I know the question sounds a bit dumb, but bear with me. Our wedding is happening next weekend, it's going to be a beach wedding, as in the ceremony will take place on the beach and the restaurant is an open restaurant on the beach, which can be closed in case of rain. Now I chose this venue firstly because I've always wanted a beach wedding and secondly because it's much more relaxed, obviously I wouldn't want people in flip-flops, I do expect them to use common sense and wear something appropriate for the event and comfortable, as in summer dresses, sandals etc. And I do NOT give a crap for the life of me if someone wears white. I know I am the bride, they know I am the bride, a colour doesn't change that. To the part where I might be the ahole, my mom found a white dress, which I actually showed her initially, she didn't want to buy it, but when she went and tried on a bunch of other dresses they didn't fit (she's short and has a big chest, so bigger dresses would drown her and smaller ones looked super cheap), but this one fit perfectly and in no way does it resemble a bride dress. She even called me before buying it to make sure I won't have a problem with it, I said no, so she got it. Then she told / showed my aunt this dress and my aunt pretty much threw a fit that it's inappropriate, that you don't do this and that, that she had a whole year to buy a different dress (mind you we as a family had a bit of a bumpy past year, so buying a stupid dress wasn't a priority). Now I don't care what my aunt says, and I told my mom as much, but no I worry others at the wedding will look weirdly at her and because of me not giving a shit I'll end up putting her in an unpleasant position and make her feel bad.