Hey, so this is my first ever reddit post so do excuse me if this is a bit badly formatted. But the title says it all. Bit of backstory first. Just started college about a week ago and was able to make friends with a bunch of people that were all together on an admitted students discord for the college. Now, I had started hanging out with them and things started off great. But as time progressed it felt more and more awkward whenever I tried to get involved in the conversation, but being my usual self I didn’t give it a second thought, until today of course. Today I was touring one of the people from the groups’ dorm, and noticed that they had a private discord chat open on their PC that had EVERYBODY in the group, except for me. I also recall seeing a message in the group that said “… Do I have to be friends with this guy?” (The … was in the message). I consulted my roommate and they suggested that I confront them about it. So I messaged the “leader” of the group stating that I had seen the message group and wanted to know what it was that they disliked about me that would persuade them to exclude me. They instead (from my perspective) got defensive and said that it was impolite to snoop and that it didn’t involve me. I cant help but feel like an over paranoid girlfriend going through her boyfriend’s phone. AITA?