadn't talked again about her friend coming over again, but I guess I assumed she would make plans to see her outside of our house since I'm sick. Time rolls around to when she was going to go pick up her friend and bring her over and my wife is mad that I won't hang out with our 1 year old while she drives the 1hr 30 min round trip to pick her friend up and bring her back to our house. We argue and she eventually ends up taking our daughter with her. My wife then got mad that I was going to hide out in our bedroom or leave the house so she could have time with her friend and I didn't have to make face (I look and feel pretty miserable). She's pissed because it "makes her look bad that I'm not there", and that she figured I'd tend to our daughter and do the bedtime routine while she hangs out with her friend. She said that I must not want her to hang out with friends. Which I feel isn't fair because I made it very clear that I don't care if she hangs out with her friends, do what she wants, I just don't want to be involved. Her evening plans also includes going out to dinner, which she's also mad I don't want to attend. I have told her multiple times that I don't want to hang out with her friends if it's not a couple. I want her to have her friends that she can hang out with alone, but she doesn't seem interested in that. Also, although a cold isn't the end of the world and I could power through, I'm just not up for it. AITA for not wanting to entertain my wife's friend and/or daughter alone while I'm sick? Edit: I told my wife I am happy to take our daughter out of the house while she has her friend over, but she said the whole point of her friend coming over was to see our daughter. I am expected to chase our daughter around our house while my wife socializes with her friend. Albeit, running a fever, dizzy, snotty, headache. Which I'm happy to do outside of our house, but it feels like I need to be "on" and socializing, too, if I'm parenting our child at home in the same room as my wife and her friend.