I (22F) feel like I’ve been carrying way more than I should for most of my life. My dad struggles with addiction, my siblings were displaced from their homes for a while, and I somehow ended up being the “stable one” even though I was just a kid too. Since then, I’ve basically taken on everything. I’ve helped raise one of my siblings, supported family through addiction and homelessness, and tried to create stability where there wasn’t any. And whenever things didn’t go perfectly, I’d somehow get blamed. All my life I begged Creator to give me stable parents who could actually be there for me and WANT to be there. That never happened. Instead, I guess I got strength and resilience, but honestly? Sometimes it just feels like too much. Right now, I’m literally a single 22-year-old woman on a student income taking care of my 16-year-old sister while going to university, paying for my own car, and keeping my own place together. I make enough money from my student allowance to cover rent, but I’m behind on bills and maxed out my credit trying to provide for my sister and myself. When I ask my family for help, the most my dad offers is to drive us places, and my grandma sometimes gives us food or supplies. But when I ask for what we actually need like help with bills or navigating social services, it goes nowhere. I don’t know the processes myself, and I need my sister under my legal guardianship so I can claim her for child/family benefits. Her mom and our dad are unreliable and even lost all her ID papers, which makes everything harder. The issue is, whenever I try to hold people accountable for their decisions or how their actions affect me and my sister, it turns into a problem. I get called disrespectful, and then they pull back whatever little help they did offer and tell me to “figure it out.” So AITA for saying that the “support” I get from family isn’t actually helping, and for asking for more?