So jumping right in.. I am about 13 weeks pregnant and this weekend my parents paid to have me go to a fancy ultrasound place where a bunch of people can come and watch the doctor find the gender. My parents planned and are paying for the whole thing. They even planned to do the event an hour away from them but right next to my fiances parents who live in a nice area with nice restaurants so they planned a small lunch after the appointment. My fiances parents, my parents and just my grandmother were invited. This wasnt supposed to be some big gender reveal and had my parents not done this for me I wouldn't have been doing a big reveal in general. Im not for the whole big gender reveal party thing. Well his sisters found out and were offened that we didnt invite them to something we didnt even plan. Then his parents were saying how they want everyone to be there. I dont want to do some big thing and have a whole party of 10+ which it turns into if we invite his siblings. I mean even my siblings arent coming. But his family and him seem to think I am the asshole and am being selfish because I dont want them there. I said I dont need everyone around me like im some spectacle for them during the ultrasound but i guess they could come to the dinner. I just didnt plan it so to ask for them to come feels rude. I mean my parents are paying for the entire thing, its not on me or his family to decide how is goes.. right? I said I had no issue with planning a dinner for his family and if his family wants to dictate how things go they are welcome to plan something but hes saying im trying to exclude his family. Idk aita here and being selfish for not wanting them there. Like am I wrong for thinking his family is acting extremely entitled? My fiance is 37, the oldest and the first to be getting married and have a kid so I understand how they are excited but they are not entitled to be there just because of that. Like they didnt plan the goddammit event and im the pregnant lady. Don't you get to be a bit "selfish" when youre the one growing the baby... idk what do yall think, aita or not?