I (18f) started college about a week ago one of my friends from childhood, Laura (18f) and I have been hanging out a lot we have a class in common and we were part of the same friend group. Our friends in common Kathy (18f) and Elliott (18m) along with myself have been very worried about Laura she has been in a long distance relationship with her boyfriend for about 7 months they weren't long distance until he went to college but she's been telling us about the relationship and it seems to be extremely toxic they have a bunch of rules for each other she has to update him about her whereabouts constantly and she's not allowed to be alone with her male friends. (I'm not even kidding he yelled at her once because her roommate left the room to go to the bathroom and her gay best friend was in the room) The other day we were discussing if we should do something about Laura while she wasn't present in her eyes this was shit talking. Mind you nothing that was said is not something I have not said to her face. I tell her constantly that the relationship seems toxic he seems manipulative and that she could do far better. But here's where the problem starts we were all eating lunch together and Laura insulted someone I care about admittedly I was upset and I told her that at least I knew that person wouldn't cheat on me because her boyfriend has. I apologized and I knew that that was unkind to say she got rightfully upset and walked away the problem is that the other three of us hung back for a minute to talk about what was going on I told Kathy that I thought Laura was being naive and that was about the end of the conversation not much more was said than that Laura needed to realize that the guy was being toxic and manipulative. A few hours later I got a text from Laura telling me she no longer wanted to be friends with me or the other two members of the group because we were toxic and assholes she said a bunch of other stuff I'm going to include some screenshots in case anyone wants to see them. Now here's where I get to the problem I'm starting to feel like maybe I had gone too far by saying anything at all and maybe I should have just let her realize for herself. However she has also gone extremely far in the things she has said to me after what has happened I understand that she's emotional but she has gone as far as to insinuate that I am mentally unstable. Tldr: am I the asshole for telling someone I care about that their relationship is toxic? Also in case anyone thinks I might be overreacting about the boyfriend some of the rules I remember hearing are: You can't be alone with any one of the opposite gender You can't talk to anyone of the opposite gender without telling your partner You have to update on your location constantly You can't be friends with any one of the opposite gender