I (26f) am having a dilemma. I am a bridesmaid for my friend’s (31F) wedding. My spouse is also a groomsmen. She is having her wedding on Halloween day. She initially told us it would be at 7pm. Which meant I didn’t have to worry about my child trick or treating as there would be time to do so before the ceremony. He is 4 years old. Now she has just informed me the wedding will start at 4:30pm as she wants to wear her dress longer. She also wants no children at her ceremony. I don’t know what to do. I stated I would try take my child trick or treating before the ceremony or perhaps slip out during the dinner or reception. She didn’t respond when I stated this and now her spouse wrote in the wedding party group chat that if anyone wants to drop out to do so now. I really don’t want to miss a Halloween with my child though and I’m unsure if it’s mean for me to slip out. Am I the asshole?