Okay, that sounds horrible, I know. This is a throwaway account since I hate having personal info on my main(s). To preface this, I (16ftm) started living with my grandma (61f) at 11 because my parents are unfit to care (abusers, alcoholics, drug users). I learnt defensiveness, anger issues, and yelling from my mother in the time I lived with her. When I first moved in, these behaviours were clear, and I yelled for every little thing. I've gotten better, but I'm still horrible, and I'm still at fault for those times and the times I do so now. When I first moved in, I yelled at everything. I’ve improved, but I still slip up. The problem is, my grandma yells right back. I vividly remember her calling me a “b!tch” and “f*cking retard” when I was 14/15. I’m guilty too, I’ve called her a “b!tch” and an “@sshole.” We get into screaming matches and never talk them out. If I try apologising (then leave), or explaining, it just becomes another fight. She also ignores boundaries, even after I've talked or yelled at her to respect them. (I.e. barging into my room, commenting on my looks after I asked her not to, and saying I can’t be a boy because I wear “girls’ clothes.”) Also, at 13 I said I'm trans and now want to start T, but she refuses, says it has “long-term effects” that would “affect her” or “what if you regret it?” She insists she isn’t trans-/homo-phobic, but she's made comments. I chalk this up to her age. Don't get me wrong, I *do* love her. She provides food, clothes, and shelter, but I see that as the bare minimum for a child. She claims “[I] do nothing around the house” and she’s “the only one who cleans.” Despite the fact that I also cook daily (unless at work or busy with school), walk our dog 1-2km every day, clean the cats’ litter, the rabbits’ cage, and do whatever else she asks. Even when she goes on week-long vacations, I handle the entire house with a some help from my brother. Reminder: I still yell, get angry, and sometimes delay chores. I know I share fault, but I still dislike the things she does. With all of that, I’m planning to move out next year for post-secondary. She kept insisting on moving with me to “save costs,” even after I said I’d rather live with friends. She told me I’d “get sick of them,” and got upset at me for changing my career goals “too many times” (I switched it 3 times. I wanted to be a pilot at 12, a psychiatrist at 13, a carpenter at 14, and now a neurologist at 16.) It took my other older brother, who already goes to uni, sternly telling her it’s normal to change my mind since it's a big decision before she even *slightly* backed off. She insisted a few more times, before I finally told her “look, I love you, grandma. But we argue all the time and I don't like living with you because of it. I want to go on my own.” She didn't like that, and we're still in an argument because of it. I don't think I was being that unreasonable. AITA for saying I don't want to live with my grandma?