i'm in high school and my friend Ben and I were invited to a party full of people we don't know besides 2 people. I guess you could call the environment of people "popular" but personally i don't like putting that label on people. This invitation was around 11 PM at night and i was on my way home when Ben told me to turn around and go with him to the party. I told him i had to go home and sleep because i had church in the morning and that he would have to go alone. Ben is *interesting* to say the least because I know he would talk about how he regrets not going to the party if he didn't go. So I started nudging him towards going to the party with my other friend Thomas who was in the car. Later when I got home Ben started getting cold feet about going and I admittedly was aggressive and took it to far when trying to convince him to go to the party. I didn't insult him I was just a bit too passionate about him going because I know he would regret it if he doesn't. Our whole 5 friend group wouldn't hear the end of it. The girls that invited him and I are nice and I tried telling Ben that he wouldn't be alone at the party. He still didn't want to go. Once it started getting too far Thomas who was in the car with me texted me all mad. He said that I was being too overboard with trying to convince Ben and that I shouldn't be too overboard because he gets super subconscious and was worried about all sorts of stuff. Ben was worried about was him getting noticed, not fitting in, being alone, etc. We took this to the group chat and Ben started clapping back, stating that no one in the friend group would go into the party if they were in the situation and called out me for being manipulative. Looking back I was being too aggressive about it. That night I went to dms to apologize and said he should just go home and not worry about it anymore since he was losing his mind over this situation. BTW he was outside the house that the party was being held at. Later the whole group chat blew up and everyone started getting heated. I started getting flamed alongside one of my other friends Mike who was also being too aggressive towards Ben. I apologized to everyone and we let the argument just sit. In the morning I woke up and found out in the group chat that Ben went to the party, got us all invitations to the next one, and was like "ur welcome i hate you all". He said he was just joking in the group chat but he hasn't spoken to me since that night and has left me on read. This is the part that I don't get. Ben wasn't pressured to go to the party (at least I didn't pressure him after apologizing and my other friend didn't either) and he still went anyways even after all 5 of us had an argument over him not going. I also don't get why Thomas was so mad even though he was also nudging Ben to go to the party.