(Trying to write gender-neutral at the request of my soon to be spouse, who shall be named as P) I am getting married this coming winter. It is an overseas destination wedding with close ones only (50 people). Our wedding is planned in terms of date. P and I have not booked our flights yet but we need to travel a week before to the wedding destination, to finalize plans for the ceremony. Including travel times(~9 hours from where we live), we need at least a week of PTO. One of the guests attending is a good friend of mine (we’ll call this friend L). L is flying 17.5 hours (one way) to attend the wedding. L also recently came out of a 4 year relationship, so L is traveling oneself. Previously, P proposed to take a couple of days off after the wedding, so we can de-stress before getting back to work. Think it’s called a mini-moon? At that time, I thought it wouldn’t be feasible from my work perspective, so I told P I can only afford a week off and that’s not going to work. The mini-moon convo ended there. Recently, I spoke with my manager and learned I could take 2 weeks off. Because L will be traveling all the way to be at our wedding, L wants to make a trip after the wedding to go to a nearby country. And when I first learned the news from my manager, the first thought I had was to go on a trip with my friend L, whom I haven’t seen in nearly a year. From where P and I live & where L lives is the opposite end (13 hour time zone difference) so we can’t always meet. P thinks this is a bad start in a marriage, but we already live together, we’ll be spending the whole week leading upto the wedding ceremony albeit stressful, I don’t think it’s that bad that I take 3-4 days after the wedding to travel with L before I fly home. AITA?