UPDATE: The miscarriage happened over 8 months ago. I made the decision to stop cleaning after numerous discussions and pleading for her to seek counseling. I (36M), moved in with my (35F) girlfriend over a year ago. She was expecting our baby. I was taking care of her and doing most of the household chores as the pregnancy took a toll on her body. We planned the pregnancy and it didn't happen by mistake (hence the reason we decided to move in together). Unfortunately she had a miscarriage and we lost our child. During the time of her pregnancy she lost appetite for certain foods and I would cook for myself separately and cook for her or get her take away food she wanted (she craved ramen) so it was almost all she ate on a daily basis. She started getting back into some form of routine after the miscarriage, but not the same as before - we would go on extensive hiking adventures, be active, gym, etc. Her behavior also started to change and she recently only started cooking for herself and eating by herself with no regard for me. When she cooks, she still expects me to clean. After various discussions and pleading with her to go for counselling I decided I will stop cleaning up after her mess and only clean up after myself. She does not do any cleaning of the apartment - I do the cleaning, because I don't want to live in filth, but I won't clean up after her mess. AITA for deciding to not clean up after her?