Hi! I (F23) and my fiancée (NB25) have been together almost 3 years. We are currently long distance, and are both working decent jobs (Tech and Educator) In 2022, I was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and panic attacks. I spent months suffering these panic attacks that felt like hell. I am medicated, and did see a therapist for awhile. I've been doing very well, but occasionally I have an anxiety or panic attack. My partner has been aware since we met, and knows ALL about it. They don't understand how it feels, but they get the jist. Recently, I've had some financial shit happen at home, and I've become the sole provider for my parents (45+) and my partner knows this. Today, I had a really tough day and ended up having an anxiety attack. I called my father, who was out, but also texted my partner and said 'Hey, I am feeling really anxious. I'm on call with my dad, but I will call you in a few minutes, if that's okay?. They said 'ok, call me when you are ready', and less than 5 minutes later, I facetimed them. They responded and started being kind of nasty. They were saying that their phone was almost dead, and they were waiting on a response from a sale they wanted to make, and I should have called them as soon as they answered my text, when they were ACTUALLY available. They also got upset and blamed my call on them not finishing the video they had been watching. (they literally said I could call..?) Then they started saying 'JUST calm down, relax, where's the teddy bear I gave you' I was not in my bedroom, and I just wanted to talk out how I was feeling, which is something I have done before. These attacks don't happen often, so I am not constantly panicking and calling them. maybe 3-5 times a year, my meds are working well! In response, I yelled. I felt that I was being blamed and rushed through this feeling that I didn't even want, and it felt really disrespectful. I asked them what is wrong with them, and said that if they weren't available to talk, they should have communicated. Now they say I'm being an asshole. Am I the asshole?