On Sunday night, I asked my mom to take out the trash on her way to her second job, as I needed to do the dishes and the trash was full. She agreed and that was that. For those of you wondering, we take turns doing chores, tho I mainly do dishes and she mainly does trash (she hates dishes, I hate trash). Yesterday (Monday), she didn’t take the trash down, and I barely managed to fit what I needed to in the trash. Now I can’t open it without gagging and almost throwing up (both from smell and sensory issues). I told her this, and I can’t really remember her response? She asked me to finish the rest of the dishes (unload what I already did and finish the last bit) and I agreed. Last night I wrote a note asking her to please take out the trash, and as a joke added “no trash, no dishes >:(“. Her response when I woke up was “I think you are forgetting yourself” with a little “that’s bullshit” at the end with an arrow pointing to my note. Normally when I leave her a note she either does a little response (depending on what it is) or she won’t respond at all (normally I’ll either see whatever I asked changed or done, idk if that makes sense?) This is not normal as a response, and made me feel like shit, or just in general pretty upset. I sent her a text asking “do u know what a joke is?” (I know I should’ve been better with that) and she responded with texting something along the lines of “not that early in the morning”. Which I get, certain jokes just aren’t funny really early in the day, but at the same time wtf was that response??? Idk if I’m overthinking/overreacting, or if I’m being valid for how I’m feeling about the whole situation. Like I understand (kinda) where she’s coming from, but at the same time I don’t feel like her response was okay. She could’ve ignored the note, sent me a text later explaining what the problem was (which I still don’t know if the time itself was the problem or if my joke was), or literally even just sm saying no?? But instead she took the time to write that. So I’m on here asking what to do/respond, as well as to figure out whether or not I’m in the wrong. Sorry it was so long