My girlfriend and I haven’t been intimate for years, and our communication mostly goes in circles without resolution. She’s dismissive avoidant, I lean fearful avoidant at times, and I feel stuck waiting for change that never comes. What hurts most is that when we’re together, she’s always on her phone. It makes me feel bitter, like my presence isn’t valuable - like I’m on a shelf until she wants me. But she never actually does. Sometimes she’ll say she misses me when we’re apart, but when we’re together there’s no intimacy, no real attempts at connection, no deeper conversation, barely even small talk. When I try to bring up how lonely I feel, she usually dismisses me, and nothing changes. I just miss being with someone who actually values my presence. Right now, I feel invisible. So AITA for feeling resentful about my girlfriend’s behavior, or am I being unfair to her and should I keep holding onto hope?