I (25F) have been best friends with Anna (27F) since high school. She’s one of the most hardworking and caring people I know. Over the last five years, she’s been married to Mark (30M), and honestly… it’s been painful to watch. When they first started dating, Mark seemed like a chill, funny guy. But over time, it became obvious that he’s incredibly lazy. He doesn’t cook, doesn’t clean, and spends most of his free time playing video games or scrolling on his phone. Meanwhile, Anna works a full-time job, manages their finances, does the grocery shopping, cooks, cleans, and basically runs their entire household. The biggest issue is that Anna has told me she feels exhausted and unsupported, but every time she brings it up to Mark, he brushes her off. He’ll say things like, “You’re just better at those things than me,” or “Why make a big deal about it, we’re fine.” He never makes real changes. It’s gotten worse lately because Anna has been struggling financially. Her hours were cut at work, and instead of stepping up, Mark has reduced his own hours because he “doesn’t like the stress.” He has no health issues, no major obligations he just doesn’t want to work more. Anna has been crying to me about being overwhelmed, worrying about bills, and even skipping outings because she can’t afford them. I finally snapped a couple of weeks ago. She came over to vent and was in tears, saying she feels like she’s “married to a child.” I told her straight up “You don’t deserve this, he’s dragging you down. If he won’t change, you should think about leaving him.”Anna got really quiet, and then said, “You don’t understand, I love him.” I told her love doesn’t pay bills or give her rest, and sometimes love isn’t enough if only one person is trying. She didn’t say much after that, but she’s been distant since. Yesterday, one of our mutual friends texted me saying Anna was hurt because I was “pushing her to divorce” instead of supporting her marriage. Now I feel conflicted. On one hand, I don’t want to abandon her, but on the other hand, watching her sacrifice everything while Mark does nothing makes me angry. I know it’s her choice at the end of the day, but am I the asshole for telling her she should leave him?