for context, in like early may i met a girl who i (AFAB 16) developed a crush on and later asked out. in June she was supposed to come over and stay the night for a sleepover. at this point, we were a little more than friends (i had already asked her out on a date that was going to happen the next week and i had already kissed her) but nothing inappropriate was going to happen. so this is what happened before the sleepover: it’s about midday and N (the girl) is going to come over around 6 i believe. i am asking my mom for help with something and my dad looks at my computer screen, it has a word document open with a heart on it about to print out. my dad makes an assumption that it’s for a girl (he is right in this case but he makes assumptions like this all the time and 99% of the time he is wrong, and it’s just annoying). my mom then tells my dad about the sleepover (they are divorced and he was at her house for my brothers grad party). he gets pissed. i try to talk to him and i say a few things but the only sentence he will say to me is: “me and your mom will discuss it later” i go upstairs. im in my room talking to my uncle when my mom and dad come up. they come to talk to me about the sleepover and to set rules. the rules being: 1. once everyone leaves the house (those for the grad party at least) me and N have to go downstairs to watch movies 2. when it’s time for bed, N has to sleep in the guest bedroom and not in my room that’s fine, it’s understandable. except for one small thing. i have bunk beds, so me and N wouldn’t even be sharing a bed. at this point, i had already felt like crap all day and mentally i just wasn’t ok at the time. so i flip out. i slam my phone and hands down on my desk, stand up, start hyperventilating and backing up against a wall. my mom starts trying to comfort me, but my dad is standing there point a finger at me and yelling at me. so, i tell him to “f*** off” and i tell him to stop. he walks away, my mom calms me down, i stay in my room for most of the day until N finally comes over. maybe half an hour after N arrives, my mom and dad make me go downstairs to talk to them. they are saying that N has to leave at 9:00 pm and can’t stay the night because of how i reacted. and i get upset again. i admit that what i did was wrong, it was and i saw that very quickly. however, i try to explain to my dad how he really hurt me by not caring how upset i was. i tried to tell him how i felt, how he makes me feel, and all he kept doing was shaking his head. i starting hyperventilating again, my dad lets me go back upstairs, and i receive a text saying N can stay the night while we were talking downstairs i told him how i didn’t want to live with him anymore and i didn’t really want to talk to him. theres a lot of context to my relationship with my dad and there’s more that happened after, but i want to know if i was fully in the wrong for what happened here.