I (24f) moved in with my friend John (fake name - 25m) a few months ago, and everything has been peaceful between us up until recently. Before moving in with him, I established that I prefer to have my space be clean, and I prefer to clean the kitchen daily. He agreed and established with me that he would like the same - a clean space. We also established that we would call each other out if we weren't honoring this. There have been instances where he called me out for minor things, like leaving empty cups on the coffee table for a couple days, or my groceries taking up too much space in the fridge; but no matter what it was that he called me out on, I always made sure to correct my behavior and never repeat my mistake again. I noticed he had a habit of leaving small coffee stains by the Keurig. I assume the stains come from the coffee splashing out of his mug and onto the white countertop. I've called him out on this before, but nothing really came out of the conversation. Recently, him and I went to get some drinks, and the topic of his coffee stains came up again. He accused me of crashing out on him, and he established that he will not clean the coffee stains up everytime it happens because a) he bought the paper towels in bulk from Costco, and he views using the paper towels for the coffee stains daily as a waste of money; b) he says he would rather clean the kitchen weekly, not daily, because it is more efficient that way; and c) it is a waste of energy because the coffee will always splash on the counter so cleaning the mess will be a repeated cycle. I tried to negotiate with him by offering to buy paper towels myself, but he shot it down because regardless, it's still a waste of money. I then offered to use kitchen rags (something I already own), but he shot that down because he views using rags as disgusting. I told him that the stains on the counter really bother me and I prefer for him to clean up after himself, but he once again shot it down because he prefers to just clean the stains up weekly. Eventually we settled on me being the one responsible to clean up the stains (despite the fact that I don't cause them), because I'm the only one bothered by it and I shouldn't place unrealistic expectations of cleanliness onto him. I've been pretty pissed off about this and I need to know - am I in the wrong for calling him out on this repeatedly, or is he in the wrong for being so stubborn? Help!